I have been on this site for about a year and half now. I have seen people come and go....some of them are missed for their sense of humor.....others for their insights and kindness....some I don't miss because of their cruelty and negativity.
Those of us that remain have watched people became engaged, lose a child or a spouse or a friend to accidents and illness. We have laughed together and cried together...and we have fought together.
What has remained a steady beacon of light throughout these 18 months for me has been the friendships.
We seem to be fighting the war of negativity and cruelty to others again. And it is time to take a stand against it.....here where the memories and bonds are strong...just as we would in our own community.
I still believe silence is a powerful tool against negativty and cruelty.....don't fuel the fire....don't respond....don't argue.....the small person sitting behind a computer screen only feels empowered to continue.
If we figuratively turn our backs on them....there is no joy or power for them. Please consider my request......just food for thought on a cold January day in Ohio.
Remember the good ole days ....
when you knew someone had replied to a blog you wrote or anyone wrote because it moved to the top. Guess there's some reason they want us to search or remember how many replies there are on every blog.
Remember the good ole days when you didn't need a "thumb's up" to tell you that a blog was "hot"...you knew because it was always at the top.
Remember the good ole days when the blogs were just blogs and not a "Who's Who" of PREMIUM MEMBERS.
Gee....I miss the good ole days!
What was the best Christams gift you ever gave to someone you love?
I will share mine. It was the first Christmas for my late husband and I together. We opened our gifts on Christmas Eve. Enjoying that first experience together.
I had kept a secret especially for that night. After the gift giving and some wonderful food and kisses. I gave him the most precious gift of all. I was able to tell him that I was pregnant with our first child. It was one of the very few times I ever saw him cry.
Can you share a special gift with all of us?
Since we are closing in on the end of another year, I thought I would share part of my reflections from the past year and what I have learned.
It has been a year of great love, great loss, pain, joy, discovery and growth for me........and through it all I always came back to the wonderful people on the blogs for comfort, joy, laughter and love. I realize now that you have become a part of my family.....separated by many miles though we are. I have touched your lives and you have touched mine.
I left BK after finding what I had hoped was the last love of my life.....came back after that happy ending vanished........left again to find that honest, loving man...the one who would love me for me despite the life lines on my face.
I didn't find him.....and I realize now that I am still standing....still productive....still happy ....and still fulfilled and talented and loved by many. I met my soul sister who was there to make me laugh, to cry with me and offer her best advice (Thanks Teach).
I believe now that I can be happy and look back on my life when I am 90 and NOT in my rocking chair (I'll still be a rockin' though) and be satisfied with what life has given to me.......one great love in my life, wonderful children and grandchildren, many talents to share, a quick wit and a kind heart.
I am at peace with my life...probably for the first time in many years.......2008 is a new beginning.....and I am looking forward to it.
What are your reflections of the past year and what have you learned....and are you at peace........I hope so.
I have not written or been around much. I truly have tried to leave the world of BK behind for several reasons. I seemed to have become a target for players and snakeoil salesmen, I fell in love on this site and had my heart broken on this site.....and the turn of the blogs from fun, friendly escape to vicious,rumor mongering made me sad and uncomfortable........so I made the decision to leave. My friends that I have made here...are that...my friends and we are in contact and see each other. They are the positives that I have packed in my bags and taken on my journey with me.
But I still check in to read the blogs and see if the fun of the old days has returned.....sadly, for the most part...they haven't.
I guess I will speak my piece and then quietly disappear again.....what is happening here is very sad, depressing and discouraging...we are all adults and need to begin acting like adults. Yes...I am a Pollyanna. I truly believe that disagreements can be handled quietly, calmly and resolved peacefully....and PRIVATELY. The blogs have become a place to air grievances with others, to use profanity and defame others character....PUBLICLY....which allows a feeding frenzy for others to get involved. The more people that get involved...the more unlikely things will get resolved.
We all came to BK for a reason...the love of riding, the love of writing, to meet fellow riders,to help fill the loneliness..... to find the love of our lives......we all carry scars and baggage with us.....but, we are all basically good people. We are all human beings with hopes and dreams and losses and regrets...
we need to start treating each other with love and respect.....and sometimes the best way to handle a bad situation...is to just shut up and not say anything....we are not children....negative attention is NOT better than none.....
I hate the fact that friends are attacking friends.....some are hiding behind false profiles to take nasty potshots at others and profanity flies like water and hurtful, hateful words are used on others.
I am sure that some of you will call me a Pollyanna or unrealistic or crazy...so be it ...it is your right to think of me what you will.....but I have been able to get my points and thoughts across on a variety of subjects without ever attacking some one....and so can you.
Life is precious....watching someone you love slowly die teaches you that....don't waste what precious time you have on anger and hatred....life is about living and loving......
Peace to you all....Merry Christmas......and I wish for all of you your hearts desire.
Several of the "mature" ladies of BK and I have been talking about the lack of male companion possibilities on BK and other sites. We have also decided that we are tired of the age preferences which lean heavily to the younger woman, emails to us and when we respond...nothing, the winks and nothing...and being added to someone's favorites and they never contact us.
Sooooooo, I have decided to start BK Boy Toys for Hire.....escorts for the "mature" ladies to dinner, the movies, the theater, parties, weddings and rides. The ladies will pick up the tab, of course.
All applicants must be between the ages of 25 and 65...(WE are equal opportunity employers) and intelligent, witty and know how to behave and dress for any social settings.
Ladies, you may add the special qualifications you are looking for...just keep it sort of clean...lol!
If you are interested , please Contact: Redsunset c/o this blog.....lol!
Teach sent me a motivational quote today:
"Other people's opinion of you does not have to become your reality".
Got me to thinking....how much stock do you place in other's opinions of you...do you let it affect decisions you are making in your life?
Can a comment from someone wound you or keep you off-balance? Does that person's opinion mean more than your own?
Ok guys and gals...I am officially opening BKBay...the biker shopping network.....
old items for sale?......old partners for sale?...then bring them to me and we will see what price we can get for them.....and if you have a picture...even better!
All proceeds will benefit the Home for Brokendown Bikers.
What or who will be the first item up for bid....lol!
I have made a decision today.....I will no longer respond to negative, inflammatory blogs. Yes...I am that Life Clown, that Pollyana and dang proud of it...lol!
I will focus on the positive, the funny and clever , the poignant and heartfelt only.
I am tired of the negative blogs getting the majority of the responses....so I will not respond any longer.
Anyone care to join me in my pledge?
Just curious about something....when you make decisions whether about life or love.....do you listen to your heart or your head?......
and guys , if you are answering, I guess you will need to tell us WHICH head...lol!
Well, I guess it should be titled Dear Sunset, but hopefully it got your attention.
Got a problem? Got a question? Got a dilemma? Got a feud going?
Bring it here....and we will work on it together....not on the other blogs...
The phone lines are now open.
A line that Teach wrote in Life Interrupted got me to thinking about friends...why my friends are my friends....what ingredients we give each other to create the wonderful recipe of friendship.
Who are your best friends and why and what do they bring to the table to complete the meal?
Everyone talks about the seasons of a life.....
Never really though about it..till now.
And I realize that it is true.
We all watch the changing seasons of our lives.
Spring is childhood.
Fresh, green , new.
Full of possibilities...pushing our lives up through the soil...
testing our roots and unfolding our leaves....
Learning, growth, discovery.
Summer is our youth.
Hot, warm,red and yellow.
Long warm golden days of play.
Experimenting with life and love...
and the direction of who we are.
the changing of the leaves...the coolness in the air.
Our middle years. A time of peace and contentment.
Quiet times of reflection and satisfaction
with who we are and where our lives have led us.
I am now in the winter of my life.
Cold,white,silent. Emptiness and desolation.
I had hoped that I would have your warmth
to guide me through this season....
But I see now that I must go
through this final change alone.
Is there no one to keep me warm?
To kindle a fire in my heart and soul
Against the winter chill?
Only time will tell
Whether I must wrap myself in the embers
of my solitary memories
or find someone to light a fire
to warm my old soul.
Will I find that 5th season.....
rekindling the warmth of summer
and the contentment of Autumn?
We will see what this year brings........
In response to a comment made on the Life Clowns blog I spoke about why I was single. My husband of 34 years died of cancer 3 1/2 years ago. I still miss him everyday.
He truly taught me to believe that marriage can be about partnership, respect, communication and love. He was so secure in who he was and who we were, that he encouraged me to spread my wings and get involved in things I was interested in...like politics and the theater.
I know that I will miss him everyday....sometimes I turn around to say something to him or listen for his footsteps at the back door when he would come home after work.
Who is gone from your life that you still miss ...and why were they so important to you?
Take a moment to honor that person and share your story.
Ok...this is for the guys...hope they will respond honestly.
Teach's blog got me to thinking...always dangerous..lol! There are some absolutely wonderful, lovely, intelligent ,mature ladies who are on this site quite frequently......
sometimes they make us laugh, cry and think.....we are all different sizes,shapes and ages....
but one of the things that ties many of us together is that we do not have a partner.
So guys...what is it...our age? Our size? Our shapes? Are we intimidating?
What makes you steer clear of us...the dreaded Mature Ladies .....inquiring minds want to know.
Well Ladies....guess the guys have decided to keep us in the dark.....any theories ladies?
Sometimes it seems to me that we get so bogged down in the daily chores of life that we don't have time to experience life....reach our goals, find peace, happiness and love.....life gets put on hold
Or is the everyday routine, responsibilities and commitments what life is all about? Or is that our excuse for not going after what we feel we need to be happy?
You all know that song.....let me pose some questions to you.
If life is a highway...what route are you taking? Did you get lost? Run into detours? Hit some bumps along the way? Have any major accidents? Did you learn something interesting along the way?
And what would you like your final destination to be?
Ok,Ok...before everyone gets their thongs in a twist....take a deep breath and just read...lol!
One statement in a recent inflammatory blog stuck in my mind...first it made me angry and then I thought.."hey,why not! Let's take this negative and turn it into a positive".
One thing I have learned in my "advanced years" is that there are people so scarred and warped by life, so lacking in self esteem, so lonely or just plain downright mean...they will do ANYHING for attention....just like a child. Negative attention is better than none.....many times if you ignore the behavior, they will stop. Now ,of course if it is life-threatening you have to act...but words on a blogging site are not life threatening...they just make us angry which , of course is the intent.
I propose we ignore the negative....take the attention away....might stop some of the behavior....if it really makes you so angry you can't stand it....call a friend, email a friend, holler out the window, slam a door..........or tell a joke.
If we do not respond to a negative , nasty, inflammatory blog.....there is no audience...takes the fun away.
So I am proposing we band together and form the LIFE CLOWNS.....we see a nasty blog....band together and ignore it or share something positive about anything or tell a joke.
I have crowned myself Daisybell, head Life Clown...it was my idea..lol! Anyone care to join my merry little band of clowns?....classes start Monday morning at 10 am....or whenever we get around to it after coffee and homemade cookies and catching up on all the latest gossip and sharing pictures and telling stories and.......
Ok guys and gals.....brown paper package brought out a very important point....action in your relationships.....how do you show the lady of your life or the man in your life that you care......
give us your best scenario....AND it can't involve having !!!