jennyd write: i don't believe men or women are honest anymore especially when it comes to the internet.i recently found this out!! it's cool i guess . i should just be greatful he still loves me for the crazy lady i am! it's hard to know when its time to let go i believe when you love somebody you should never have secrets even if a "friend" is so many miles away......but when i love someone i love with all my heart and soul.i have been hurt by lies and deception my whole life so its no wander why i treat men the way i do.I'm overprotective!!!!i just feel if you say you love somebody and your totally committed to that person and in your heart you mean it then why do you need someone elses . shouldn't that person be enough for you??? if i am wrong please anyone out there please let me know. .i'm almost ready to give up on love. i might not have a beautiful face but i have a very beautiful heart!
no you are not wrong i wish you lots of luck and lots of happiness
I have been in the same situation here is my thought:
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.!
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime
baddawg write: What a powerful question to ponder over. I guess with most of us pilgrims (being biker guys), its tougher to be in touch with emotions and establishing relationships. I have only learned through experience that all of the wisdom and knowledge that we take in is only as good as the person we share it with. There is nothing like the excitement, emphatuation, or physical attractions to someone wanted that immediate need for gratification and I think a slower pace/path and road to friendship is the best approach to a sucessful meeting and match for whatever it is we all search for here. I think friendship should be the overwhelming precedent or protocol, because that way, I don't think we would feel loss, cheat, or betrayal. Have hope, and all things in there time will be.
well life gets shorter is it worth all the hassle lying it comes out in the end me thinks and then there is just sadness
I think sometimes we let the fantasy go on too long.. You wink, invite, e-mail for a while, talk for while (too long), then meet. By that time each person is on such a pedestal it easy to fall off. I say, wink, maybe invite. one or two e-mails, one or two calls, MEET already!! If its not going to work you haven't wasted too much time. Guys! If you're NOT into it have the B**ls to say so, don't waste a persons time. You liked them enough before the meeting! Have the courtesy to say "move on, it aint working for me". Its all good, no need for disrespect and drama.
harleyangeleyes4u write: WOW, hmmmm had a wall up for a long time due to being hurt and lies. Now Im wondering did I do the right thing coming back in here ?
All loves are not meant to last a lifetime. Some people go a lifetime never finding love.
My philosophy is this...
Grab love when you find it, embrace it as long as it lasts and be thankful your heart and soul are touched and forever changed in such a beautiful way.
Does it hurt sometimes? Sure..
Is it worth it in the big picture? Most definitely.
Open your heart, love yourself, lose any preconceptions of what it should be, and it will find you...
IndoorVoice write: Lemme bed ya ear for a quick second, I know its happened to several folks..Me as well... Ya start with a ewink, move to emails, maybe 3 to 5 a day, then ya proceed to messenger for a lil over a week, then ya do the call thing for and you talk several times a day,,EVERYTHING is GREAT !...The day comes where ya meet for lunch...the luncheon was super fun, great company and great food... Several days pass and you still havent heard from her/him... What in gods name went wrong ?...And if something went wrong or there wasnt a connection.. Why cant they openly admit it ?...
What a powerful question to ponder over. I guess with most of us pilgrims (being biker guys), its tougher to be in touch with emotions and establishing relationships.
I have only learned through experience that all of the wisdom and knowledge that we take in is only as good as the person we share it with. There is nothing like the excitement, emphatuation, or physical attractions to someone wanted that immediate need for gratification and I think a slower pace/path and road to friendship is the best approach to a sucessful meeting and match for whatever it is we all search for here. I think friendship should be the overwhelming precedent or protocol, because that way, I don't think we would feel loss, cheat, or betrayal. Have hope, and all things in there time will be.
Howdy everyone, Just want to throw my 2 cents worth in (hi Summer) well whats honesty have to do with ne thing I ask??
If one can't be honest with themself, there's no to be with others...which is sad in it's self. Honesty is never seen sitting astride the fence. Look at lies, We tell lies when we are afraid... afraid of what we don't know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie, the thing that we fear grows stronger.
sincerity is something that shouldn't be taken lightly, infact the lack of it has caused Wars, divide Family...it's the backbone of what we should be. True to each other, as they say the TRUTH speaks for it self!!!
I agree Mike, I would expect those type of games from Children not adults. I can handle to the truth, ignoring someone shows no respect that is what hurts. I always treat people the way I want to be treated, with Respect and honesty. I am sure there are real people on here. look forward to meeting new friends. was just curious about it. Sorry it has happend to you also.
I agree Mike. we are not children we are adults. I would expect that from children. I have always lived by... I treat people exactly the way I want to be treated. that would be RESPECT,HONESTY. Nothing hurts a person more than being ignored. Thanks for the reply nice to hear a mans side. lol.. I am learning most people are very much into games. LOL oh well learning expereince :)
I was doing a long distance relationship for months,just came back a few weeks ago. we talk all the time, things were going great we talk everyday. than out of the blue nothing, no calls or emails nothing total silence. funny when your in a realtionship,always say communicate and be honest. I have learned a hard one from this past relationship. no more long distance. thanks again..Summer
Mike: If you were closer, we could ride and let the wind sweep it all away.
Summer: I have heard of men and women who do the same thing. Several of them are on BK.
I don't get that kind of behavior, never will.
Life is too short, too fleeting to waste.
Hold fast to Dreams,
for if Dreams die,
Life is a broken winged bird;
that cannot Fly.
There are plenty of great people here to make friends with.
i hate that.i had the same thing happen to me.we meet for newyears everything seemed to go great and she even said she'd like to see me again.then bam no calles back or email replys.it would have been nice to at least get an email saing she decided she wasn't intrested.let get real people were not children ,were adults,at least most or us i think lol.we can handle the truth be honest,tell the truth for once.if not i hope it kicks you back in the as