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Posted on Sat, Jul 02, 2005 11:38

My friends tell me I tend to be a bit too nobel at times. I guess they're right, in this case anyway. I must say responce to my profile has been great here. Better than at other sites I've tried. Must be the Bike thing. But I have a problem. I have been divorsed now for a little over 5 yrs. In that time, by choice I have not dated. Thought it better for once to take the time to get to know myself to avoid the messes I got myself into in the past.
I have to say I'm sorry to those that have responded to my profile. I know I haven't been doing my part on the contact side. But I'm having a problem contacting more than one person at a time. LOL for me it just doesn't seem right. For me it seems like cheating already. I know I have to make contact if I want to find new friends, it's great to go somewhere and find someone in the croud you know.
Help me out people I'm really having a problem here. Does this sound like anything, others of you are dealing with.
Chkn



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Posted on Fri, Jul 08, 2005 22:27

I got one question for you folks on the fence on this. How good a friend r
ya to yourself? Ah weedhooper then how will ya treat your friend, lover,fellow
biker,wanabe next door?



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Posted on Fri, Jul 08, 2005 21:57


mdamotocycle write:
Igot to put my 2cent in here.Most of
my exs made me who Iam today. Got to admit thers some good. The whole freind
deal is awin situation. Most of my great girlfriends Imet through freinds.


Meeting thru a friend is a good way to meet more friends. I agree. Maybe we all need to canvis more. One thing our close friends do know us. Only some times, I think they want to see us with someone so bad, they sometimes forget to remember ie..We like anchovies on our pizza. LOL
Chkn

  


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Posted on Fri, Jul 08, 2005 21:48

Chkn, you are not alone in your feelings. Even WAYYYYYYYYY back in high school, I had trouble dating more than one at a time. I feel like I am still a work in progress & being here among all these good folks helps in the growth. Yeah, I'd like to find "the one" but I want to make new friends too. I have learned the hard way that you have to be friends with your mate. You know, have more in common than just the s e x.
To Seemme, Secret Squirrel: thanks for all the words of wisdom, spiced with the humor. Though I have not met any of you, I feel when I come here, I am among friends.

  


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Posted on Fri, Jul 08, 2005 17:27

I am fairly new to BK, but have realized just from reading some of the posts that MOST folks here are on the same page - thanks for letting me post and read what incredible things you folks have to say - this is a wonderful topic that some folks are just scared to bring up - Hugs - L

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Posted on Fri, Jul 08, 2005 13:38

I've made friends on here that will be lifelong friends. Soulmate?? could be stay tuned, but in the meantime I'm havin a blast and makin friends all over the country and the world. Have met quite a few and will meet more. It's all been a good experience for me plus it makes it easier to spread the process of JOHNSONAZATION!!!!


I'mm gonna get ya all, and don't worry it feels so dam good it shouldn't be legal but it is, it don't take drugs or alcohol, but it's more fun, keep rollin you'll get it.

And to be clear 1 more time so people don't go south it ain't about copulation either!! It's a higher level of state of mind and it is the chit!!!!!!



GIDDYUP!!!

  


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Posted on Fri, Jul 08, 2005 10:46

O.K chicken winger

going to put my 5 cents in here....

I came to this site 2 years ago and have never left....I've made some of the most wonderful friends here and have done some traveling to see the real deal in person......I never came to get that forever after person just people in the same situations....

trying to pull there life out of the gutter..bottle..pills...bad relationships...loss of a friend..loveone...child...

we were in the bottom of the barrel and trying to get back into the wind again...

our freedom was revoked....

you don't have to be here and expect to find a soulmate....

just be here to be a friend and share your valued opinions with us....we will listen and give you are's ....

whether you like it or not...but either way your one of the family...

enjoy the ride in OZ!!!!!!!!!!!

  


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Posted on Fri, Jul 08, 2005 04:26

yep, gotta be best friends first...me and my husband were...thank-god, because the times we thought maybe we didn't love each other or one did and the other didn't. yada-yada---the friendship is what got us through---we would even tell each other what we were feeling, but being best friends we were able to understand it....and also, who do you like to hang around with, your best friend of course....it a winner all the way around.......it's stright shooting and no bull-chit

  


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Posted on Thu, Jul 07, 2005 21:39


adventure_angel99 write:
Strangely tho the few that I never chose that were my best friends were the ones that were the best for me.

Chkn
That's exactly why I am looking for friends first. Romantic relationships come and go, but friendship lasts forever. I want my next LTR to be my best friend first.



LOL!!! Why is it, this concept is just now coming to us?
Chkn



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Posted on Thu, Jul 07, 2005 19:14

Strangely tho the few that I never chose that were my best friends were the ones that were the best for me.

Chkn
That's exactly why I am looking for friends first. Romantic relationships come and go, but friendship lasts forever. I want my next LTR to be my best friend first.

  


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Posted on Mon, Jul 04, 2005 20:37

Igot to put my 2cent in here.Most of
my exs made me who Iam today. Got to admit thers some good. The whole freind
deal is awin situation. Most of my great girlfriends Imet through freinds.



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Posted on Mon, Jul 04, 2005 17:24

CHKN.....not to worry and seem me is right, some demons are family in origin and bad choices, but at least we now know what not to choose...ah, hell.....sometimes we still do it, but each time it is one step closer....did we tell you we are all moving to florida..............lol.............PS,,,hell ya were good...........



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Posted on Mon, Jul 04, 2005 15:16


chkn write:

seeme1st write:

beatitudes_5 write:
chkn.........trust me, you will have no problem finding someone.......lol......and yes the old screaming demons do haunt us from time to time, but i guess we just have to find the demon hunter to have them destroyed............so maybe we should apply for demon hunters in the profile----wonder if it would work?.....hummmmmmmm



and some of the deamons are from family of orgin issues that were never dealt with---so we need to make sure we look inside to make sure we aren't choosing the same type of partner again


You girls are good! For years for one reason or another I never chose the ones I should of for a partner. But later after taking some poll on line about three years ago. I discovered what trates in the women I chose I need to stay out of a relationship with. Strangely tho the few that I never chose that were my best friends were the ones that were the best for me.
Guess that's the sins of a Gemini?
Chkn



not the sin of gemini's Chkn--it is the problem with most--i'm an aries and i've done the same thing--most men in my life had been none huggers--i am a hugger and i will not settle again!!!! and yes there is more to that like communication and all that goes with it

  


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Posted on Mon, Jul 04, 2005 15:11


seeme1st write:

beatitudes_5 write:
chkn.........trust me, you will have no problem finding someone.......lol......and yes the old screaming demons do haunt us from time to time, but i guess we just have to find the demon hunter to have them destroyed............so maybe we should apply for demon hunters in the profile----wonder if it would work?.....hummmmmmmm



and some of the deamons are from family of orgin issues that were never dealt with---so we need to make sure we look inside to make sure we aren't choosing the same type of partner again


You girls are good! For years for one reason or another I never chose the ones I should of for a partner. But later after taking some poll on line about three years ago. I discovered what trates in the women I chose I need to stay out of a relationship with. Strangely tho the few that I never chose that were my best friends were the ones that were the best for me.
Guess that's the sins of a Gemini?
Chkn

  


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Posted on Mon, Jul 04, 2005 15:00


softail1999 write:
Like you at the start I had problems communicating with more than one person at one time.. Did feel like cheating to me also.. I come to realize that chatting and communicating with others isnt cheating, your forming a friendship first. Friendships are built-- and through friendships, relationships can take shape.. Whether these relationships form an exculsive couple, is up to you and the other person... Friendships can last a lifetime, where as relationships come and go...


OK---Yeah it's hard. I mean it's hard when we know our own intentions are true. Maybe it's because the word "friends" has been misused so much by others as a "line"? I guess we only have one direction to follow and if others can't see it, maybe it would be best to just move on. Not taking it so personal. Then it might not be us but them. I guess.
So with all your help, I guess it's time I started gaining some "Pen Pals"
T/Y
Chkn



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Posted on Mon, Jul 04, 2005 12:16


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chkn.........trust me, you will have no problem finding someone.......lol......and yes the old screaming demons do haunt us from time to time, but i guess we just have to find the demon hunter to have them destroyed............so maybe we should apply for demon hunters in the profile----wonder if it would work?.....hummmmmmmm



and some of the deamons are from family of orgin issues that were never dealt with---so we need to make sure we look inside to make sure we aren't choosing the same type of partner again

  


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Posted on Sun, Jul 03, 2005 18:57

chkn.........trust me, you will have no problem finding someone.......lol......and yes the old screaming demons do haunt us from time to time, but i guess we just have to find the demon hunter to have them destroyed............so maybe we should apply for demon hunters in the profile----wonder if it would work?.....hummmmmmmm

  


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Posted on Sun, Jul 03, 2005 18:29

Oh I forgot, yeah I do live far from most but for me that won't be a problem. If she's out there no matter where I can move. Cause she'll know I need room for 7 bikes.

  


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Posted on Sun, Jul 03, 2005 18:19


beatitudes_5 write:
chkn.....i understand what you are saying about one person at a time, i have felt like that also, but seeme1 is right, some will only be friends, pen pals, ect.....lets face it, you are mighty far from alot of us, to bad.....now that you have found what you are about, go out and share yourself with someone, you might get a pleasant suprize........good luck



Seeme1st does seem like a smart lady. I shared something with her. So she will understand this more, than others. I think one thing I was afraid of was that I would make some new friends and then might have to give them up later. I guess once demons are gone you still never forget thier screams. GLad you're thinking to keep on searching. I'll never stop. But I also know it may take some time.
Chkn



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Posted on Sun, Jul 03, 2005 06:51

Like you at the start I had problems communicating with more than one person at one time.. Did feel like cheating to me also.. I come to realize that chatting and communicating with others isnt cheating, your forming a friendship first. Friendships are built-- and through friendships, relationships can take shape.. Whether these relationships form an exculsive couple, is up to you and the other person... Friendships can last a lifetime, where as relationships come and go...



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