Is it ok....? Relationship

  • View author's info posted on Sep 20, 2005 06:36



    WhiskeyRich write:
    Well I too would like to thank all of you. Nodey and I both discussed this and we both agree that all of you have posted and expressed your concerns with great class. There was huge potential for some major bashing to happen here and it just didn't go that way. We thank you all. I have been blessed to have met Nodey. I was also blessed to have met two other people; Mark and Angel. Mark and Angel are two of the most awesome people I have ever met. I met them this past Friday (Although I had met Mark a few times the week before). Through a night of Angel's stern defense of Nodey, into Angel's realization that I was far from the jerk she may of thought I was, and that I was a man in serious trouble with his heart and soul. She reached into her heart and gave me such clarity and peace that I could finally see the road ahead. Once Angel had cleared my vision and set my soul on the right path to recovery, Mark took over and showed me the strength of friendship and brotherhood that I had been missing for so long. Mark and Angel saved my life, both spiritually and FOR REAL! I know I would not be here now had it not been for this wonderful couple, Mark and Angel. They did not point me anywhere, they simply opened my eyes. They kept me from throwing my life away somewhere along GA Highway 92, which is where they'd found me sometime Saturday morning had it not been for them. Sunday and Monday, same two people working with me, my sight becoming clearer each moment I spend with them. My heart is clear now, my mind at ease. I'll give you one single guess who I spent Sunday and Monday with doing absolutely nothing but learning what a special bond we had formed between each other. Thank you all. Mark and Angel, I love you.
    Rich


    Woo Hoo! Glad to hear the porch lights of the heart are back on and by the firelight I see the house is filling with memories!!
    I sensed something great in you Rich at the party and I am glad for Nodey and you. Mark and Angel...thanks for being champions in this cause!

    Woo-Hoo! You photo brings much joy!
  • View author's info posted on Sep 20, 2005 06:08


    Well I too would like to thank all of you. Nodey and I both discussed this and we both agree that all of you have posted and expressed your concerns with great class. There was huge potential for some major bashing to happen here and it just didn't go that way. We thank you all. I have been blessed to have met Nodey. I was also blessed to have met two other people; Mark and Angel. Mark and Angel are two of the most awesome people I have ever met. I met them this past Friday (Although I had met Mark a few times the week before). Through a night of Angel's stern defense of Nodey, into Angel's realization that I was far from the jerk she may of thought I was, and that I was a man in serious trouble with his heart and soul. She reached into her heart and gave me such clarity and peace that I could finally see the road ahead. Once Angel had cleared my vision and set my soul on the right path to recovery, Mark took over and showed me the strength of friendship and brotherhood that I had been missing for so long. Mark and Angel saved my life, both spiritually and FOR REAL! I know I would not be here now had it not been for this wonderful couple, Mark and Angel. They did not point me anywhere, they simply opened my eyes. They kept me from throwing my life away somewhere along GA Highway 92, which is where they'd found me sometime Saturday morning had it not been for them. Sunday and Monday, same two people working with me, my sight becoming clearer each moment I spend with them. My heart is clear now, my mind at ease. I'll give you one single guess who I spent Sunday and Monday with doing absolutely nothing but learning what a special bond we had formed between each other. Thank you all. Mark and Angel, I love you.
    Rich

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  • View author's info posted on Sep 19, 2005 23:00


    Nodey as I sit here and read EVERYTHING my heart goes out to both of you.. You are indeed a beautiful woman and DESEREVED to be loved and DESERVES to love. Someday in your journey through life you will find that ONE TRUE LOVE. Believe me i know the hurt and pain you are going though as you know.. I have been there myself many times with the same person. Unfortunately for him he loses.. I am a very STRONG AND INDEPENDANT WOMAN and do not need a man. Yes a man would be nice to have but like most of us we dont NEED one.. I truly hope that you live life to the fullest each day and someday soon FIND HAPPINESS, PEACE AND SERENITY... GOdd luck to you sis and if ya need anything please dont hesitate to ask.. Im here for ya...
  • View author's info posted on Sep 19, 2005 22:39


    Thank you ladies for your compassion and wisdom.I know you all have weathered your own storms. I wish I could find the words to convey what truly special people you are. You've all been here,so I believe no words need saying. But know that the words I cannot express to you , lay deep within my heart.
  • View author's info posted on Sep 19, 2005 21:44



    seeme1st write:

    thunderunderme write:
    Too much....too soon....too fast. It's all so exciting. Then the doubt sets in, we get our fears. It is always good in the beginning. It is more serious after the newness wears off than at the very beginning. Reality shows it's head when the excitement slows. Now is the time to be adults, with understanding, compassion, and forgiveness. Lay aside our hurts and start over...s l o w l y. Build the foundation...be it for love or just for friendship. Any relationship must have a firm foundation ..and that is built slowly. Too much... too soon... to fast doesn't give time for sability of that foundation. Now when both are wiser..it can begin again.

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    Char sweetie you are soooooooooo wise

    that's why i love ya girl!
  • View author's info posted on Sep 19, 2005 18:48


    Nodey, if I was him and was with you, I would never have looked no further..
  • View author's info posted on Sep 19, 2005 17:08



    thunderunderme write:
    Too much....too soon....too fast. It's all so exciting. Then the doubt sets in, we get our fears. It is always good in the beginning. It is more serious after the newness wears off than at the very beginning. Reality shows it's head when the excitement slows. Now is the time to be adults, with understanding, compassion, and forgiveness. Lay aside our hurts and start over...s l o w l y. Build the foundation...be it for love or just for friendship. Any relationship must have a firm foundation ..and that is built slowly. Too much... too soon... to fast doesn't give time for sability of that foundation. Now when both are wiser..it can begin again.

    \

    Char sweetie you are soooooooooo wise
  • View author's info posted on Sep 19, 2005 15:57


    Too much....too soon....too fast. It's all so exciting. Then the doubt sets in, we get our fears. It is always good in the beginning. It is more serious after the newness wears off than at the very beginning. Reality shows it's head when the excitement slows. Now is the time to be adults, with understanding, compassion, and forgiveness. Lay aside our hurts and start over...s l o w l y. Build the foundation...be it for love or just for friendship. Any relationship must have a firm foundation ..and that is built slowly. Too much... too soon... to fast doesn't give time for sability of that foundation. Now when both are wiser..it can begin again.
  • View author's info posted on Sep 18, 2005 19:03


    Man...I go out of town for one rally, just ONE rally, and all this happens?!?

    We've all been there, whether it be online or in person. It's been done to us, and most of us have probably done it to someone else. It's a hurt you really don't forget.

    I think Nodey and Rich both have class. Neither have stooped to any sort of degrading or belittling of the other and they have both been amazingly mature here in this forum. You both are a rare kind.

    We can all give advice, but each situation is different. Lord knows I've been given tons of advice from others when going through this sort of stuff, and when I took the road less traveled...well, sometimes it worked.

    Bottom line...if you can lay your head down at night and know you've done the right thing, then so be it.

    Nodey, you seemed happy. Don't be afraid to listen to your heart on what you should do. Everything happens for a reason.

    Remember this: The darkest storms always make way for the most beautiful sunrise.
  • View author's info posted on Sep 18, 2005 09:16



    WhiskeyRich write:
    I was going to come on here and remove my posts from this thread. I have re-read the entire thread and come to the conclusion that the truth has got to mean something. There isn't anything in this thread that is untrue, including the very first post. Nodey is one of the most awesome women I have ever met. She made me feel things I had not felt is such a long time. The weekend we spent together was one of the most happy times I have ever had in my life. If a person (man or woman) is single and "meeting" people, at what point does he become a jerk for "seeing" more than one woman at a time? When he fiannally decides that he has the best chance of happiness with this one or that one? I am not the kind that takes "serious" interest in more than one woman at a time. I was faced with a choice that was never in my mind that I would have to make. Okay, I chose to pursue a relationship close to home. Nodey, being the persecptive woman she is "felt" a difference in our conversation immediatly. Was I dishonest? I did not want to try and explain the very complicated feelings I was experiencing over the pho ne. I wanted to wait for the weekend when I was supposed to go see her. It was important to me that she be able to not only hear me, but see me, feel the sincerity in me. I had to be sure that she understood. I didn't feel I could do that over the pho ne, but the distance was something I couldn't jump up and go to her right then and there. So YES I put off revealing those feelings right then. If that' is dis honest, then I am guilty. The very next day while we were talking it became evident that there was no way to postpone that conversation. Nodey is much to smart and perceptive a woman. So the thing began to unwind and I knew I was losing the ability to convey my real feelings and meanings because all she could hear was my voice, and not my entire being. She was hurt and I was hurting for causing her such pain. I felt like the more I talked the more damage I was doing. I stopped. I tried and I messed it up, I have caused such pain for someone that I truely cared about. I believe that at one point during our weekend I told Nodey that I am a honest man, honest to a fault at times. I too have been honest with the woman I met "closer" to home. And now, not that it should really matter to anyone, or that it is anyone's business, she has now told me that she feels I chose her because she was convienant [sic]. So she has walked out. I don't tell you this for any reason other than to try and explain that through all this mess, I have been honest, my honesty has cost me, cost me dearly. I know that Nodey feels I was dishonest with her, and I understand why she feels that way. I will not dispute anything further that she or anyone else may say to all this. Nodey is an absolute wonderful woman. She deserves so much better than me and I do so wish her well. I am truely sorry.




    i am sorry for the both of you---buttttt things happen for a reason--and we don't always know the reason--sooooooo who knows--sometimes we need to mend our fences--and sometimes that is rebuilding parts that were destroyed in the storm--other times it is just repairing sections of it

    rich--you need to look deep inside and see what or why this happened!!!!!
    sometimes the fear of being with a good woman like Nodey is is overwhelming
  • View author's info posted on Sep 17, 2005 16:41


    Browneyes...I too expressed my personal thoughts to Nodey, I didn't want to throw my 2 cents in here because things like this always have a way of working out. However, after hearing Rich I would like to say this:

    You two, my very first post in this forum had to do with an identical post. Like Nodey I had found the perfect person for me and exactly like Nodey...my heart got beat up. It has been a few months now and I'm happy to report we're trying it again, this time alot slower and in a more gentle way. All things work out, sometimes it's not what we want but rather what we need at that particular time. Something I didn't know at the time was that those same feelings scared my guy to the point he didn't know what the heck to think! ~shrugs~ Don't turn loose of those special feelings, there is no such thing as a coincidence in this world. Maintain that bond, if it's meant to grow it most certainly will. Remember the old saying...ya don't know what you've got until you lose it. Sometimes when we fall back and regroup we can see both sides more clearly and believe it or not, the respect and feelings actually do grow.

    Sorry, had to comment on this because it's better to regret trying something than to regret ya didn't give it your best shot.
  • View author's info posted on Sep 17, 2005 15:38


    a shoulder too LOL....my fingers got away from me
  • View author's info posted on Sep 17, 2005 15:36


    Nodey
    You will never know how terrible I feel for your heart...when and if I ever figure it out I will share my answers to why this happens to people. I recently went through this almost exact same thing. On our 6 mth anniversary I got an email of all things an email!!! And I was warned and I didn't listen to her. Not only was I devastated but my kids were crushed....they loved Ray.Almost 1200 miles a weekend we shared...no distance was to great for him. He won't speak, email or anything as if we never existed. I guess I am simply saying sorry you had to experience this and here is yet another should if you need it.
  • View author's info posted on Sep 17, 2005 14:54


    I was going to come on here and remove my posts from this thread. I have re-read the entire thread and come to the conclusion that the truth has got to mean something. There isn't anything in this thread that is untrue, including the very first post. Nodey is one of the most awesome women I have ever met. She made me feel things I had not felt is such a long time. The weekend we spent together was one of the most happy times I have ever had in my life. If a person (man or woman) is single and "meeting" people, at what point does he become a jerk for "seeing" more than one woman at a time? When he fiannally decides that he has the best chance of happiness with this one or that one? I am not the kind that takes "serious" interest in more than one woman at a time. I was faced with a choice that was never in my mind that I would have to make. Okay, I chose to pursue a relationship close to home. Nodey, being the persecptive woman she is "felt" a difference in our conversation immediatly. Was I dishonest? I did not want to try and explain the very complicated feelings I was experiencing over the pho ne. I wanted to wait for the weekend when I was supposed to go see her. It was important to me that she be able to not only hear me, but see me, feel the sincerity in me. I had to be sure that she understood. I didn't feel I could do that over the pho ne, but the distance was something I couldn't jump up and go to her right then and there. So YES I put off revealing those feelings right then. If that' is dis honest, then I am guilty. The very next day while we were talking it became evident that there was no way to postpone that conversation. Nodey is much to smart and perceptive a woman. So the thing began to unwind and I knew I was losing the ability to convey my real feelings and meanings because all she could hear was my voice, and not my entire being. She was hurt and I was hurting for causing her such pain. I felt like the more I talked the more damage I was doing. I stopped. I tried and I messed it up, I have caused such pain for someone that I truely cared about. I believe that at one point during our weekend I told Nodey that I am a honest man, honest to a fault at times. I too have been honest with the woman I met "closer" to home. And now, not that it should really matter to anyone, or that it is anyone's business, she has now told me that she feels I chose her because she was convienant [sic]. So she has walked out. I don't tell you this for any reason other than to try and explain that through all this mess, I have been honest, my honesty has cost me, cost me dearly. I know that Nodey feels I was dishonest with her, and I understand why she feels that way. I will not dispute anything further that she or anyone else may say to all this. Nodey is an absolute wonderful woman. She deserves so much better than me and I do so wish her well. I am truely sorry.
  • View author's info posted on Sep 17, 2005 14:16


    Well maybe it was more conveniant for him to see someone closer....Your awesome Nodey and someone will be very lucky to have you.You want a man that can give it ALL to you , not just bits and pieces....keep a truckin...
  • View author's info posted on Sep 17, 2005 13:51



    Roxie0215 write:
    At one time I was talking to a guy, after a while He said he was comming to meet me. THen I got the "Dear John" email, saying he found someone closer, and we wished each other the best. He recently emailed me and asked if I was seeing anyone, I told him that the relationship I was in had just ended. He said he had hoped for a second chance with me and and planned to come for a visit, well that's when hurricane Katrina hit, as fate would have it, his job has sent him down south to my area to helped set up poles and restore power, so now he is in my neck of the woods and is comming to see me next weekend. Funny how things work out. But I'm not getting my hopes up this time, if it's only for a weekend....so be it!
    Nodey...just know that if a relationship ends on a somewhat good note it can always be restored!




    That's what I am hoping for Roxie. I want him to be happy. I don't want to ruin or make a mockery of what little time we did share. He treated me better than any man has ever treated me. I fell when I knew I shouldn't have. He met this girl last week,so it's all new. In my gut,I know it will work out between them,becuase he is such a good man. It just hurts to know that she will be getting all the goodness I had.

    I just wish he would have been patient and waited on us.

    On the other hand, would I want to go through this again. If someone can let go of something because he found someone"just as amazing as I am"(his words),only closer. Is this someone I can trust to be here for me? If someone can let go of something he started over convenience,he's not a very strong man in my book. Not very reliable either.
  • View author's info posted on Sep 17, 2005 11:14



    jerryw13 write:
    Love you girl!

    no wants, no needs, no expectations, just the love of admiration.

    (this was the only way I could send you flowers)



    Jerry,that has to be the sweetest thing a man could do for me right now. You put a smile on this otherwise sad face. I'll keep coming back here to look at my flowers when I am feeling sad.

    Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
  • View author's info posted on Sep 17, 2005 11:08



    JULES write:

    Nodey write:
    I found out he found someone closer to him. I want so bad to hate him,but I can't. I called to tell him it was ok.
    Wasn't that the topic of this thread anyway?


    God,it hurts like hell.

    Nodey I'm sorry that your hurting right now but I applaud you for the class and integrity you have shown in your postings. You are truly a lady and I know one day you will find the right man for you. Big hugs from NC



    Thank you Jules. I feel like I shouldn't even being showing my pain in such a way,but it's the only way I know right now to get through it.

    I only want him to be happy.
  • View author's info posted on Sep 17, 2005 10:58


    Love you girl!

    no wants, no needs, no expectations, just the love of admiration.

    (this was the only way I could send you flowers)

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  • View author's info posted on Sep 17, 2005 10:49



    Nodey write:
    I found out he found someone closer to him. I want so bad to hate him,but I can't. I called to tell him it was ok.
    Wasn't that the topic of this thread anyway?


    God,it hurts like hell.

    Nodey I'm sorry that your hurting right now but I applaud you for the class and integrity you have shown in your postings. You are truly a lady and I know one day you will find the right man for you. Big hugs from NC
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