People actually think that they can get over..and I found that the only way they could was if I allowed it......It still amazes me the energy they will put into it....as a grown woman I've listened to plenty and please do they think you are really that stupid or desperate that you will hang on to their every word.....I love the wisdom that comes with age!
it is possible that the 'wife' calling you 3 a.m. was lying. Regardless though, its a situation to avoid. I hesitate to point fingers. Sorry for your pain. Steer clear of drama and crises.
angelrider800 write: No, g/f...welcome to the adult world! This is where you find it within yourself to surpass the bullsh!t and come out of it a better person! Trust me on that! I've been played and by someone that posted in this very thread! Then, I was devastated..today? Well, today I can smile @ my foolishness and laugh @ his ignorance, and move forward! The best revenge is unplanned and usually administered by someone of a higher power than me..I'm content to let the chips fall where they may! My wish for you is that you feel freedom from the BS as quickly as you can! God's Blessings Sister!
yes, liers are amazing, i always felt sorry for them...i always felt how low they think of themselves and how pityful they are that they need to lie and play to make them selves feel worthy...worthy of what, i have no clue, but worthy of a good women's love will never come their way, and how sad for them........sure-i've been played, to be honest i don't know if i let it happen because maybe a-t that time i really needed to hear the words or i was just plain stupid (but the latter is one i hate to admit), but yea, i have been stupid......but i do know, if you need to play, play....because in the end, they do lose......and angel-you are a wize women there.........luvNWind....heal quickly and hold your head up high, you let someone in, and that is a wonderful capability to hold on to, it shows you still have a heart and can still love, don't let anyone take that from you, and as for the player, let him play....he's a loser....................-
LuvNWind write: Liars - hmmmm. And then there's the ones who say all the right things while hiding behind a computer screen (you're the only one, just you & only you, exclusive only to you, wanted to say 'I love you' so many times, one day we'll all be one, my feelings are getting stronger & stronger for you) --- only to discover (quite by accident) that he plays with other women on chat sites with strong suggestive sexual inuendos -- and when first confronted -- lies about chatting with others, trys to defend it by saying 'you're making a mountain out of a mole hill, you're being unreasonable, I wasn't the only one doing it, it's all in your mind, it's just silly adult fun' -- and still tries to profess how much he loves you & you're the only one he wants to attract.
Hmmmmm - what cha think. Is this a truly sincere person who cares deeply for you and only you --- someone who is trustworthy?
No, g/f...welcome to the adult world! This is where you find it within yourself to surpass the bullsh!t and come out of it a better person! Trust me on that! I've been played and by someone that posted in this very thread! Then, I was devastated..today? Well, today I can smile @ my foolishness and laugh @ his ignorance, and move forward! The best revenge is unplanned and usually administered by someone of a higher power than me..I'm content to let the chips fall where they may! My wish for you is that you feel freedom from the BS as quickly as you can! God's Blessings Sister!
Ladysundial, I am sorry that this happened to you, but as it has been said, players get on these sites because they can hide who they really are. Sad that there are people like that in this world, but reality is, the world is full of them. The upside is their true selves and idenities surface and the word gets around. No one likes getting played. Now everyone has this jerks number, thanks to you. He will have to move on down the road to get any more action. Thanks for the heads up. To the worm..... your days are numbered!
yes there are people who were in our lives--we may have loved deeply--yet ended and if changed, that part of our lifes, we would be incomplete--i will never not love my ex--because he is the father of my children and the grandfather of my grandkids--to try to change that--never
there are others that will always have a part of my soul and yes love but not with--for whatever reason
then we have friends we love, they are there for us and we for them when either needs to be picked up off the floor--literally or figuratively
love a small word with so many meanings and the ability to cause sooooooooo much hurt
yet we continue to seek it because when in the mist of true love--nothing compares--our souls are happy
"I won't tell you I love you unless I do, and if I do, that doesn't depend on whether we work out or not."
Zee...I couldn't agree with this statement more! I've said these three words very rarely in my life and have meant them each time I've said them! Unconditionally and wholeheartedly! The degrees of love are different..as are relationships between men and women...we need to be sure what status we hold in the other persons life...it's all so friggin mind boggling! lol I long for the days of my Barbie dolls and summer days of nothing but play time to worry about...being a woman is the hardest job I've ever had!
Zee doc I will be shaking my head for days on what you said, what a mouthful but oh so true,,,,
Keep the heart in check because words are easy to say but actions speak louder.
And people like to play people, sad but true.
Arkfan should of put swinging life style on his profile or during our first chat brought it up so that I can say no thanks not into that. I paid for this service he didn't. So I wasted a f* whole month chatting with this guy that I could of been chatting with someone else. I have been very honest with him with what I wanted in a person and do you think he could do the same for me???
Your spelling is very confusing. But to me it reads as if you're offering your sister up for a swap meet? Not sure if you mean that or if you need assistance with your post and profile. If it is correct that you are looking for some fun with your sister may I suggest one of the incest dating sites?
Ok, got truncated (ouch, careful with that axe Eugine) ...
The best friendships come out of what we felt as people for each other, and that includes lovers that didn't work out, but still loved each other.
Ok, this is totally sappy now, but it's fair dinkum real. Nobody can betray me until we're really "lovers" and that doesn't always mean sex. Ok, this is too weird, why I am posting this I have no idea.
Ride on, into the sunset, and never look back at those who didn't stay with you till the end.
Be careful how easily or not the feeling of "betrayal" comes on ... we try to hook up with folks and I'm sure most of us are hoping to meet someone that goes on to become something special, well I know I am anyway, and I doubt I'm alone in this at all.
We meet someone, where is it headed afterwards ? Sometimes we have no idea (at least I don't B) ... if the attraction and chemistry was not "wow !" in that first meeting, maybe we need to look elsewhere.
Maybe we need to go aout again. If we agree to go out again and in the meantime, another "chance" turns up ... well sometimes you have to invetigate if your current situation is slow, or maybe not working out. Maybe this new one will be the "wow !" and we all owe it to ourselves to experience that if the angels decide that's what we're going to get a shot at.
I am not into two timing or anything of that sort. I don't think it's a good idea at all. But if I'm not committed to a person on the MUTUAL understanding or attraction that says "OMG we have to give this a shot !" then both of us have every right to go out and look for exactly that.
It just gets kind of screwy when you're in the 1 time/2nd time phase, it may not have been "wow !" but you're not saying "see you later never again" either. That's where it gets hard to manage, and my advice is to not sweat developments, or rely on them, until you know each other a lot better and reach a point where you can, actually, be betrayed.
When you're not really ann item, it's hard to consider a change in planes a "betrayal" unless someone outright lied to you. I don't mean IMPLIED a lie, assumptions are dangerous things and you should try not to make any assumptions, they are almost always wrong. I mean an outright lie, where what was said is not what was done.
I won't tell you I love you unless I do, and if I do, that doesn't depend on whether we work out or not.