I always wondered what it was that kept a relationship going... I've heard and experienced so many things.
Is it communication? Is it understanding? Is it your level of tolerance? Worse yet, is it convenience?
Communication is key no matter what the relationship, romantic or friendship...this goes hand-in-hand with honesty. If you can't communicate and be honest with your feelings then all your communication is a waste of time. Why communicate lies to someone or say something that you think the other wants to hear?
Be true to yourself and your soul. You have to be with yourself the longest time of all. If you don't like what you're saying or doing, then stop and follow what you know is right.
The glue for the relationship is there if you let it. It's something both of you generate to the other and work on because it's an end result you both desire. It should never be one sided.
Although we can all place our opinions on what this magical glue consists of, for each of us it's different but the results are the same...we find someone who loves us for who we are; mind, body and soul, and the feelings are returned full force.
heritage99 write: I've heard it called alot of things, but never "secret glue"!
ROFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
how about glow in the dark glue??? I think it is a chicken/egg thing... does a couple have a great relationship because they continue to have great sxx, or do they have great sxx, because they are in a great relationship???
Personally, I think 90% of great sxx is the mental/emotional 4 play that occurs when 2 people really "click" - because then it is a combination of the physical, emotional and spiritual... granted, there are times when chemistry sparks great physical encounters, but unless there is a "meeting of the minds" as well as the bodies, it doesn't seem those relationships last.
Knotsofast write: I would say the secret glue is simply COMMUNICATION. Part of that equates to never going to sleep angry!!
Arguments and misunderstandings all come from lack of communication. One side has certain expectations, those are not met for whatever reason ( valid or otherwise) and it isn't worked out....there begins the downward spiral. If not caught soon, then the deeper it gets until recovery is no longer possible.
And I dont mean arguing either, as an argument is just when one side cannot see the other side's point of view. So a willingness to listen and ability to understand ( not necessarily agree, but understand) the other side's point of view is essential...
so, I would think, COMMUNICATION and UNDERSTANDING.
I would say the secret glue is simply COMMUNICATION. Part of that equates to never going to sleep angry!!
Arguments and misunderstandings all come from lack of communication. One side has certain expectations, those are not met for whatever reason ( valid or otherwise) and it isn't worked out....there begins the downward spiral. If not caught soon, then the deeper it gets until recovery is no longer possible.
And I dont mean arguing either, as an argument is just when one side cannot see the other side's point of view. So a willingness to listen and ability to understand ( not necessarily agree, but understand) the other side's point of view is essential...
so, I would think, COMMUNICATION and UNDERSTANDING.
speedyjerry write: "jerry, i don't think anyone is jumping down your throat, but there are times you put women down"..................... ........................................ I don't discriminate between s e x's, and I enjoy a good argument back and forth posthoring. When someone takes something I say out of context and runs with it I'm gonna catch em like the Ole Dog that I am. When someone type's something I disagree with I'm gonna disagree with them if it looks like fun. There's alot more to life than building Pyramids with an emoticon at the end of it....and hijacking all the threads with the same topic week after week after week with the same basic reply's. Not my job to be the "Board Counselor for the Broken Hearted and Abandoned Souls". I get over most my problems and disappointments in life usually after a day or two.
"jerry, i don't think anyone is jumping down your throat, but there are times you put women down".....................
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I don't discriminate between s e x's, and I enjoy a good argument back and forth posthoring. When someone takes something I say out of context and runs with it I'm gonna catch em like the Ole Dog that I am. When someone type's something I disagree with I'm gonna disagree with them if it looks like fun. There's alot more to life than building Pyramids with an emoticon at the end of it....and hijacking all the threads with the same topic week after week after week with the same basic reply's. Not my job to be the "Board Counselor for the Broken Hearted and Abandoned Souls". I get over most my problems and disappointments in life usually after a day or two.
waterbabie write: Smile This was great. There are so many guys that are shallow. They forget that it is in the heart and soul. That you need to have that friendship, because when it is all said and done, that friendship and unconditional love is what it is all about. I know I want to end up with my best friend.
Thanks Waterbabie ~ I agree with you totally also...
speedyjerry write: ", you're not supposed to get that from the statement. obviously you are not going to get what they are saying at all. don't try. i'm dissappointed in you, jerry. you've been rude in a few threads here today. why is that? ".... ...................................... If you notice Princess.....on occasion.......there's a couple people that instantly jump down my throat no matter what I type.......could be my magination..maybe...maybe not. It was raining, couldn't work outside or go riding........I was just having fun playin puter!.................
jerry, i don't think anyone is jumping down your throat, but there are times you put women down, i don't think there is a women on this site that would tolerate it and not stand up for the female race.....we've been or have it attempted to knock us down, we will come out fighting, we just don't take it anymore...if you call that being a "bitch", then please do, but we will come out with the claws and defend outselves to the end........
"Appearance is a state of mind, the whole picture, how one percieves their partner, style and grace, freshness, keeping fit, smiling, that special look in the eye. Some want a partner they can look forward to seeing every day after work, some quit caring about the things that attracted them originally and let the magic slip away"...........
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That's what I wrote, it apply's to a 500 lb woman the same as a 100 lb woman. Too bad ya'll don't see it that way, just instantly condemn everything I type, that's more fun, ain't it?.
speedyjerry write: "don't stoop to someone's level if all they can concentrate on is looks"...... ....................................... So I'm supposed to get from this statement that women don't want an attractive man??????????????????????? I think ya'll need to find something else to do with your spare time, go mow the grass or something.
no, you're not supposed to get that from the statement. obviously you are not going to get what they are saying at all. don't try. i'm dissappointed in you, jerry. you've been rude in a few threads here today. why is that?
Thanks Babe, just consider the source, don't sweat it, the only time I have something negative to say to someone is when they are being mean, wasting my breath on that one!
", you're not supposed to get that from the statement. obviously you are not going to get what they are saying at all. don't try. i'm dissappointed in you, jerry. you've been rude in a few threads here today. why is that? "....
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If you notice Princess.....on occasion.......there's a couple people that instantly jump down my throat no matter what I type.......could be my magination..maybe...maybe not. It was raining, couldn't work outside or go riding........I was just having fun playin puter!.................
"don't stoop to someone's level if all they can concentrate on is looks"......
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So I'm supposed to get from this statement that women don't want an attractive man???????????????????????
I think ya'll need to find something else to do with your spare time, go mow the grass or something.
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