Should He Stay or Should He Go? Relationship

  • View author's info Author posted on Oct 14, 2005 09:13


    Should he stay or should he go to a hotel? For whatever reason, it seems that the men who are interested in me usually live pretty far away. While I am open to meeting someone outside of my area, I do not have lots of money to travel across the country to meet people. Consequently, if a guy would still like to meet me and is willing to visit PA, I would welcome the opportunity to get to know him. Here is my dilemma. When a guy travels all that way to meet me, do I force him to stay in a hotel? I am usually too kind and trusting, so I've actually been considering letting him crash on the couch. But I have to say, it is a little scary, because I really do not know him. As much as I would like to believe that everyone is above board and honest, the reality of life is that many are not. For guys that are semi-local (within 2 hours drive) I usually meet half way so this is not always an issue. Would love to hear what others do now or would recommend.
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  • View author's info posted on Sep 14, 2006 17:37


    Nezram write:
    jstmeee1962athm write:
    Nezram write:
    I would stay in a hotel. But, I can be persuaded.


    Hey Don Vito!! Where ya been cousin? You don't call, you don't write! Didn't see ya at the family reunion!! Miss Ya Brudda!

    I am here. Can I do you a favor?

    You already did! Thanks for listening!
  • View author's info posted on Sep 13, 2006 05:19


    jstmeee1962athm write:
    Nezram write:
    I would stay in a hotel. But, I can be persuaded.


    Hey Don Vito!! Where ya been cousin? You don't call, you don't write! Didn't see ya at the family reunion!! Miss Ya Brudda!

    I am here. Can I do you a favor?
  • View author's info posted on Sep 12, 2006 21:07


    Nezram write:
    I would stay in a hotel. But, I can be persuaded.


    Hey Don Vito!! Where ya been cousin? You don't call, you don't write! Didn't see ya at the family reunion!! Miss Ya Brudda!
  • View author's info posted on Sep 07, 2006 09:56


    I would stay in a hotel. But, I can be persuaded.
  • View author's info posted on Feb 27, 2006 19:17


    FOrget long distance romanic it does not work most of the time.I know who did and every thing is fine and I know people that stay at hotel and that is fine. My question is to you if you drive a day to see some one would you stay with the person after knowing him for how every long or would you stay in Hotel you have to make the call???
  • View author's info posted on Nov 12, 2005 12:50


    PaWW.
    Anytime! Please feel free. I know you do! Some people are coming out for the holidays from BK. You are welcome. Mi Casa is su casa!

    DD
  • View author's info posted on Oct 30, 2005 16:00


    HarleyGurl35 write:

    Hell, even I find myself thinking I want one thing, then when it's a possibility, I start re-thinking!! We're all guilty of it!


    As far as the hotel thing, I guess I was the one to figure he could stay with me so he didn't have to waste money on a hotel. . . guess I kinda felt guilty to expect him to pay for a hotel if he'd be spending most of his time with me.

    I know what you mean HG. Reminds me of the olde adage . . . "Watch what you ask for, you just might get it."
  • View author's info posted on Oct 30, 2005 09:05


    I agree with you, HG. As I have no expectations of others and certainly no demands of anyone, except myself; I was both surprised and honored that the lady told me that I could stay at her place.
    Maybe I'm old fashioned or "just not with it", but I would never do anything to betray the trust she put in me. Does that make sense?
    As for "what we want": Yesterday I was asked "What do you want?" For the life of me, I couldn't think of a thing materialistic, that I either want or need. Spooky, huh? LOL
    I agree with you, HG. As I have no expectations of others and certainly no demands of anyone, except myself; I was both surprised and honored that the lady told me that I could stay at her place.
    Maybe I'm old fashioned or "just not with it", but I would never do anything to betray the trust she put in me. Does that make sense?
    As for "what we want": Yesterday I was asked "What do you want?" For the life of me, I couldn't think of a thing materialistic, that I either want or need. Spooky, huh? LOL
  • View author's info posted on Oct 30, 2005 08:51


    I'd reconsider the meeting if HE doesn't automatically ASSUME he's staying in a hotel.

    This is MY place, and just because we're going to have dinner and some conversation, doesn't mean "my home is your home" for the entire weekend.

    You'll still need your little corner of the world during the weekend.

    If he assumes from the beginning you're THAT kind of girl...that will probably be his excuse when he's ready to move on. "Well...if you let me sleep over the first night we met, who else are you letting sleep over?!?"

    I'm learning...men never really want what they say they want. Probably some women, too. Hell, even I find myself thinking I want one thing, then when it's a possibility, I start re-thinking!! We're all guilty of it!
    I'd reconsider the meeting if HE doesn't automatically ASSUME he's staying in a hotel.

    This is MY place, and just because we're going to have dinner and some conversation, doesn't mean "my home is your home" for the entire weekend.

    You'll still need your little corner of the world during the weekend.

    If he assumes from the beginning you're THAT kind of girl...that will probably be his excuse when he's ready to move on. "Well...if you let me sleep over the first night we met, who else are you letting sleep over?!?"

    I'm learning...men never really want what they say they want. Probably some women, too. Hell, even I find myself thinking I want one thing, then when it's a possibility, I start re-thinking!! We're all guilty of it!
  • View author's info posted on Oct 30, 2005 05:02


    HEY..PWW...anywhere near me??? I'm in Canton OH. I'd love to meet ya. Wanna stop in for coffee and some laughter?
    HEY..PWW...anywhere near me??? I'm in Canton OH. I'd love to meet ya. Wanna stop in for coffee and some laughter?
  • View author's info posted on Oct 30, 2005 01:26


    DoubleDelight write:
    Is this who I think it is??
    If so-bring him home g/f!

    Since it's probably not who I think it is: Hotel yah! meeting in the middle. You are very thoughtful.

    BB- You can stay with me-if you r ever in Ca!

    DD

    No it isn't who you think it is ;) but someone new. I've never been to CA, but if I ever get there, I will definately look you up. . . I'll bring my Tarot Cards and give you a reading!
  • View author's info posted on Oct 27, 2005 22:39


    Is this who I think it is??
    If so-bring him home g/f!

    Since it's probably not who I think it is: Hotel yah! meeting in the middle. You are very thoughtful.

    BB- You can stay with me-if you r ever in Ca!

    DD
    Is this who I think it is??
    If so-bring him home g/f!

    Since it's probably not who I think it is: Hotel yah! meeting in the middle. You are very thoughtful.

    BB- You can stay with me-if you r ever in Ca!

    DD
  • View author's info posted on Oct 27, 2005 09:26


    be careful is all we saying.You may think even after you have talked to him on the ph one that he is 'normal".You never know someone's true colors till you are with them for a decent amount of time.I find alot of people are soemone else until i get to know them.
    be careful is all we saying.You may think even after you have talked to him on the ph one that he is 'normal".You never know someone's true colors till you are with them for a decent amount of time.I find alot of people are soemone else until i get to know them.
  • View author's info posted on Oct 27, 2005 08:53


    Thanks Norty, Handy Dan, & Big Bear. . .

    We have decided to meet half way in Ohio (he lives in IN) in a town where I have friends nearby. That way, we both take care of our own lodging.
    Thanks Norty, Handy Dan, & Big Bear. . .

    We have decided to meet half way in Ohio (he lives in IN) in a town where I have friends nearby. That way, we both take care of our own lodging.
  • View author's info posted on Oct 26, 2005 08:37


    Hi all. ; ) I think that the visitor should be considerate enough to be willing to furnish their own place to sleep.
    I recently met my first BK lady, who honored me with the trust of my spending the night in her extra bedroom. Hoever. I was prepared to arrange my own place to stay and would never ask for lodging from anyone.
    Hi all. ; ) I think that the visitor should be considerate enough to be willing to furnish their own place to sleep.
    I recently met my first BK lady, who honored me with the trust of my spending the night in her extra bedroom. Hoever. I was prepared to arrange my own place to stay and would never ask for lodging from anyone.
  • View author's info posted on Oct 15, 2005 13:09



    PrincessBabyGirl write:
    Ummmmmmmm my vote would be let the BASTARD sleep in the dog house..LMAO... Just kidding peeps... Go with your gut instinct you wont know him till you actually KNOW him... Ya know what I mean ??? Did any of that make any sense? lol I know the part of sleeping in the DOG HOUSE did but the rest well I am not to sure about.. hahahaha




    DOG HOUSE--too funny! I am sure he will end up there someday. . . Seriously, I know exactly what you mean about not knowing him.

    Roxie, you are right, if he is a gentleman he will get a hotel if that makes me the most comfortable.
  • View author's info posted on Oct 14, 2005 18:15


    Ummmmmmmm my vote would be let the BASTARD sleep in the dog house..LMAO... Just kidding peeps... Go with your gut instinct you wont know him till you actually KNOW him... Ya know what I mean ??? Did any of that make any sense? lol I know the part of sleeping in the DOG HOUSE did but the rest well I am not to sure about.. hahahaha
  • View author's info posted on Oct 14, 2005 15:49


    Thanks Jules and Peg--will definately discuss the sleeping arrangements beforehand. I also live in the city where my nosy elderly neighbor knows who comes and goes, when I get home, when I go to bed etc. This always pretty much annoyed me but for something like this it does help me to feel safer. An ex I am still friends with said that I could always call on him or his new gf to help should a "situation" arise. Thanks again for your input.
  • View author's info posted on Oct 14, 2005 11:19



    JULES write:
    Hey Peg love your new pics. Whenever meeting for the first time remember safety should be the number one priority

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    thnx jules

    and yes safety is the #1 priority
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