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Posted on Wed, Oct 05, 2005 19:51


jerryw13 write:
Hi MsKitten, no such thing as too picky, the only one you need to satisfy is yourself.



Jerry's right. You need to make sure that you satisfy yourself. The thing that caught my eye though was the fact that you sampled 25 pieces of merchandise, and left the store empty handed.

I know when I get like that, there's a reason that I leave the store empty handed and the reason usually lies within me.

But.... keep shopping. It can be fun.



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Posted on Wed, Oct 05, 2005 19:41

To which Miss Kitty and Pa I politely say "balderdash". In my humble opinion, if you like the person alot, but can't abide one or two little things about them,; ask them politely to stop. Maybe they don't even know they are doing it or even if they do, perhaps do not realize that it bothers you.Be communicative with us poor imperfects, or you may find that you tossed out the right guy with the dishwater. : )



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Posted on Wed, Oct 05, 2005 17:23


msbikerkittenmi write:
I have dated about 25 men this year and I think I am just too picky.If they do one thing that might remotely "bug" me , I never give them a second chance.And It's real little things too.Like chewing with mouth open , or they pack there pack of cigerettes like 400 times.I mean these arent real big issues but I can't seem to look past these things .So Am I too picky?



Yikes! I would say that is definitely too picky (at least for me)!

wnjjbill hit it on the head with:

"You just need to find somebody who has quirks you can live with."


...and...

"When seeking perfection, you loose before you begin."


More power to ya' if you feel the need to be that picky, if it works for you.

jerryw13 also has a good point with:

"...the only one you need to satisfy is yourself. "


However, consider the consequences of both. Using your example above, and assuming all else is equal - let's say 'Mr Packsalot' is SOL cuz he has no second chance. So today you are lonely - conversely, let's say you showed him by packing your smokes 10 times, you both whip out a cigarette and compare butts - hmmm, same result. Mr. Packsalot decides to adopt your methods and you both live happily ever after.....packing only 10 times. No more "annoyance" and no more lonely nights....

Is something as trivial as some guy trying to pack his 100-size smokes into a more non-filtered regular blend length REALLY worth dismissing the potential to be 'happily-ever-after'?

I think not! But again, the decision is entirely up to you.

Using only the information you gave, this makes me conclude the answer to your question is -- YES.

Best of luck finding that which you seek.

  


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Posted on Wed, Oct 05, 2005 15:40

I don't think you are too picky. I think that these little things that annoy you are telling you that you just haven't found the right one yet. They are just little signs that you shouldn't waste too much time unless it is to just have fun. When the right one appears, you won't care if he packs his cigs on his head in public or walks around biker events wearing camo pants with tie die tee-shirts in clashing colors. I know this because I could have written your post--I am having the same experience. Only when there is true love can you fully accept someone for who they are, quirks and all.



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Posted on Wed, Oct 05, 2005 14:11

Hi MsKitten, no such thing as too picky, the only one you need to satisfy is yourself.

  


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Posted on Wed, Oct 05, 2005 13:30

Well, everybody has their little quirks. You just need to find somebody who has quirks you can live with.

But to answer your question, yea, it sounds like you're being a little picky. When seeking perfection, you loose before you begin.



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