Lemme bed ya ear for a quick second, I know its happened to several folks..Me as well... Ya start with a ewink, move to emails, maybe 3 to 5 a day, then ya proceed to messenger for a lil over a week, then ya do the call thing for and you talk several times a day,,EVERYTHING is GREAT !...The day comes where ya meet for lunch...the luncheon was super fun, great company and great food...
Several days pass and you still havent heard from her/him...
What in gods name went wrong ?...And if something went wrong or there wasnt a connection.. Why cant they openly admit it ?...
Folks, Honesty begins with your pictures on a dating site, If you are showing a six year old 35 pds ago picture. Your date is going to be very disappointed, If in the pic your yellow teeth dont show or you smell bad its not going to show in a text.Meeting someone for the first time does not mean they owe you anything.
I think there is some of the cream of the crop here to be found, but I dont think it is wise to expect that. In my book, expectations breed disappointments. By this I mean that whatever I come up with in my mind about a person after IM, text, chat, and phone calls may or may not come to be. So I don't let myself go there... I take every day as it comes, meet whoever where ever, and just see what happens. I know I'm a fun person to hang out with, and enjoy myself in whatever I do. I don't change who I am for anyone. I've met some great people here, people I will hang out with more, and continue to have fun with. But I'm not looking for my next ex, just fun. I am honest and upfront about my thoughts and feelings, and don't let other people's problems take up space in my head.
OH RELIEF IM NOT THE ONLY ONE..IM HERE FOR AN EAR I JUST WENT THROUGH THIS WITH SOMEONE HERE AND HE DECIDED TO BREAK IT TO ME IN A TXT MSG AFTER MY ENTIRE VACATION WAS PLANNED AROUND HIM!! I GOT TONS OF CALLS A DAY TXTS FLOWERS THEN COMES TO VISIT I GO SEE HIM AND BOOM ABOUT VACATION I MET SOMEONE IM SORRY..YEA HELP ME OUT HERE
YOU ARE ABSOLUTLY RIGHT ABOUT THE LIES ON BEING MARRIED AND NOT TELLIN YA..WHAT REALLY CHAPS MY ASS IS THE MARRIED ONES JUST WANTS TO JUMP IN THE SACK THEN GO BACK TO THE WIFE..THESE KIND JUST MAKE ME WANNA PUKE. THIS MAY BE A BAD THING TO SAY (PROBABLY WILL BE PUNISHED FOR SAYIN IT) BUT I REALLY HOPE THAT KIND GETS THE DEADLIEST DIEASES ANY MAN/WOMAN COULD EVER GET....AND WHAT WOULD THAT BE? "AIDS" THIS PIC I POSTED MEANS THAT KIND CAN SUCK MY ASS.....
Eh, just move on, motorcycles get plenty of miles to the gallon, so full throttle and flee ahead.. There are a lot of people on here to meet, to talk to, to share laughs with and to feel those butterflies with a real connection if thats what youre looking for..Try the blogs, theres a lot of fun and open minded people talking back n forth everyday.. The forums seem almost forgotten sometimes..
Ive shared winks, emails and "im"s with a few new people id like to be more familiar with as friends, but since im in a relationship most dont want to even speak to me.. But i dont give up, i take each encounter as a shiny new piece of chrome, in hopes ill see the sun shining off it around the next twisty turning corner i pass..
well all i want is to find one good man and be up front from day one, now i think thats a good deal .......dont y'all? i want to be his forever and him holding me as well as me holding him while riding down the hiway.
lonewolf661 write: I know the feeling well have met a few on here.Whats wrong with being honest we all have a past come on lets be real.One I dated for almost 4 mths found out the x lived across the street and was lied to from the beginning that things were over between them and for an added kicker all this came to my attention right before the holidays.
Oh, so that was your Hildiay present? OUCH!!! Merry freakin Xmas, happy freakin new year. OUCH!!!
A bite it the azz for the holidays, lovely thing to give to someone. Some people are just COLD hearted.
I know the feeling well have met a few on here.Whats wrong with being honest we all have a past come on lets be real.One I dated for almost 4 mths found out the x lived across the street and was lied to from the beginning that things were over between them and for an added kicker all this came to my attention right before the holidays.
I would like to bring this back to the top. A very good thread.
Many men and women can be less then honest.
The one thing I have learned about life is if you can not honest with yourself, you can be honest with nobody!!
I guess we have all gone through something that has torn out our heart.
The things that bother me most, are those who say they are divorced, then you find out they are not.
Then you find someone's profile, they catch your eye, they have a real good story about themselves and what they are looking for in a match. You see that person and after time they are not at all who they say they are. Hell life is change, I know I have changed the words on my profile many times. And or hid my profile, or changed the status.
HONESTY? WHERE DID IT GO????????
YES ITS TRUE THERE IS NO HONESTY OUT HERE , THE MEN SEEM TO LIE ALOT , THEY SAY THEY ARE SINGLE , BUT HAVE A WIFE OR GIRLFRIEND SOME WHERE, AND THAT MAKES IT BAD FOR THE REST OF THE GOOD GUYS OUT HERE, HOW ARE WE SUPPOSED TO TRUST, WHEN Y'ALL LIE TO US, ..
SpringerSoul write: and I here I thought I was the only magician that could make ladies do the disappearing act now I learn there are women with the same gift to make men disappear. Fantastic..but where do they go? and the trouble I have is are they ok? I mean when you email and converse with someone for a good period of time and they suddenly grow silent when their last words were sweet affection I pray for a t least or a week or more that no harm befell them because it is so easy to stay in touch now days.
I have seen the 7 Knights riding and Honesty's horse is a handsome mare. I believe they are a t the watering hole having a hard time finding an inn with a stable so they are making camp on the outskirts of the modern maze where people are lost in their own haze.
(BK your little Hitler text editing machine is really annoying--long live A T)
Isn't the word HITLER the true name of TEXAS? lolololololol OH WAIT,,, BUSH/Hitler, is from Texas ooooooooooooops
After spending all that time and energy through telephone conversations and emails, the day comes when you actually meet that person face to face. There is no connection, no physical attraction, no chemistry. Would you tell them immediately and leave them sitting? I wouldn't, I would stay and try to have a good time, remember why I am there because this is a person I learned to like over the coarse of several months and I would never want to hurt their feelings by being rude just because I didn't like the way they looked or because I didn't feel a strong attraction to them. I would hope I would get the same respect from them. I would feel horrible if I met someone, they took one look at me and made an excuse to leave right away. However, I would contact them later and be upfront and honest with them that I didn't think there could be anything more than friendship and hope that we could continue from there. The person who did you this way is a coward no doubt. But something I have learned is not to take it personally, just because one person isn't attracted to you, doesn't mean someone else won't be so hang in there girl!
Nothing happened to honesty, it's alive and well right along with compassion, trust, loyalty and love. And again, I have to bring up the fact that this post was created by someone with a hidden profile. Let's look at ourselves for the qualities we want in others before pointing fingers. In this day and age, there is no excuse for not having a picture and a profile. If you have something to hide, who's being dishonest?
Truthfulone write: If we all take to heart the way shallow people are we all would be walking around with a shot gun in our mouth,,,,, Guess some people don't want to hurt your feelings and just ignore the fact that they can't tell you the truth,,,, So they found somebody better, why can't they just say that and be an honest person, For me, I just start singing" Another One Bites The Dust". No matter how nice or good you are, there will always be someone who never learned how to treat people the right way....
If we all take to heart the way shallow people are we all would be walking around with a shot gun in our mouth,,,,,
Guess some people don't want to hurt your feelings and just ignore the fact that they can't tell you the truth,,,,
So they found somebody better, why can't they just say that and be an honest person,
For me, I just start singing" Another One Bites The Dust".
No matter how nice or good you are, there will always be someone who never learned how to treat people the right way....
I think Botarby8s put it really well. On the other hand, I think that some truth must be told, even if you hold back a little of it to spare someone's feelings. If I went out on a lunch date with someone and had an enjoyable time but the chemistry wasn't there, I'd simply say "listen, I don't know when I've enjoyed someone's company more, but I just don't feel that this relationship could go further than a friendly basis." Some people just don't have the social skills or the courage to say what's on their mind, especially when they know it might hurt someone's feelings a little. My advice? Be as honest as you can be. If you can't say it to their face because you're too bashful or scared, then call them, e-mail them, but tell them. I had a lot of respect for a woman I went to lunch with, and after a few hours of beers and wings we were leaving...she in her car and me on my bike. She said "I had a great time, but I'm just not attracted to you". Now I agree that some people couldn't handle that very well, but I'm realistic. Nobody is everybody's type. Some women like big, cuddly guys, while others like slim guys. That's why we come in all shapes and sizes. So I was really cool with what she said. I said "not a problem, I wish you the best finding someone" and we parted ways. We don't owe anyone we've just met a thing. If we aren't attracted to them for whatever reason...that's just the way it is. My philosophy is to be as polite as I can when rejecting someone, knowing that I'd want the same courtesy when it's my turn to get axed. So I wish you all well, and ride safe.