Msbikerkitty write: I have dated about 25 men this year and I think I am just too picky.If they do one thing that might remotely "bug" me , I never give them a second chance.And It's real little things too.Like chewing with mouth open , or they pack there pack of cigerettes like 400 times.I mean these arent real big issues but I can't seem to look past these things .So Am I too picky?
MKB.. I don't think you are being too picky. I think you are looking for the real thing and not just good enough. We get to an age where having a good time isn't what its all about to us anymore and we are truly seeking our match.
Sounds to me like you know what you are looking for and he just hasn't come along yet. Don't change a thing, when its the right one you won't beable to find anything you don't like. All the little quirks will be SOOOO CUTE!! Ha ha.
IKE2005 write: You are not being to picky for the small things. Your last post said the best thing ever you stop looking for love. Now out of nowhere your match may show up. If a person looks for love one never finds it. It has been my experience that love knock you in the head when you lest expect it. Good luck finding your match MS Kitty. And here is something for V day
I have to agree here....it took almost two years to be happy with myself and know that I was ok by myself. Until I got to that point I didn't really think about meeting and or dating someone. I had stopped looking, not because I didn't want someone to share my life with, I just didn't make it a priority. Ya'll know my story here, I have found the most wonderful man and I plan on keeping him!!
You are not being to picky for the small things. Your last post said the best thing ever you stop looking for love. Now out of nowhere your match may show up. If a person looks for love one never finds it. It has been my experience that love knock you in the head when you lest expect it. Good luck finding your match MS Kitty. And here is something for V day
Your Dam Right you better be picky girl!
But exactly what is bothering you? Not saying your annoyed at every little thing butttt What it is you need to decide is - What exactly do you want and don't want and when you meet someone let that person do the talking. and "JUST LISTEN." If you hear something that you dont like or observe something you not agreeing with then YOU CAN ALWAYS SPRAY THEM WITH A WATER BOTTLE! (HISSSSSSSS) LOL! 25 HUH ? LOLOL
I dont feel your being picky your being smart for you and your daughter as well.
See, you have to live with the one you choose...FOREVER..
You better be picky.
On the flip side... When we really care for someone and get "THAT" feeling? You know the "ONE"
Lot's of things we might otherwise find annoying..go unnoticed. They become insignificant in comparison to how you "FEEL" as it should be...
Everything is.... relative. P.S. 25 this year???? LOL
oh gees no not this year that was from last year...and i didnt sleep with them they were all first dates...I just keep trying , I dont give up on things easily so .But this year has been different and I am not looking anymore....I am fine with ME!!!But everyone had very good advice ...they are right if its lil things that bother me then I must not be interested is alll.
We should all be picky and wait for many years if we have to sometimes its good to be on your own for a while to work on you!!!Happy valentines day !!
I had to laugh when I read your first post, I have not been 25 women my entire life, ( I'm laughing), and I think I need to be more picky. I would make a good tow truck because I pickup wreakage very well.
Kitten seems to me if you get the thought 'I don't like 'whatever' then step away. When ya get the one that you think 'I don't like 'whatever' but wtf I like everything else, give him some time. Who knows after telling him in a diplomatic way of course, you don't like whatever, it might work.
softail1999 write: 25 men? hmmmmm.... You need to start a relationship correctly in the first place... Always have a rolled up newspaper on hand from the start... For every quirk they do that bothers you swat them with the paper... Eventually they will learn...... hehehe
well there not that trainable like dogs!!! i wish...lmao
25 men? hmmmmm.... You need to start a relationship correctly in the first place... Always have a rolled up newspaper on hand from the start...
For every quirk they do that bothers you swat them with the paper... Eventually they will learn...... hehehe
That's a tough one. I vowed that "the next time", I was going to do it "My Way". Not being a controlling goof or anything like, but rather if there was something I didn't care for, and it continued to bother me, I wouldn't be afraid to say so and/or move on. After allowing myself to be manipulated and controlled (as in not being too picky) by my ex-wife, my new approach although more confining, makes me more comfortable, at ease and maybe more in control of myself, not the other person.
Bigbear2000 write: To which Miss Kitty and Pa I politely say "balderdash". In my humble opinion, if you like the person alot, but can't abide one or two little things about them,; ask them politely to stop. Maybe they don't even know they are doing it or even if they do, perhaps do not realize that it bothers you.Be communicative with us poor imperfects, or you may find that you tossed out the right guy with the dishwater. : )
Ok, ok, if he does the dishes I will reconsider . . . . Seriously tho, I've been effective with communication on those types of situations in the past; however, most times behavioral changes only lasted a few weeks. And what if the behavior is something the person enjoys. Take the cig packing for example. Maybe packing them 100 times is a stress relief mechanism for him. I guess my point is that if you like the person alot, there is really no need for you to ask them to change because you are not focused on those things, you are already connecting to the soul within. If you are not connecting on the soul level, you have lots of time to look around for imperfections. Just my perspective.