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Posted on Fri, May 12, 2006 13:39

Just got out of a relationship that had no where to grow. I was lead to believe that the person I was seeing wanted to have a serious relationship and then found out she was just trying to get her ex jealous so he would take her back. And then people want to know why I have a trust issue. But I have learned a lesson here just need to figure it out. Now she wants to be just friends maybe in time it will happen but not anytime soon.



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Posted on Wed, May 31, 2006 07:50

pawitchywoman write:
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I used to be shocked/hurt when someone lied to me....now I am more surprised when someone tells me the truth.

When I am around someone and I hear them lying to others...just tells me not to believe as word they say to me either.

Most people can't handle the truth anymore b/c they never get it. They are too used to be told what they want to hear or what makes the other person look better or the 'convenient' explanation. Makes me wanna puke. That's why when they get told the 'truth' they can't handle it or they thing the other person is 'nuts, rude, insensitive, etc.
Peeps need to get in the mindset of honesty....just tell the truth...then we would all get used to dealing with it.


OMG Char this is sooooo true unfortunately. Everything in this world is sugar coated anymore. I despise lying more than anything. As a psychic/medium it sucks to be able to "hear" a person's true thoughts when their mouth is spouting bullchit lies.

Hey... I was tellin the truth!! Get outta my head Christina thats not fair!! Ha ha ha



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Posted on Wed, May 31, 2006 05:26

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I am currently in the land of I don't know. Wish I did not have a forgiving heart but I do. We have to decided to slow down and see what will happen. I know I should run as far away as I can but I have strong feelings for her so I will see how it goes. So for right now I do a lot of solo rides with hopes. I would like to thank everyones opinions on this and I will try to keep you up dated.

Ike..
From my own experience I will tell you, if you have strong feelings for her fight for it!!! Like everyone else, I was scared, wanted to run because I could see soo many obstacles. But, my heart spoke loud about Guy and would not let me do the usual. So I stayed and fought for 3 years!! Tjought it would kill me at times. But now?? The battle is over and I found victory like nothing I have ever experienced in this life! It was more than worth it... it is ALL I have dreamed of since I was a little girl!!

If you have strong feelings for her, its your soul seeking hers!! Follow its lead and allow fate to direct your path not your intellect.

Don't miss the DANCE..........

  


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Posted on Tue, May 30, 2006 11:38

Hi, sorry you had a bad relationship, I'm the type of person who never lies, I know it's hard to believe, but it's just me. Some guys are like that too...not telling the truth, it's hard to find someone who is honest. Good Luck!



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Posted on Tue, May 30, 2006 10:55

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I used to be shocked/hurt when someone lied to me....now I am more surprised when someone tells me the truth.

When I am around someone and I hear them lying to others...just tells me not to believe as word they say to me either.

Most people can't handle the truth anymore b/c they never get it. They are too used to be told what they want to hear or what makes the other person look better or the 'convenient' explanation. Makes me wanna puke. That's why when they get told the 'truth' they can't handle it or they thing the other person is 'nuts, rude, insensitive, etc.
Peeps need to get in the mindset of honesty....just tell the truth...then we would all get used to dealing with it.


OMG Char this is sooooo true unfortunately. Everything in this world is sugar coated anymore. I despise lying more than anything. As a psychic/medium it sucks to be able to "hear" a person's true thoughts when their mouth is spouting bullchit lies.

  


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Posted on Tue, May 30, 2006 08:54

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I am currently in the land of I don't know. Wish I did not have a forgiving heart but I do. We have to decided to slow down and see what will happen. I know I should run as far away as I can but I have strong feelings for her so I will see how it goes. So for right now I do a lot of solo rides with hopes. I would like to thank everyones opinions on this and I will try to keep you up dated.

Ike..
From my own experience I will tell you, if you have strong feelings for her fight for it!!! Like everyone else, I was scared, wanted to run because I could see soo many obstacles. But, my heart spoke loud about Guy and would not let me do the usual. So I stayed and fought for 3 years!! Tjought it would kill me at times. But now?? The battle is over and I found victory like nothing I have ever experienced in this life! It was more than worth it... it is ALL I have dreamed of since I was a little girl!!

If you have strong feelings for her, its your soul seeking hers!! Follow its lead and allow fate to direct your path not your intellect.

Don't miss the DANCE..........



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Posted on Tue, May 30, 2006 07:59

IKE2005 write:
I am currently in the land of I don't know. Wish I did not have a forgiving heart but I do. We have to decided to slow down and see what will happen. I know I should run as far away as I can but I have strong feelings for her so I will see how it goes. So for right now I do a lot of solo rides with hopes. I would like to thank everyones opinions on this and I will try to keep you up dated.


Run, Mutha F'ker, Run!

~Slim



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Posted on Mon, May 29, 2006 18:35

I am currently in the land of I don't know. Wish I did not have a forgiving heart but I do. We have to decided to slow down and see what will happen. I know I should run as far away as I can but I have strong feelings for her so I will see how it goes. So for right now I do a lot of solo rides with hopes. I would like to thank everyones opinions on this and I will try to keep you up dated.



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Posted on Tue, May 23, 2006 18:27

Nodey write:
thunderunderme write:
I used to be shocked/hurt when someone lied to me....now I am more surprised when someone tells me the truth.

When I am around someone and I hear them lying to others...just tells me not to believe as word they say to me either.

Most people can't handle the truth anymore b/c they never get it. They are too used to be told what they want to hear or what makes the other person look better or the 'convenient' explanation. Makes me wanna puke. That's why when they get told the 'truth' they can't handle it or they thing the other person is 'nuts, rude, insensitive, etc.
Peeps need to get in the mindset of honesty....just tell the truth...then we would all get used to dealing with it.


Amen Char. That's why I was blunt wiht HDBG in the other thread. Not to piss her off(which it seems I did),but to offer her some insight. She took it and was once again disrespectful.

Sometimes the truth hurts when you're not used to getting it,but you can do one of two things with it. Either use it to better yourself,or take it as a reason to continue the disrespect.

I had no objections to her opinions. Everyone has them. But to pass judgement on others for their mistakes is totally out-of-line.I'm not here to make enemies or kiss azzes. But sometimes things need to be pointed out.If I offended you HDBG,not my intention,but I won't let it keep me up at night either.Hopefully you'll allow yourself to get to know the folks here,and learn a lesson or two. None of us is too educated or too experienced in life to learn something new.


And to the ones who think it's a case of jealousy obviously have no idea about the people on this site.


Peace to you all.

  


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Posted on Mon, May 22, 2006 10:55

thunderunderme write:
I used to be shocked/hurt when someone lied to me....now I am more surprised when someone tells me the truth.

When I am around someone and I hear them lying to others...just tells me not to believe as word they say to me either.

Most people can't handle the truth anymore b/c they never get it. They are too used to be told what they want to hear or what makes the other person look better or the 'convenient' explanation. Makes me wanna puke. That's why when they get told the 'truth' they can't handle it or they thing the other person is 'nuts, rude, insensitive, etc.
Peeps need to get in the mindset of honesty....just tell the truth...then we would all get used to dealing with it.


Amen Char. That's why I was blunt wiht HDBG in the other thread. Not to piss her off(which it seems I did),but to offer her some insight. She took it and was once again disrespectful.

Sometimes the truth hurts when you're not used to getting it,but you can do one of two things with it. Either use it to better yourself,or take it as a reason to continue the disrespect.

I had no objections to her opinions. Everyone has them. But to pass judgement on others for their mistakes is totally out-of-line.I'm not here to make enemies or kiss azzes. But sometimes things need to be pointed out.If I offended you HDBG,not my intention,but I won't let it keep me up at night either.Hopefully you'll allow yourself to get to know the folks here,and learn a lesson or two. None of us is too educated or too experienced in life to learn something new.


And to the ones who think it's a case of jealousy obviously have no idea about the people on this site.


Peace to you all.



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Posted on Mon, May 22, 2006 06:02

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Baby Girl...You are taking a beating here..it makes me a little cautious to post...I was just lurking in the forum about Tats and I'm afraid their about to tar and feather you and run you out of town...I don't have long term(as growing up in the life) experience, but maybe I've just been lucky up here in MA, but my experience has been that MOST bikers are very live and let live and try to help each other out...You seem to have pi$$ed off some folks and I sense some hostility here! Lots if people got lots of attitude...no one owns the site and it makes the community look like a$$holes for all this bitching to be happening..and I'm sure the guys are lovin' it..nothin' better than a cat fight. PeacePeople/Serenity

Hey Serenity, sshe can handle it, probably even likes it!! Don't worry we only spar with REAL competitors. We don't pick on serene peeps.



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Posted on Mon, May 22, 2006 06:00

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OMG ppl have sense of humor, of course dirtybiker4ever I would love to be your friend, I like a person who can dish it out as much as me..as far as the "doh" comment went, it was not about honesty, I was simply reading the threads on this and some of the nightmare stories on here..geez I am sorry again for offending anyone on here for like the hundreth time, but have to admit it is a little fun getting everyone all ralled up, nothing like an HDBABYGIRL beat down! Stay gold everyone, and if I don't here from ya have a killer weekend!

Kewl!! I knew you would be around a while!! Just a note though, it'll take a while for everyone to learn your personality and since you have a brash and sarcastic wit (much like mine) you may have a few run ins from time to time! Hang in there and never be slow to explain yerself or apologize for offending and before you know it, you'll be as addicted to these wonderful people as I am!!

  


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Posted on Sun, May 21, 2006 08:31

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Slim..I had forgotten that verse...very well said....Many people think they lie "to protect other people's feelings"....and that works for "Baby, do these jeans make my a$$ look fat?" But what we're talking here is self serving lying for personal gain....never okay in my book. Again, it's the lies we tell ourself that hurt everyone the most. You live, you learn..you don't shut down, shut up or give up...just try to listen to that inner voice. Peace/Serenity

Woman: "Honey, do these jeans make my a$$ look fat?"

Man: "No, but your big a$$ makes you look fat."

An example of a very honest man. And what will be a very horny man before she forgives that bit of honesty and gives up the poodie-poo again. lmao!

~Slim



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Posted on Fri, May 19, 2006 22:26

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doh!

It's like the sayin' 'if I have to explain it to ya you won't understand anyway'.

Thanks DB4E for yer friendship. And yes, I do remember.

Hey hdBG what's up? Wanna be honest?

You make it easy sweet thang!!

  


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Posted on Fri, May 19, 2006 11:21

Me too Slim...me too!!!!

I'd rather be hated for who I am
Than to be loved for who I am not

  


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Posted on Fri, May 19, 2006 10:00

OMG ppl have sense of humor, of course dirtybiker4ever I would love to be your friend, I like a person who can dish it out as much as me..as far as the "doh" comment went, it was not about honesty, I was simply reading the threads on this and some of the nightmare stories on here..geez I am sorry again for offending anyone on here for like the hundreth time, but have to admit it is a little fun getting everyone all ralled up, nothing like an HDBABYGIRL beat down! Stay gold everyone, and if I don't here from ya have a killer weekend!



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Posted on Thu, May 18, 2006 15:23

hdbabygirl73 write:
doh!

It's like the sayin' 'if I have to explain it to ya you won't understand anyway'.

Thanks DB4E for yer friendship. And yes, I do remember.

Hey hdBG what's up? Wanna be honest?

  


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Posted on Thu, May 18, 2006 07:52

I have always been one to speak my mind, stand up for what I believe in, and be honest about it. It has gotten me in trouble all my life even as a kid. Other peep's descriptions of me run the gamut from a nice 'opinionated' to a mild "outspoken", and the most common "fk'n a$$hole". I've been told I have a problem with authority figures. Granted, I could use more tact most times but I never leave any doubts by trying to be politically correct.

My direct style tends to offend some people and that really doesn't bother me. The people who accept me as their friends truly accept me as I am. They understand that people can have different opinions about a subject and still be the best of friends. In other words, they don't expect the whole world to think and act exactly like they do.

Being open and honest is a sign of being secure in who you are. Dishonest/liars are weak and insecure and feel they need to lie to "be somebody" or to be accepted. I don't try to be someone I am not just to fit in with the group.

The words from a VanZant song have become my matra;

I'd rather be hated for who I am
Than to be loved for who I am not

~Slim



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Posted on Thu, May 18, 2006 01:26

thunderunderme write:
hdbabygirl73 write:
doh!

Guess you just don't get the truth hon...
somebody explain it to her will ya?


Somethins up with this one Char, I get the feelin she is going through something rough right now.. Needs an outlet to vent some of her anger maybe, hey and thats cool too, I can relate, remember?? lol

I like her spunk though. This thread is about honesty Babygirl so how about you be honest about yerself and who u are instead of speaking of things you have no knowledge of.. especially when you are ridiculing others??? You need a friend?? Im offering you one, "myself!"

I know yer rollin yer eyes right now but if you stick around here you'll wind up likin us, I promise!!

BTW, Char has more wisdom than almost any woman on here, if you are rufflin her feathers?? You definately need an attitude adjustment.

Come here let me give ya a nugy!!

  


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Posted on Wed, May 17, 2006 20:29

smile2005 write:
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Peeps need to get in the mindset of honesty....just tell the truth...then we would all get used to dealing with it.

Thank you Char...Man gf...I can't wait to finally have the honor of meeting you in person...

Thank you...hope it's in Sept fer shur if not before..

  


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