Chin up Roxie,,,I received some words of wisdom from a drill sargent in boot camp after receiving a "Dear John" letter..His advice was if you line up all the women in the world and put her at the end of the line, you'll never have a chance to meet..Works for anyone, for that matter.
Bigbear2000 write: nice of the guy to be so concerned. the ..... Shaddup Jess, less you offend someone. Naw, hell with it. If this guy "isn't the right man" for you, then why did he let the relationship go on for so long? Sorry, my friend. Though I try my best to be peaceful, somethings just irk hell outta me
Amen to that brother.
Roxie darlin, this is one of those speed bumps in life that leave us with a lesson learned and maybe a dent or 2 in the undercarriage, but you're a beautiful intelligent woman and although this bump hurt, you're still moving forward Sweetie. Just keep on truckin and don't look back, the man of your dreams lies ahead, not in the mirrors.
As for the question?
"Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice? Shame on me"
nice of the guy to be so concerned.
the ..... Shaddup Jess, less you offend someone.
Naw, hell with it. If this guy "isn't the right man" for you, then why did he let the relationship go on for so long? Sorry, my friend. Though I try my best to be peaceful, somethings just irk hell outta me
He*ll no, I wouldn't go back to the ex. He ended up with all the toys and will inherit millions. I paid for my son's clothes and activities myself. I took the high road on that one. He asked me back, I said NO Thanks. Just wish I had the strength and smarts to leave him sooner than I did! I thought I could 'glow anything right.'
It takes 2. I found out: No matter how hard I wanted it to work, there has to be someone willing to meet in the middle and do the relationship dance with me. It sounds so well-almost stupid now, when it's down on the page. Anyone can promise anything, but PROOF is in the pudding.
I hope to find my own Chocolate Pudding kinda'guy some day. In the mean time it is good friends who care that make it all worthwhile.
Roxie. I feel for ya. Truly. I won't add another layer of platitudes, while sincere - well, let's just say you'll find your way past this. You'll be fine. In answer to your query - I tried going back with my X and found out the true meaning of X really is "to cross out or delete". I should have learned the first time but sometimes I need to go through something twice before I learn. That's the ever-hopeful side to me. don't be fooled I'm no dummy. But with out hope...what have we got?
that story sounds so strangely familiar to me....right down to the ex wife and her kid. Sorry to hear that this has happened to you. Mine was 6 mths of wonderful then that call,damn those NC men. They say time heals all, I am just waiting to see if this is true
I'm sorry this happened to you but Life gets better, if you learn from the downs the ups are better too. This very thing happened to me but she told me she loved me and wanted to be with me on Friday, went to visit her friend in another state and never came home! WTF is up with that! But I think you should never get involved with someone if there is still something for your X. That's just living a LIE and i hate Liars and thieves. and child molesters. and women that kill there kids.and Dallas cowboys. Anyway get out there get some wind in ya face and enjoy life. Seeya on the road
Dear Roxie said: I really thought I had found someone special (well, he found me)Just goes to show, you never can tell.
No, you can't tell. It is really tough to take when someone decides to go back to the ex-wife or girlfriend. But, it is easy to tell that you have a good and kind heart! My best wishes for healing and tons of support from your friends.
You are better off my dear! Right now it seems like you arent but you will grow from this and the lesson you have learned. You are lucky that he called you and didnt just blow you off like some men would do. I have a rule that is in place from past heartaches as yours: I will not date anyone that is not 1 year for every 5 years of marriage or committment. Why? Because it takes that long to get to know yourself again and if you are recently divorced you have no clue what you want or where you want to go. I took the past 2 years off and am glad my heart has been broken because the man that wants me is out there and I will know it when we meet. But until then I will let it snap and date who I want and seek lots and lots for friends! Keep your chin up and smile!!!
I'm with bear, I take 5 good month over nothing. NEVER go back. There is a reason you broke up in the first place. They may call you a player afterwards. They may hate you afterwards. But there is a reason you broke up. Don't glue it back together.
ThighSyn write: Roxie, I too am so sorry for what happened. I immediately have a different feeling than just sorrow for you but anger for him as in the real sense of the word LOVE, it just isn't flip flopped around like that. Hang in there! Your a beautiful, sensitive woman. The right one is out there. Keep a smile on your face!!!
In answer to your question, go back to the ex? Only with me in a pine box filled with black widow spiders and a note on the outside: My final wish to you, money, drugs, booze and hoe's - open immediately...
I too am so sorry for what happened.
I immediately have a different feeling than just sorrow for you but anger for him as in the real sense of the word LOVE, it just isn't flip flopped around like that. Hang in there! Your a beautiful, sensitive woman. The right one is out there. Keep a smile on your face!!!
In answer to your question, go back to the ex?
Only with me in a pine box filled with black widow spiders and a note on the outside:
My final wish to you, money, drugs, booze and hoe's - open immediately...
I'm sorry to hear about what has happened to you.
I've always believed that if it didn't work out the first time, it sure won't work out the second. But, that is his loss.
The man apparently has no eyes with which to behold both your inner and outter beauty.
but like Maynard G. Krebs used to tell Dobie Gillis, in such times; "Yuh still got me, good buddy."
Roxie...my heart goes out to you. I have not had much time to read the messages on here but now I have all the time in the world....very same thing that happened to you...happened to me...just a few days ago. Got my heart ripped out....he went back to his wife. I've cried for 2 days...not eaten for 3...but hope Char's OHIO bash will help heal this broken heart...
Roxie, I'm so sorry for what you're going through right now & I've read everyone's thoughts & the words are very caring & comforting...It's so hard when you care for & love someone & you think this is it...he or she is the one...& then something like this happens or whatever else. There are two sayings that I read every day that as tough as it seems, I have to keep believing these words. "Patience...I will be rewarded" & "What is yours will come to you". From everything that I've read of what you've written on the Forum, you seem like a very caring, kind, loving, gentle soul. It is his loss for going back to his ex. From what friends tell me, they're an "ex" for a reason & going back to an "ex" for the most part doesn't work out. Hugs to you Roxie...Take care
roxie....i have read what eveyone has written to you, and they are right....listen, you are a beautiful and funny women with so much ahead of you....i wish i had a magic wand to ease this pain of yours, it is the worse pain i think there is...i could go one about this and that, but please try to remember he was just another stone you had to remove to get to the top of the rock......all this, on hindsite, will make sence when you do meet the one you are to meet, and to know that without all your experiences of the past, he could never have come to be....i hope this made some sence....if there is anything you need, don't hesitate
Roxie0215 write: Thanks babygirl, weenie and others who have offered words of encouragement & kindness. I guess my "so called" Prince fell in love with his princess, but decided to go back to the Queen (which lives near by). I have come to the conclusion that I am worthy and I won't kiss a lot of frogs to find my prince, for he will ride up to me on his beautiful steel horse one day and notice what a treasure he's found!
My heart goes out to all the women & men who have broken hearts and to those who are on the mend. I think the hardest part is that I miss his voice, especially before falling asleep, I'm sure the memories will fade in time.
Remember: That which does'nt kill you, will make you stronger.