I used to be shocked/hurt when someone lied to me....now I am more surprised when someone tells me the truth.
When I am around someone and I hear them lying to others...just tells me not to believe as word they say to me either.
Most people can't handle the truth anymore b/c they never get it. They are too used to be told what they want to hear or what makes the other person look better or the 'convenient' explanation. Makes me wanna puke. That's why when they get told the 'truth' they can't handle it or they thing the other person is 'nuts, rude, insensitive, etc.
Peeps need to get in the mindset of honesty....just tell the truth...then we would all get used to dealing with it.
Sorry to hear that Ike, been there a few times myself. Honesty is more precious than gold and more rare than a perfect diamond. Relationships today are almost impossible to maintain over a long period because people are used to everything being disposable. Leave her behind and move on. Good luck my man, there are some really awesome ladies out there, sometimes you just gotta dig thru the dirt to find the treasure.
We've all been there Ike.And I'm sorry you're going through this.
I had the same thing happen to me over a year ago. The guy(not man) lied about a lot of things too. Then about six months later he insisted we be freinds because he stayed friends with alllll his ex-g/f's). Nope.Told him he wasn't trustworthy as a b/f,why would he be anything different as a friend? I lose all respect for liars
Been there myself Ike. just have to learn and grow from it and look for all the red flags.. Don't let it stop you from finding that wonderful woman .. she is there all in good time. Dont settle for less.
IKE: I am sorry that happened to you, so many variables to look at.The type of women u choose (same for men w/me)Don't get caught with the outward appearance only look at the heart and integrity. Makes me mad when women aren't honest because then it makes it hard for a good honest women like myself, we have to pay for it to!! Think you are better off!
You know the saying "what goes around comes around" it will happen when it is least expected.
Those who choose to play games will get played in the long run themselves.
We are at points in our lives where either we have been down the long road and have chosen to learn from it OR there are the ones who would rather not learn, ignore the rules of life and never find the happiness they want which by the way can only be found within them self. Some people have gone looking and seeking without taking the time to understand there own needs,wants,desires...I will admit I have been one of them --- but no more! I have learned and will not play the game anymore for I am happy now with me!
Ike sorry you had that happened to you but there are a lot more good times ahead and keep the faith!!!