Expectations vsAcceptance #1_ 2B a healthy Survivor Relationship

  • View author's info posted on Dec 14, 2005 07:10


    sweetpeasoup write:
    stillme67 write:

    sweetpeasoup write:

    stillme67 write:

    sweetpeasoup write:
    Stillme, you are wise beyond your years..I have to tell ya u are impressing me round here!!



    shhh... you'll give me a big head



    Im not touching this one girls!! LMAO



    chicken... bock bock


    Actually Still I am insulted that I have not already had that effect on you!!

    LOL...how was that one??


    oh i didn't say you didn't already have that effect on me... i was just trying to keep it from getting worse :-)

    you're a nut!
  • View author's info posted on Dec 13, 2005 21:59


    KinMonmouth write:
    We should all have expectations..but not so many that we overlook the gifts in front of us. (me)

    Acceptance is the road to peace
    letting go of the worst
    holding on to the best
    and finding hope inside
    that continues throughout life
    acceptance is
    the hearts best defense
    loves greatest asset
    and the easiest way
    to keep believing
    in yourself and others
    acceptance
    does not mean you will always be perfect
    it simply means
    you will try to overcome perfection

    ~unknown~


    I agree I think its the only way to survive without being a fruitcake too!!
  • View author's info posted on Dec 13, 2005 18:56


    stillme67 write:

    sweetpeasoup write:

    stillme67 write:

    sweetpeasoup write:
    Stillme, you are wise beyond your years..I have to tell ya u are impressing me round here!!



    shhh... you'll give me a big head



    Im not touching this one girls!! LMAO



    chicken... bock bock


    Actually Still I am insulted that I have not already had that effect on you!!

    LOL...how was that one??
  • View author's info posted on Dec 13, 2005 17:02


    sweetpeasoup write:

    stillme67 write:

    sweetpeasoup write:
    Stillme, you are wise beyond your years..I have to tell ya u are impressing me round here!!



    shhh... you'll give me a big head



    Im not touching this one girls!! LMAO


    chicken... bock bock
  • View author's info posted on Dec 13, 2005 15:42


    stillme67 write:
    i can't agree with this one. i will always have expectations. you can't just discount them all. i hire someone, i expect them to work and work to the best of their ability. i have a relationship with someone, i expect them to be truthful and honest with me. i expect people to treat me with respect. and people should expect the same from me. if those expectations are not met, they are fired or kicked to the curb. to not hold expectations of people is like not having standards. i think the trick is to have realistic expectations of people. i wouldn't hire a high school drop out and expect them to be able to manage my network. i don't expect my kids to get a 100% on every test but i can expect them to try.
    anyway, my .02 for what it's worth

    Oops!
    Please don't misunderstand my words above. I didn't write evrything i know, just that quoted message I saw.
    Standards are different than expectations, of course.
    Smiles...
    DD
  • View author's info posted on Dec 13, 2005 14:45


    stillme67 write:

    sweetpeasoup write:
    Stillme, you are wise beyond your years..I have to tell ya u are impressing me round here!!



    shhh... you'll give me a big head


    Im not touching this one girls!! LMAO
  • View author's info posted on Dec 13, 2005 13:59


    sweetpeasoup write:
    Stillme, you are wise beyond your years..I have to tell ya u are impressing me round here!!


    shhh... you'll give me a big head
  • View author's info posted on Dec 13, 2005 11:09


    Stillme, you are wise beyond your years..I have to tell ya u are impressing me round here!!
  • View author's info posted on Dec 13, 2005 07:10


    i can't agree with this one. i will always have expectations. you can't just discount them all. i hire someone, i expect them to work and work to the best of their ability. i have a relationship with someone, i expect them to be truthful and honest with me. i expect people to treat me with respect. and people should expect the same from me. if those expectations are not met, they are fired or kicked to the curb. to not hold expectations of people is like not having standards. i think the trick is to have realistic expectations of people. i wouldn't hire a high school drop out and expect them to be able to manage my network. i don't expect my kids to get a 100% on every test but i can expect them to try.
    anyway, my .02 for what it's worth
  • View author's info posted on Dec 13, 2005 01:11


    Those are wise words to remember indeed! One door closes another opens. I think that's hard for ALL of us to remember "at the time" ... but so true. All things happen for reasons...keep the faith. I have to remind myself of that daily!

    Shory T*
  • View author's info posted on Dec 11, 2005 16:04


    DoubleDelight write:
    Expectations lead to disappointment
    disappointment leads to resentments
    resentments festers and turns either into anger or depression--so i try not to expect

    accept life for what it is--and live one day at a time--don't let the breakdown of a relationship eat at your gut--it will only hurt you not the other person--and by holding onto that anger THE OTHER PERSON WINS--so for yourself and your loved ones--turn it over to your higher power AND YOU WILL BE THE WINNER INSTEAD OF THE LOSER--YOU WILL BE THE SURVIVOR INSTEAD OF THE VICTIM

    so please--help yourself--give up the anger--and yes it is easier said then done--put little notes all over to remind you
    Unknown author


    Should have read this when it was 1st posted.
    Oh well, I am learning....still.
  • View author's info posted on Dec 11, 2005 01:18


    DoubleDelight write:
    BigDaddyDOC write:

    pawitchywoman write:
    Thanks for your words of wisdom DD and thanks for helping with my attitude adjustment yesterday. No duct tape here. . . .


    Shhh
    Don't tell anybody but DD's actually pretty dam kool, just between you and me PAwitch OK??

    Keep smilin !!

    You are a wonderful present!
    Thanks for gracing my life.

    I'm thinkin Santa visited me early this year...
  • View author's info posted on Dec 09, 2005 01:46


    Thank you for the words. For those who haven't thought of it before, they provoke good thoughts and surely help with problems, for others, they are reminders to keep us on the path.

    Mitakwe Oyasin
  • View author's info posted on Dec 09, 2005 00:16


    BigDaddyDOC write:

    pawitchywoman write:
    Thanks for your words of wisdom DD and thanks for helping with my attitude adjustment yesterday. No duct tape here. . . .


    Shhh
    Don't tell anybody but DD's actually pretty dam kool, just between you and me PAwitch OK??

    Keep smilin !!

    You are a wonderful present!
    Thanks for gracing my life.
  • View author's info posted on Dec 08, 2005 08:56


    LOL I think you just told everybody!!!

    Yes she is cool--helped me put things in perspective yesterday for sure.
  • View author's info posted on Dec 08, 2005 08:46


    pawitchywoman write:
    Thanks for your words of wisdom DD and thanks for helping with my attitude adjustment yesterday. No duct tape here. . . .

    Shhh
    Don't tell anybody but DD's actually pretty dam kool, just between you and me PAwitch OK??

    Keep smilin !!
  • View author's info posted on Dec 08, 2005 08:28


    Thanks for your words of wisdom DD and thanks for helping with my attitude adjustment yesterday. No duct tape here. . . .
  • View author's info posted on Dec 08, 2005 08:24


    DoubleDelight write:

    chkn write:
    DD
    My expectations of others were always wrong, in most cases people always prove me wrong, always out shining what I might of thought them to be. Now I just lay back with ecceptance and end up liking what they are to be.
    I am looking forward to meeting you all in NY.


    But as for to night, I am out of here. LMFAO........ This happenz to me sometimes, it will pass, that every thing I write comes out sounding like a F@*#in rap song.....

    Sorry folks, later....LOL!
    Chkn


    lol. Boy, I can sure relate to that! For me it can all come out like lousy poetry. Oh, yah, Rap!

    TY, everybody who has shared here. I am tempted to respond to the great things you've shared, but would become so verbose, you'd all be yelling for DD's duct tape!
    Yo-yo, doing that over a non-disclosure item with a friend. Keep finding that yo-yo in my pocket.
    Closed door-open window.
    God can be a higher-power, how we see that and inter-act is up to us.
    Defintion of insanity: Same actions, or non-actions, same results, so new pathways can create different results, as in healthier and happier ones.
    Acceptance of what is_is never easy for me. Again, it's BALANCE, such a beautiful word.
    Isn't it funny? I posted this thread to help others during the Holiday madness, now all you've all shared is helping me a lot with a sad thing that just happened. I am too open sometimes with my heart and my mouth.
    You're a 'present' to me, my bk buds.
    DD
    DD

    Hmmm did you say duct tape??
    heh heh heh heh
    OOPS
    did I say that outloud????
    I wasn't me.....

    back to my cage......
  • View author's info posted on Dec 08, 2005 08:00


    chkn write:
    DD
    My expectations of others were always wrong, in most cases people always prove me wrong, always out shining what I might of thought them to be. Now I just lay back with ecceptance and end up liking what they are to be.
    I am looking forward to meeting you all in NY.


    But as for to night, I am out of here. LMFAO........ This happenz to me sometimes, it will pass, that every thing I write comes out sounding like a F@*#in rap song.....

    Sorry folks, later....LOL!
    Chkn

    lol. Boy, I can sure relate to that! For me it can all come out like lousy poetry. Oh, yah, Rap!

    TY, everybody who has shared here. I am tempted to respond to the great things you've shared, but would become so verbose, you'd all be yelling for DD's duct tape!
    Yo-yo, doing that over a non-disclosure item with a friend. Keep finding that yo-yo in my pocket.
    Closed door-open window.
    God can be a higher-power, how we see that and inter-act is up to us.
    Defintion of insanity: Same actions, or non-actions, same results, so new pathways can create different results, as in healthier and happier ones.
    Acceptance of what is_is never easy for me. Again, it's BALANCE, such a beautiful word.
    Isn't it funny? I posted this thread to help others during the Holiday madness, now all you've all shared is helping me a lot with a sad thing that just happened. I am too open sometimes with my heart and my mouth.
    You're a 'present' to me, my bk buds.
    DD
    DD
  • View author's info posted on Dec 07, 2005 18:20


    Sort of like trying to put toothpaste back in the tube!!
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