How picky is too picky? Relationship

  • View author's info posted on Feb 14, 2006 03:43


    IKE2005 write:
    You are not being to picky for the small things. Your last post said the best thing ever you stop looking for love. Now out of nowhere your match may show up. If a person looks for love one never finds it. It has been my experience that love knock you in the head when you lest expect it. Good luck finding your match MS Kitty. And here is something for V day

    I have to agree here....it took almost two years to be happy with myself and know that I was ok by myself. Until I got to that point I didn't really think about meeting and or dating someone. I had stopped looking, not because I didn't want someone to share my life with, I just didn't make it a priority. Ya'll know my story here, I have found the most wonderful man and I plan on keeping him!!
  • View author's info posted on Feb 13, 2006 19:12


    You are not being to picky for the small things. Your last post said the best thing ever you stop looking for love. Now out of nowhere your match may show up. If a person looks for love one never finds it. It has been my experience that love knock you in the head when you lest expect it. Good luck finding your match MS Kitty. And here is something for V day
  • View author's info posted on Feb 13, 2006 16:01


    KinMonmouth write:
    Too Picky? Oh nono..

    See, you have to live with the one you choose...FOREVER..

    You better be picky.

    On the flip side... When we really care for someone and get "THAT" feeling? You know the "ONE"

    Lot's of things we might otherwise find annoying..go unnoticed. They become insignificant in comparison to how you "FEEL" as it should be...

    Everything is.... relative.
    P.S. 25 this year???? LOL

    oh gees no not this year that was from last year...and i didnt sleep with them they were all first dates...I just keep trying , I dont give up on things easily so .But this year has been different and I am not looking anymore....I am fine with ME!!!But everyone had very good advice ...they are right if its lil things that bother me then I must not be interested is alll.
    We should all be picky and wait for many years if we have to sometimes its good to be on your own for a while to work on you!!!Happy valentines day !!
  • View author's info posted on Feb 12, 2006 12:03


    Msbikerkitty write:

    softail1999 write:
    25 men? hmmmmm.... You need to start a relationship correctly in the first place... Always have a rolled up newspaper on hand from the start...
    For every quirk they do that bothers you swat them with the paper... Eventually they will learn...... hehehe

    well there not that trainable like dogs!!! i wish...lmao


    Some are dear, some are...
  • View author's info posted on Oct 10, 2005 12:40



    Bigbear2000 write:

    msbikerkittenmi write:

    softail1999 write:
    25 men? hmmmmm.... You need to start a relationship correctly in the first place... Always have a rolled up newspaper on hand from the start...
    For every quirk they do that bothers you swat them with the paper... Eventually they will learn...... hehehe

    well there not that trainable like dogs!!! i wish...lmao

    And who sez we aren't trainable? Whips, chains, manacles all can teach even an old dawg new tricks. LOL
    Dirty Old Man strikes again!



    Looking for my teaching material...hmmm .lmfao
  • View author's info posted on Oct 10, 2005 11:01



    funchick2001 write: my husband does that.



    You're married? I must've fallen asleep since you last mentioned that. Could have sworn our newest license endorsee was single.....
  • View author's info posted on Oct 10, 2005 08:35



    msbikerkittenmi write:

    softail1999 write:
    25 men? hmmmmm.... You need to start a relationship correctly in the first place... Always have a rolled up newspaper on hand from the start...
    For every quirk they do that bothers you swat them with the paper... Eventually they will learn...... hehehe

    well there not that trainable like dogs!!! i wish...lmao

    And who sez we aren't trainable? Whips, chains, manacles all can teach even an old dawg new tricks. LOL
    Dirty Old Man strikes again!

  • View author's info posted on Oct 10, 2005 05:08


    Kitten seems to me if you get the thought 'I don't like 'whatever' then step away. When ya get the one that you think 'I don't like 'whatever' but wtf I like everything else, give him some time. Who knows after telling him in a diplomatic way of course, you don't like whatever, it might work.
  • View author's info posted on Oct 09, 2005 12:55



    softail1999 write:
    25 men? hmmmmm.... You need to start a relationship correctly in the first place... Always have a rolled up newspaper on hand from the start...
    For every quirk they do that bothers you swat them with the paper... Eventually they will learn...... hehehe

    well there not that trainable like dogs!!! i wish...lmao
  • View author's info posted on Oct 07, 2005 20:05


    Wow thanks for all the input.But I guess If I really like the person the little stuff really don't matter much.I guess I just havent found the right one yet is all.
  • View author's info posted on Oct 05, 2005 21:55



    Bigbear2000 write:
    To which Miss Kitty and Pa I politely say "balderdash". In my humble opinion, if you like the person alot, but can't abide one or two little things about them,; ask them politely to stop. Maybe they don't even know they are doing it or even if they do, perhaps do not realize that it bothers you.Be communicative with us poor imperfects, or you may find that you tossed out the right guy with the dishwater. : )



    Ok, ok, if he does the dishes I will reconsider . . . . Seriously tho, I've been effective with communication on those types of situations in the past; however, most times behavioral changes only lasted a few weeks. And what if the behavior is something the person enjoys. Take the cig packing for example. Maybe packing them 100 times is a stress relief mechanism for him. I guess my point is that if you like the person alot, there is really no need for you to ask them to change because you are not focused on those things, you are already connecting to the soul within. If you are not connecting on the soul level, you have lots of time to look around for imperfections. Just my perspective.
  • View author's info posted on Oct 05, 2005 20:39


    life is way too short to settle for something or someone that doesn't measure up. keep looking, you'll find the right guy for ya.
  • View author's info posted on Oct 05, 2005 19:51



    jerryw13 write:
    Hi MsKitten, no such thing as too picky, the only one you need to satisfy is yourself.



    Jerry's right. You need to make sure that you satisfy yourself. The thing that caught my eye though was the fact that you sampled 25 pieces of merchandise, and left the store empty handed.

    I know when I get like that, there's a reason that I leave the store empty handed and the reason usually lies within me.

    But.... keep shopping. It can be fun.
  • View author's info posted on Oct 05, 2005 19:41


    To which Miss Kitty and Pa I politely say "balderdash". In my humble opinion, if you like the person alot, but can't abide one or two little things about them,; ask them politely to stop. Maybe they don't even know they are doing it or even if they do, perhaps do not realize that it bothers you.Be communicative with us poor imperfects, or you may find that you tossed out the right guy with the dishwater. : )
  • View author's info posted on Oct 05, 2005 17:23



    msbikerkittenmi write:
    I have dated about 25 men this year and I think I am just too picky.If they do one thing that might remotely "bug" me , I never give them a second chance.And It's real little things too.Like chewing with mouth open , or they pack there pack of cigerettes like 400 times.I mean these arent real big issues but I can't seem to look past these things .So Am I too picky?



    Yikes! I would say that is definitely too picky (at least for me)!

    wnjjbill hit it on the head with:

    "You just need to find somebody who has quirks you can live with."


    ...and...

    "When seeking perfection, you loose before you begin."


    More power to ya' if you feel the need to be that picky, if it works for you.

    jerryw13 also has a good point with:

    "...the only one you need to satisfy is yourself. "


    However, consider the consequences of both. Using your example above, and assuming all else is equal - let's say 'Mr Packsalot' is SOL cuz he has no second chance. So today you are lonely - conversely, let's say you showed him by packing your smokes 10 times, you both whip out a cigarette and compare butts - hmmm, same result. Mr. Packsalot decides to adopt your methods and you both live happily ever after.....packing only 10 times. No more "annoyance" and no more lonely nights....

    Is something as trivial as some guy trying to pack his 100-size smokes into a more non-filtered regular blend length REALLY worth dismissing the potential to be 'happily-ever-after'?

    I think not! But again, the decision is entirely up to you.

    Using only the information you gave, this makes me conclude the answer to your question is -- YES.

    Best of luck finding that which you seek.
  • View author's info posted on Oct 05, 2005 15:40


    I don't think you are too picky. I think that these little things that annoy you are telling you that you just haven't found the right one yet. They are just little signs that you shouldn't waste too much time unless it is to just have fun. When the right one appears, you won't care if he packs his cigs on his head in public or walks around biker events wearing camo pants with tie die tee-shirts in clashing colors. I know this because I could have written your post--I am having the same experience. Only when there is true love can you fully accept someone for who they are, quirks and all.
  • View author's info posted on Oct 05, 2005 14:11


    Hi MsKitten, no such thing as too picky, the only one you need to satisfy is yourself.
  • View author's info posted on Oct 05, 2005 13:30


    Well, everybody has their little quirks. You just need to find somebody who has quirks you can live with.

    But to answer your question, yea, it sounds like you're being a little picky. When seeking perfection, you loose before you begin.
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