My 2 cents, If you feel good and are happy with this man except when he is with his brothers then tell him it bothers you when you are alone. But do it in a way that it does not come across to him as bit ching or nagging or trying to change him. Most will not admit this but speaking from experiance it is male pride and ego. In the brother seeting most of us must have that feeling of being in charge and in control, it's nothing personal and not meant bad at all just a male thing. Just dont keep it in, discuss how you feel about this with him and when he realizes how special you will make him feel when he makes you feel like #1 in public it all gets better.
Or, you will leave because the challenge is gone, one of the two.
peaches13 write: Why is it that some men feel the need to be two different people, one person alone with you and a different person around the brothers? I just don't understand it.
Maybe when he is with you he is comfortable and can feel free to express his true self; but then when he is with his bros he has to "front" so he can be accepted as one of the group. Thats how it was with my ex anyway. Of course if he is lying. . . well that is punishable by witchcraft.
Hey.........I'm that way..so go easy...The simple way to answer this is my relationships with my buddies is not the same as with women. I hope that does not change. With my very good friends, m&w, a lot is the same. In the old days with my "Bros", I will admit we were miles a part and we will leave it at that.
Personally I am a little disappointed by the guys who lead you to believe they are available, woo you hot and heavy, and then you find out there is a woman in their life or they go back to the last one cause they weren't really over them. I know women do this too but how about being emotionally and physically independent of a mate before contacting and wooing others. Dang what does it take to find a good man! lol
some are not even aware that they are doing that. Just different sides of their personalities that they show to different people. I kinda do that with my Unc. We laugh and joke, using language I'd never use in mixed company.