Question for the Men Relationship

  • View author's info posted on Dec 26, 2005 11:25


    NASCAR6FAN write:

    revolutionarypassion write:
    Here's a new question for the guys...
    Beginning with a short scenerio:

    You broke up with someone. Got involved with someone new. Had the new girlfriend move in.

    While with the new girlfriend, the ex contacts you. Misses you. You tell her you miss her...

    The new girlfriend finds out. You tell the new girlfriend that the contact means nothing. You tell her that you love her and that the words didn't mean anything to you, because you believe actions speak louder than words. And the words are like a story...not real. You tell her that you love her and want her...and that you are sorry for the communication with the ex, because you knew that it wasn't going to go anywhere because 'that's how she is and she's never going to change'.

    So...some time goes by and you and your girlfriend are trying to get over this issue with your ex. Your girlfriend is hurt and feels like you've betrayed some of your love, but she's willing to work things out.

    Your girlfriend finds out that the communication didn't stop, and that you are telling the ex that the two of you (the ex and you) will be together again, but you tell the girlfriend that your conversation revolved around you two getting over one another and that she (the ex) has a new guy.

    Here's my question...

    Why tell the girlfriend and the ex these lies?

    Rev.... there's no logical reason for this wild pack of lies being spun by this person , the only actual reason these lies are being spun is because this person thinks solely of themselves and they are selfish in every sense of the word , eventually the ex will be lied to again and that ex will get tired of the lies and dump this person on their deceitful aZZ , so in the long run this person will get what's coming to them, what goes around... comes around...


    I agree with Stan. Stand back and watch this relationship blow up in his face also. Most don't want good and stable. They want what they can't have.

    Hopefully,with therapy,if they are humble enough to realize they need it,most can overcome their demons and be able to obtain a healthy,normal relationship.
  • View author's info posted on Dec 26, 2005 11:17


    1viking1 write:
    I've given second chances and have come to learn the hard way that they don't work. No seconds chances anymore...under ANY circumstances.
    I've given second chances and have come to learn the hard way that they don't work. No seconds chances anymore...under ANY circumstances.



    I gave someone a second chance. I don't regret it at all. We were in a new relationship,and he decided he wanted something closer to home. I was hurt,but knew I had too much pride to be with someone who didn't want me. For some unknown reason,we found our way back to one another.I,ME,I gave a second chance. I have no one to point the finger at this time but myself.

    Will I be hurt again? Possibly,maybe not. But to me,it was worth it.
    We are taking it slow,becoming friends,not rushing into anything,I'm having the time of my life.Love is too precious for maybe's,or what if's.

    Not all second chances can be regretted. I know I don't regret mine at all.
  • View author's info posted on Dec 26, 2005 08:21


    <---- Agrees with Huntr .... the female in this party deserves better, and hey, the man don't like it when the shoe is on the other foot; maybe she needs to try administering the proverbial dose of his own medicine :)

    Angel --- HE MIGHT. Bud? >;-)
  • View author's info posted on Dec 26, 2005 07:46


    revolutionarypassion

    its called having your cake and eating it too

    one day he will grow up
  • View author's info posted on Dec 22, 2005 14:18


    LunarSoul write:
    BUD'S HOT TOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Ok, sis...WHO is Bud and does he have a brother/?????
  • View author's info posted on Dec 22, 2005 14:04


    BUD'S HOT TOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • View author's info posted on Dec 20, 2005 18:29


    cabledude write:
    I been divorced getting close to about 10 years.This is the first dating site I have joined I have met people from the chat rooms m sn,yahell,both I almost got remarried once thought it would be great then when she started moving in she kinda lost it ,by that I meen she had some phsycotic episodes, had to go spend sometime in the hospital,I guess I have a sheltered life that was strange to me, she decided that she would have to work out her problemson her own.So, anyway I have been kinda leary about on line relations.I hope someday to find the right lady one who will be understanding,and will live with both feet on the ground but always looking up for more,Yea I like to dream,but I know it takes hard work and determination to make it I want a woman who won;t give in or give up ,i survive day to day.I enjoy what my life has to offer and wish for someone who can feel the same if it' rolling down the highway on the way to a big bike meet or fishing out on a big lake and camping under the stars,hearing the song of nature calling.I am a pretty simple person don;t take that much to make me happy I wish to find a lady who is happy with herself,because i believe that if you can;t be happy with yourself you can never be happy with anyone else.So let me know if this makes sense to some of you ,does to me .


    Total Package!! yup!
  • View author's info posted on Dec 20, 2005 15:02


    I thnk it makes a lot of sense cable but what do i know lol
    married divorced, married divorced lol :@)
  • View author's info posted on Dec 20, 2005 14:57


    heritage99 write:
    If someone wants out, that means they don't want to be with you. Period. Why let them back in? It'll only bite you in the ...... in the end.
    If someone wants out, that means they don't want to be with you. Period. Why let them back in? It'll only bite you in the...... in the end.


    I like this one its so true lol and i could not reply to this without removinbg all the a s ss words how bizarre is that
  • View author's info posted on Dec 19, 2005 14:31


    I been divorced getting close to about 10 years.This is the first dating site I have joined I have met people from the chat rooms m sn,yahell,both I almost got remarried once thought it would be great then when she started moving in she kinda lost it ,by that I meen she had some phsycotic episodes, had to go spend sometime in the hospital,I guess I have a sheltered life that was strange to me, she decided that she would have to work out her problemson her own.So, anyway I have been kinda leary about on line relations.I hope someday to find the right lady one who will be understanding,and will live with both feet on the ground but always looking up for more,Yea I like to dream,but I know it takes hard work and determination to make it I want a woman who won;t give in or give up ,i survive day to day.I enjoy what my life has to offer and wish for someone who can feel the same if it' rolling down the highway on the way to a big bike meet or fishing out on a big lake and camping under the stars,hearing the song of nature calling.I am a pretty simple person don;t take that much to make me happy I wish to find a lady who is happy with herself,because i believe that if you can;t be happy with yourself you can never be happy with anyone else.So let me know if this makes sense to some of you ,does to me .
  • View author's info posted on Dec 19, 2005 14:25


    AMEN! Lunar !
  • View author's info posted on Dec 18, 2005 17:53


    Fret not Noty .... it happened once, it will happen again, not that I'm wishing it on you .... bikers are a different breed. I have learned to take each day as a blessing and I have no expectations. This way I am never disappointed, and I will always have my smile. Just remember, everyone comes into your life for a reason. This guy left something behind. You just have to find it, learn from it, remember it, and be thankful for it. :) PEACE
  • View author's info posted on Dec 18, 2005 16:31


    notythots write:
    Why are some of the men even on this site? I won,t say names but wish I could to warn some ladies that are seriously looking for the right 1. I met a man (as I choke to say man) everything was awsome, the rides, the fun we had, etc.. then without a word he was gone... no calls no messages nothing.. finally made contact with him.. his answer? LOL "I liked you to much so I got scared and ran" (so we slowed it down to no communication at all) so anyways if your profile says your looking for LTR, then why do you blow us off when everything is good? I won,t lose sleep over this man but it sure has me confused..
    Why are some of the men even on this site? I won,t say names but wish I could to warn some ladies that are seriously looking for the right 1. I met a man (as I choke to say man) everything was awsome, the rides, the fun we had, etc.. then without a word he was gone... no calls no messages nothing.. finally made contact with him.. his answer? LOL "I liked you to much so I got scared and ran" (so we slowed it down to no communication at all) so anyways if your profile says your looking for LTR, then why do you blow us off when everything is good? I won,t lose sleep over this man but it sure has me confused..

    I met two different people on THIS site that sort of happened like that. I went out with one on 3 dates and we had a great time. Then, POOF, she was overwhelmed or something.

    Then I went out with another and we had a really good time for a weekend. Then the same thing.
    I treated very well and I don't quite get it. I would really like to meet someone, but maybe this isn't the right place.
  • View author's info posted on Dec 18, 2005 09:26


    Shovelhead,

    I agree about the hurting with the truth rather the a lie - but a person can have some tact.

    As far as second chances - Have you never needed a second chance about anything??? WOW !! Why don't I believe that. Comes off sounding pretty darned arrogant.

    A person can run from a relationship for any number of reasons. Sometimes the relationship is lost and once in a while it simply needs a little time. Sometimes it might even take being with someone else for one person to realize how much the other person really means to them. ( I don't condone infidelity in a marriage or commited relationship -if you want to do that - break up first!)

    I am a big believer in second chances under the right circumstances ( 3 times and you're out!). I am also a big believer in "if it isn't right for one of you , it isn't right for either of you." But, remember, "you snooze, you can lose"; I won't ever be sitting around waiting for someone to come to their senses - life is too short.

    JMO
  • View author's info posted on Dec 16, 2005 20:04


    Excellently put jerryw13!
  • View author's info posted on Dec 10, 2005 15:18


    I tell women that I will hurt them with the truth long before I hurt them with a lie. I didn't give my ex's a second chance, and I loved them enough to marry them, so why would I give someone else a second chance. Harsh but true words, and I live by them. Single at the moment, could have something to do with it. But I wouldn't have it any other way.
  • View author's info posted on Nov 22, 2005 09:19


    Sad but true. Some men are just idiots. Some women are too of course.

    Whatever you do don't give an idiot a second chance. You deserve better than that
  • View author's info posted on Nov 14, 2005 22:16


    LOL @ ever ready, I find Duracell lasts longer
  • View author's info posted on Nov 14, 2005 19:01


    Happy 2 crack you up....
  • View author's info posted on Nov 12, 2005 21:07


    So the men are acting like women?
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