just everyone remember nobody is perfect and sometimes you need to reach deep inside yourself to find forgiveness for someone that you care about - I have been guilty of not doing this in the past and maybe I passed judgemet too fast and maybe cost me happiness I might have had. I am not a really religious person but was raised catholic and many of the things I was taught as a young boy still stick with me. I will always try to give a person I love a chance to explain their actions and I may not be strong enough to forgive them but that is my weekeness and has nothing to do with their actions. But none the less it's not me they need to get that from -it all comes from being at peace with yourself and to be happy with yourself. If you don't respect yourself no one will respect you . Just don't forgret if you are at peace with yourself then you life will be full of happinnss. Look inside yourelf to find the truth
I've been reading the post and wanted to say first off thank you for your kind words during my time of need. More importantly from what I can tell reading thru all the post since I've been on this site you are truly an awesome person and I agree with what you say about Christians being quick to judge, I take people for what they show me My Grandmother used to tell me all the time, it's not our job to judge people God will do that when the time comes. Don't beat yourself up for what someone else thinks or judges you for your'e too good a person.
Well what a nice suprise! Welcome Moon!! Thank you for your encouraging and true words...your post had me curious...are you a Christian? It would be tough to live upto someone else's "standards" I do agree with everyone there...but if his family was Christian and you weren't I can imagine how uncomfortable that would be...sometimes Christians (and I am one) are the worst at judging! LOL ..BAD SINNERS!! LOL! Anyway...thanks again!
Dynamal write: and I could be....ah....well...ah... Hey...what's left? I know...I could be crowd control... or hey..do you have any older sisters??? how about cousins?? What's your Mom doin??? hehehe... now that's what I'm talkin about!!! OK no kiddin H1A...the strength is bein secure enough to show vulnerability ... even if there is a chance of lookin foolish or weak... see...so what you perceive as a weakness is actually a great strength.... a Grace....because you don't even know you have it... During your time of sadness you give to us thru your power of example that we can trust each other enough to be open. You took the chance... now we can. So...I thank you for that unmerited gift. You are truly a woman of dignity and honor... now...back to Mom...hehehe...
I know what position is open....um...husband? ROFL!!!!!
and I could be....ah....well...ah... Hey...what's left? I know...I could be crowd control... or hey..do you have any older sisters??? how about cousins?? What's your Mom doin??? hehehe... now that's what I'm talkin about!!!
OK no kiddin H1A...the strength is bein secure enough to show vulnerability ... even if there is a chance of lookin foolish or weak... see...so what you perceive as a weakness is actually a great strength.... a Grace....because you don't even know you have it...
During your time of sadness you give to us thru your power of example that we can trust each other enough to be open. You took the chance... now we can.
So...I thank you for that unmerited gift. You are truly a woman of dignity and honor...
now...back to Mom...hehehe...
Dyna, Seeme, DD81, Spado, Smile---Thank you first of all for taking the time and giving yourselves to me...I REALLY thank you! I know you guys are here...I hate that I even feel this way because I would love to be "miss strong" "know it all" "dont have any problems" Blah Blah Blah...but I'm not as you can tell...when something like this happens to someone else..I see the beauty in them and can encourage..but when it happened to me...well...it just plain ol' hurts a girl..ya know? It goes back to that old "mask" thing....so I took it off finally and KaBlam!!!! Ahhhhhhhh! Makes you feel like puttin' it back on...LOL...but....fawgitaboutit!!!
You know I think the real problem is....I want to get married and have a man live happily ever after...love someone....ride off into the sunset....so I start thinking about what it would be like to be with that person....and he was a GOOD one to think about!!! LOL!!! I RARELY am attracted to very many men in my life and I really was attracted to this one...everything felt right...so I was getting all excited thinking about the possibilities...ok...I'm done for now..just rambling..
I joined this dating site to get a date! But I am getting to know some pretty neat people instead...I'll take it...and be content with where I'm at...but boy when I get married ALL you guys have to come to my wedding...just make a row of bikes for me to walk down....deal??? Thanks again......**SMILING**
smile2005 write: "I feel like I wasn't "good" enough for him....you know what a terrible feeling that is?"
H1A? Maybe he's not good enough for you...I think you are a wonderful & beautiful woman & I'm so glad that you & I had a chance to talk while out in NYC. Hugs to you my friend...
Here's something that Cinderella shared with me & I'm going to share it with you...
My ability to love and feel for you is a part of who I am, not a part of who you are. Your ability to feel for me, or lack thereof, is a part of who you are, it is NOT a reflection on me.
i agree with that--YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH--he isn't---if he was he would see the true you--into what is truely in your soul and what your spirit consists of
Christi--remember this--it isn't his place to judge you just as it isn't your to judge him--WE ALL HAVE DONE THINGS IN THE PAST THAT WEREN'T 100% NONE OF US ARE PERFECT--SOME STRIVE FOR IT--ACCEPT YOU IMPERFECTION AND LIVE THE BEST YOU CAN
remember to ere is human and to forgive devine
you are a magnificant woman--the Lord made you--so live in his glory
Good Morning H1A...
I am sorry that you are hurtin..
What I see is that your inner and outer beauty match... that doesn't happen often with people.
You are a loyal friend even when being loyal isn't the popular position.. that takes strength and commitment. I really respect that you don't leave anyone behind...
Our past helps make us what/who we are. I'm thinkin that your past helped create the lovely lady that is H1A..and that God isn't finished with you yet.
I have seen your kindness here.
It must really blow that your prospect wasn't all that he could be. Doesn't matter the reason...it's gotta hurt.
Your friends here can be with you while you go thru it...
I appreciate that you have the courage and trust to post about it. That honors all of us.
Please get back when you can...
We will be here...
Take the experience and learn what you can from it. The good of it and the bad of it. Think about it from other points of view, yours, his, and the unknown passerby.
Personally, I feel that if someone passes judgement and doesn't want to know you because they perceive you as having a fault, then it is ALL their problem.
Pray for understanding for and of yourself. Pray for peace in the heart of that person who didn't forgive. Pray that you accept anothers scorn and that you grow from it. Pray that you maintain the courage to stay on your chosen path.
Remember, not judging others is good, but we must also not judge ourselves until all the facts are in. If your actions are honest in your own heart, then God knows this. The Creator is the ONLY judge and guides you through your heart.
I wish you peace in your heart always as well as in this matter.
OK....confession time...don't even know who or if anyone is going to read this..but here it goes..
I met someone I REALLY liked on a christian dating site..gorgeous man...godly man...I KNEW he really liked me and the feeling was mutual..we were just getting to know eachother after about 2 months..the whole thing just felt right..
We started talking on the just before going to NY and I think I made a HUGE mistake..
My first post on this thread was a confession of wanting to do good or be a bad girl...blah blah blah...well...
I am on something called livejournal and basically you say anything you want on it just to relieve stress or say what is on your heart...it's a live journal. So during this last little phase of mine I said some things that weren't well let's just say should come from a christian girls mouth! If he only knew all of it! Man!
So he read it...I think I just lost the guy I am supposed to be with!! Dammn!!! He wrote me when I came back from NY and dumped me flat on my A$$!! Out of the blue...I am sooooooo upset right now...havent stopped crying since I've been back.
That's exactly why I have stopped judging people for what they do or don't do as far as "sinning" is concerned. It just makes them feel bad. I feel like I wasn't "good" enough for him....you know what a terrible feeling that is? I am so upset!!!!! I just feel like ..well...being a complete sh!thead like I used to be!!!!!! It is no friggin good to even be honest anymore! F@CK SH!T F@CK ME RUNNING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Bigbear2000 write: Confession,huh? Well folks, I fear the old bear is a fake, who lets people see only what he choses. I really do try to retain my Peace, but it's a struggle at times. Recently had an emotional setback and instead of accepting that "all is as it should be", I want to come out fighting. I have no Peace and thoughts of violence not only against the system, but to adjourn to the local bar and find someone upon which to vent my anger, fill my head. The only qualifications required is; is male, bigger than me and can defend himself. ha. So, I guess my confession is that Bigbear is a fake.
Yes Jess, you are a fake.Anyone who isnt perfect is a fake. The bible tells us toCONFESS our sins one to another. Anyone who admits not always doing as they should is a sinner. BUT! the CONFESSION of a sinner he isnt as good as he would like to be, not just for himself, but for his brothers also, IS the ultimate truth and shows our need for Christ. The truth sets you free! I too, am a faker. Love you brother!
Harleys1Angel write: I'm struggling right now between being REALLY BAD and REALLY GOOD.. I have been in this struggle for about 6 mo's now. I'm finding it hard to stay a "really good Christian". I am just asking for prayer in this matter for those that pray. ty
You're not alone...regardless if people admit it or not, we all struggle with the "good" and the "bad", some of us more often that others. Be true to yourself, do what your heart and gut instinct tells you. Sometimes, the other "feelings" can get in the way, but in the end you'll know what you need to do, and not do. Sometimes we make a choice that isnt in our own best interest, but we have to learn by them, grow from them and become a better person. Many good blessings to you.
Harleys1Angel write: Spado---how'd you night go last night???
Great H1A....Thanks for thinking of me.
I'll ee mayul you about it one of these days.
That Dream Catcher is coming too, soon.
Things going good for me,(my mind) right now. An uplift from the doldrums of depression I was living in a short time ago.
When this happens and I see the light again, I believe this means prayers have been answered, your prayers, my prayers.
As time seems to heal all wounds, many of us live through difficult situations and as time passes, the situation gets better.
Who is to say that it isn't the prayers asked of The Creator that heals us and softens the blow of tragedy?
Confess to yourself if not in here that which you know to be right for you. You have the power in your heart. All you need do is put forth your own effort.