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Posted on Tue, Mar 28, 2006 13:14

Ok i have begged my wife of 2 years to take to the road with me on my Harley(my true love)..She just refuses and doesnt understand the pull.yea I know i was stupid to marry someone that doesnt have the urge,but i did and now look at me!! What about a friend female riding partner.??There is just nothing like sharing a day or week with someone who enjoys riding ,camping and all the fun things that come along with biking.I am going crazy ..need advice!!I just dont want to give up that craving and love of sharing the road and the good times that go along with it..!!



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Posted on Thu, Mar 30, 2006 19:33

xRGRULERx write:
Oh, ok. Was not aware of that man. I am sorry. :(

I was thinking today about the posts I made on this thread. I still don't see anything wrong with riding with woman if they are not on the same bike and your not traveling with them. It would be the same as riding with a guy. At least to me it would be.

I will however say I was wrong with the way I presented my views on this subject. For that, I am sorry.


SeminoleSlim:
that was my point exactly - don't make assumptions and judgements about people and things you have no knowledge of.

just be careful about jumping too quickly to conclusions and you be ok on here.

apology accepted.



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Posted on Thu, Mar 30, 2006 07:43

Some people are in situations due to cirsumstances beyond their control. And you shouldn't make assumptions about things you know nothing about - or worse - make judgements based off those unfounded assumptions.

But, since you feel you must know, my wife died.



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Posted on Thu, Mar 30, 2006 05:17

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I am married also. But I am looking for men, woman, couples, or groups. Don't really matter to me.

I understand about his wife not wanting to ride. I have the same problem. And it does when your attached to someone who don't like to ride or like motorcycles. But other then that I am happy with my wife. No one on this site could compare. :)

Also, just so all know, my wife knows I am registered here. We have been together for over 10 years. We trust each other and are honest to one another.

Now, as for asking guys, the only problem is when you start sending messages to guys on this site they think your gay or something.

I probably picked the wrong site to look for riding partners and such. Friends also, since it seems hard to make any here. I wish there was a website geared for just that. But I can't seem to find one.

There is another site I have been posting on. Perhaps I will find riding partners their. I just don't think this site is designed and geared for what I am looking for. But I will hang out till my subscription is over.


this site is a great one for friends---there are alot that are now couples and/or are openly married---the forums are the best place to get to know those in your area--also we have get togethers--yes some are looking--some came here looking and others are happy with self and if we find what you have we will cherish(sp) it

peace--and ride safe



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Posted on Wed, Mar 29, 2006 17:43

xRGRULERx write:
SeminoleSlim write:
we all make decisions in life that we wish were different. however, you DID make a vow (several) to your wife when you got married. those vows should come before anything else you do. you are only as good as your word. my advice, find something she really likes and join her in it and ask for nothing in return. give it some time. then just ask her to give the road a try with you. in other words, you have to give something to get something... and sometimes you may not get it then.

marriage is a compromise and you can't be selfish about it. stay away from the other women! ride with the guys and put the marriage FIRST.

hope it works out for you... that's my fiddy cents.


Selfish? No. I let her do things she wants to do with no word about it. I don't question anything she does. Reason? Because we have been together a long time. She has respect from me.

If you truly were the person as you type your words to be you would not be single. So please don't try to act so nice. Will not work with me. :)

Maybe I am the one that should be giving advice here. I am not single and not looking for anyone. And I am married.

But hey, I suppose people are single for a reason.

It's all good though. A good refresher where I used to be 11 years ago.

And I am not going to listen to advice on relationships from someone that is single. Sorry, that is like taking financial advice from a homeless person. Makes absolutely no sense.


if this is an example of your attitude, no wonder she doesn't want to ride with you on your bike. she probably doesn't care too much about a car trip either.

you have no idea why i am single so your comments clearly show, even more, why you ride alone... good luck. you're gonna need it.



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Posted on Wed, Mar 29, 2006 07:34

One Question have you talked to your wife about riding with another woman? If she is cool with you leaving her home while you have another woman with you she is very loving and trusting. I wish you the best for what ever happens and remember a man is only as good as his word.



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Posted on Wed, Mar 29, 2006 06:13

Heretic write:
sounds like a good excuse to build a clean looking solo chopper


there ya go! i agree with Heretic!



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Posted on Wed, Mar 29, 2006 05:51

we all make decisions in life that we wish were different. however, you DID make a vow (several) to your wife when you got married. those vows should come before anything else you do. you are only as good as your word. my advice, find something she really likes and join her in it and ask for nothing in return. give it some time. then just ask her to give the road a try with you. in other words, you have to give something to get something... and sometimes you may not get it then.

marriage is a compromise and you can't be selfish about it. stay away from the other women! ride with the guys and put the marriage FIRST.

hope it works out for you... that's my fiddy cents.



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Posted on Wed, Mar 29, 2006 02:58

Hey Bro
tough situation but I think the ladies have it right unless your'e looking for a divorce then steer away from the female riding partner even if your wife says it's ok with her , trust me it's not never will be I don't care what she says better yet give her a gift enroll her in a riding class let her get the fever that way just another thought, Good luck hope it all works out.



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Posted on Wed, Mar 29, 2006 00:08

Hooch is right - you are married. Go with the guys - forget about females unless you are looking for a divorce. Jealousy will be prevelant.

If you get a solo seat & ride with the guys... what is she gonna be doing? What are her hobbies? Gone too long, hers will take over & you will lose.

Here's my advice... try little spins & twists. (Hide some champagne, chocolate mousse or something special for when you get home.) Call her & tell her to put on some jeans or whatever your weather calls for. Come home with a rose. Tell her she is in for a special night. Dinner not too far (fancy & remember to make reservations!) Tell her she has to go on the bike for the ultimate evening. After dinner, ride to your local H-D store & tell her she needs to pick out a shirt or something to make it special. Then ride her home & bring out whatever you have stashed & then moustache it for all you are worth & ride her too. They key is to pleasing her while introducing her to riding.

If that doesn't work, call me & we can discuss riding with other females. ROFLMAO Right, Hooch?



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Posted on Tue, Mar 28, 2006 18:40

sounds like a good excuse to build a clean looking solo chopper



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Posted on Tue, Mar 28, 2006 08:53

Sounds like a bad situation here, but since you ARE married, how bout looking for some MALE riding buddies???? That is, unless you're looking to get divorced....



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