Should he stay or should he go to a hotel? For whatever reason, it seems that the men who are interested in me usually live pretty far away. While I am open to meeting someone outside of my area, I do not have lots of money to travel across the country to meet people. Consequently, if a guy would still like to meet me and is willing to visit PA, I would welcome the opportunity to get to know him. Here is my dilemma. When a guy travels all that way to meet me, do I force him to stay in a hotel? I am usually too kind and trusting, so I've actually been considering letting him crash on the couch. But I have to say, it is a little scary, because I really do not know him. As much as I would like to believe that everyone is above board and honest, the reality of life is that many are not. For guys that are semi-local (within 2 hours drive) I usually meet half way so this is not always an issue. Would love to hear what others do now or would recommend.

You already did! Thanks for listening!

I am here. Can I do you a favor?

Hey Don Vito!! Where ya been cousin? You don't call, you don't write! Didn't see ya at the family reunion!! Miss Ya Brudda!

I would stay in a hotel. But, I can be persuaded.

I agree with Giorgiegirl, having him stay in your house is probably not a good idea. Having a friend put him up for the night is a much better idea. I just have a few questions. This friend of yours...what does she look like? Does she drink? Does she have a large collection of adult movies and does she own or rent? LOL Just kidding, I wish you all the best.

I can understand u not wanting to miss an opportunity to meet a guy who is willing to travel a ways to meet u, so how about asking a friend to put them up for you? This would avoid the akward moment before u go to bed if you dont like them and they're pushy, and also avoid worrying about what they are up to when u r asleep.....it aint safe babe!! You usually get a 'feel' for people when you talk/meet with them, but, to have a stranger staying in your house is not a good idea. Hope u meet someone nice soon. Take care, Giorgiegirl.

FOrget long distance romanic it does not work most of the time.I know who did and every thing is fine and I know people that stay at hotel and that is fine. My question is to you if you drive a day to see some one would you stay with the person after knowing him for how every long or would you stay in Hotel you have to make the call???

PaWW.
Anytime! Please feel free. I know you do! Some people are coming out for the holidays from BK. You are welcome. Mi Casa is su casa!

DD

I've meet some people from another site. I always make my own travel and hotel arrangement's. I don't tell them where I'm staying. I meet in a public place. This is for my protection as well as thier's. Everyone has turned out to be really great people but you have to be safe. Who ever your meeting shouldn't have a problem with staying in a hotel. Put your saftey first if they have a problem too bad.

As far as the hotel thing, I guess I was the one to figure he could stay with me so he didn't have to waste money on a hotel. . . guess I kinda felt guilty to expect him to pay for a hotel if he'd be spending most of his time with me.

I know what you mean HG. Reminds me of the olde adage . . . "Watch what you ask for, you just might get it."

I agree with you, HG. As I have no expectations of others and certainly no demands of anyone, except myself; I was both surprised and honored that the lady told me that I could stay at her place.
Maybe I'm old fashioned or "just not with it", but I would never do anything to betray the trust she put in me. Does that make sense?
As for "what we want": Yesterday I was asked "What do you want?" For the life of me, I couldn't think of a thing materialistic, that I either want or need. Spooky, huh? LOL

I'd reconsider the meeting if HE doesn't automatically ASSUME he's staying in a hotel.

This is MY place, and just because we're going to have dinner and some conversation, doesn't mean "my home is your home" for the entire weekend.

You'll still need your little corner of the world during the weekend.

If he assumes from the beginning you're THAT kind of girl...that will probably be his excuse when he's ready to move on. "Well...if you let me sleep over the first night we met, who else are you letting sleep over?!?"

I'm learning...men never really want what they say they want. Probably some women, too. Hell, even I find myself thinking I want one thing, then when it's a possibility, I start re-thinking!! We're all guilty of it!

HEY..PWW...anywhere near me??? I'm in Canton OH. I'd love to meet ya. Wanna stop in for coffee and some laughter?

Is this who I think it is??
If so-bring him home g/f!

Since it's probably not who I think it is: Hotel yah! meeting in the middle. You are very thoughtful.

BB- You can stay with me-if you r ever in Ca!

DD

be careful is all we saying.You may think even after you have talked to him on the ph one that he is 'normal".You never know someone's true colors till you are with them for a decent amount of time.I find alot of people are soemone else until i get to know them.

Thanks Norty, Handy Dan, & Big Bear. . .

We have decided to meet half way in Ohio (he lives in IN) in a town where I have friends nearby. That way, we both take care of our own lodging.

Hi all. ; ) I think that the visitor should be considerate enough to be willing to furnish their own place to sleep.
I recently met my first BK lady, who honored me with the trust of my spending the night in her extra bedroom. Hoever. I was prepared to arrange my own place to stay and would never ask for lodging from anyone.