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Posted on Wed, Nov 23, 2005 17:43

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Shortly after Rocky passed I moved my rings from my left hand to my right.
I still wear my rings on my right hand. I've had that band on for 36 years and I see no problem with leaving it there. How do ya'll feel about that?
What do(did) you do?

I see no problem with that Char, if that is what feels right to you? Then it right. I had my wedding band and engagement ring made into a cocktail ring and I still wear it.



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Posted on Wed, Nov 23, 2005 15:22

Shortly after Rocky passed I moved my rings from my left hand to my right.
I still wear my rings on my right hand. I've had that band on for 36 years and I see no problem with leaving it there. How do ya'll feel about that?
What do(did) you do?



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Posted on Wed, Nov 23, 2005 08:43

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Give Thanks this Thanksgiving day for the time we got to spend with them. Look at the wonderful times we had with them and smile all day. I will smile all weekend and even Monday. For Monday would have been her 50th Birthday. Once again. What a great ride. Yeeeeeeee Haawwwwwwww!!!

BIG 50, WOW....AND YES YOU ARE RIGHT, THIS CAN BE A VERY SAD TIME OF YEAR FOR PEOPLE AND IT IS HARD, BUT EVERYONE PLEASE TRY TO FOCUS ON WHAT WE EITHER HAD AND WHAT WE HAVE NOW, NOT WHAT WAS LOST.....HAPPY THANKSGIVEN TO YOU ALL..............

  


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Posted on Wed, Nov 23, 2005 06:47

Give Thanks this Thanksgiving day for the time we got to spend with them. Look at the wonderful times we had with them and smile all day. I will smile all weekend and even Monday. For Monday would have been her 50th Birthday. Once again. What a great ride. Yeeeeeeee Haawwwwwwww!!!

  


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Posted on Mon, Nov 21, 2005 17:27

Shame on you Chkn for making me cry! However, it did bring back some very happy thoughts from a lifetime ago. thanks!



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Posted on Mon, Nov 21, 2005 17:13

No, the thank you is really to you all.
I admit it took me awhile to read all the post in this thread. I have wanted to read it for a while but just wouldn't. Maybe cause I was a little afraid of the flood of emotion it would cause. And I was right. All of you here and your memories touched me so deeply it brought out something I haven't thought of in years. What I wrote is for you all, you inspired it, you made me remember.....
Thankyou
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Posted on Mon, Nov 21, 2005 11:05

chkn write:
Wow! I feel like I'm walking on Hallowed ground here, don't even know if I qualify to post. I won't get into my lose cause the relationship was far to complex to discribe, but alot of you brought up some things that bring a happy pain to my heart. And I feel I'd like to share something with you all. You the ones that have lost and you the ones that may be with someone that had a lose.
Her name was Sue, she had just reached her 15th birthday when we got married 6/26/1972. She was my high school sweet heart, off and on. I wish I could say we had years together like some of you, but we didn't have that. Our life together was just like our dating, off and on....
Here's what I want to say.
I remeber every time I here the song "Night Moves". I'm sure there are people that can say that song was there's but beleive me every word of that song fits my situation then, and it spooks me still...
It's not so much a shame for me to say now that I was driving to school by the end of eight grad. I was sixteen, and had a car. Sue told me she had never had been on a picnic. You know food, blacket and all. I remember thinking how dumb. But I did it anyway for her. You know all the way down to borrowing my mothers basket and all. My mom was tickled about it, but was the one that really did all the work. Anyway for this picnic I knew the perfect spot. and this is where I took Sue on that clear satuday morning, thankyou God still for the weather. As if it was just today, I remember after we got there in the middle of this huge grass field w/trees, the grass was about a foot and a half high and the blankit only floated on top of it. Sue said she was gonna go find a good spot for us, and left. As I gathered up everthing to fallow when I turned around from the truck of the car, she was gone. My hands were full and the car keys werein my mouth so calling out was a waist of time. Then I saw it, in the grass, the path she took. the grass was parted and with the dew of that morning you could see every step she took. And soon I was back with her. And that day was one of the high lights in my life, and at first I thought it was gonna be a dumb thing.
My point to this is, its not what we did that day, that I want to share, but it's something about those foot prints in the grass that seem so important to me now. I can still see them. We all have had lives before, and in these lives there were people we loved. Like those foot prints in the grass that day.
Others have left foot prints in the hearst of all of us, always leading us back to a time. To you that lost and to you with those having lost, remember. These foot prints in the hearts are just there, love them, they are the gifts that make us who we are today. There is no requirement for them to be brushed out, as they never can be. Nor are they there to be filled, cause that should not be either and I think would be sad. So rather than if one is to be put off by an others foot prints try to remember, you shall be making youre own in the hearts of others. To the tipe of memory they lead to is up to you. So that somedays, maybe as warm summer breaze brushes the hair of the one you love, maybe just maybee the foot prints you left will lead them back to thoughts of you. This thought gives me contentment today. So remember where ever they are to make room in your hearts and the people around you for the foot prints of others, Gone By.
Chkn

Thank you so much, Chkn, for sharing...thank you...

  


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Posted on Mon, Nov 21, 2005 09:47

chkn write:
Wow! I feel like I'm walking on Hallowed ground here, don't even know if I qualify to post. I won't get into my lose cause the relationship was far to complex to discribe, but alot of you brought up some things that bring a happy pain to my heart. And I feel I'd like to share something with you all. You the ones that have lost and you the ones that may be with someone that had a lose.
Her name was Sue, she had just reached her 15th birthday when we got married 6/26/1972. She was my high school sweet heart, off and on. I wish I could say we had years together like some of you, but we didn't have that. Our life together was just like our dating, off and on....
Here's what I want to say.
I remeber every time I here the song "Night Moves". I'm sure there are people that can say that song was there's but beleive me every word of that song fits my situation then, and it spooks me still...
It's not so much a shame for me to say now that I was driving to school by the end of eight grad. I was sixteen, and had a car. Sue told me she had never had been on a picnic. You know food, blacket and all. I remember thinking how dumb. But I did it anyway for her. You know all the way down to borrowing my mothers basket and all. My mom was tickled about it, but was the one that really did all the work. Anyway for this picnic I knew the perfect spot. and this is where I took Sue on that clear satuday morning, thankyou God still for the weather. As if it was just today, I remember after we got there in the middle of this huge grass field w/trees, the grass was about a foot and a half high and the blankit only floated on top of it. Sue said she was gonna go find a good spot for us, and left. As I gathered up everthing to fallow when I turned around from the truck of the car, she was gone. My hands were full and the car keys werein my mouth so calling out was a waist of time. Then I saw it, in the grass, the path she took. the grass was parted and with the dew of that morning you could see every step she took. And soon I was back with her. And that day was one of the high lights in my life, and at first I thought it was gonna be a dumb thing.
My point to this is, its not what we did that day, that I want to share, but it's something about those foot prints in the grass that seem so important to me now. I can still see them. We all have had lives before, and in these lives there were people we loved. Like those foot prints in the grass that day.
Others have left foot prints in the hearst of all of us, always leading us back to a time. To you that lost and to you with those having lost, remember. These foot prints in the hearts are just there, love them, they are the gifts that make us who we are today. There is no requirement for them to be brushed out, as they never can be. Nor are they there to be filled, cause that should not be either and I think would be sad. So rather than if one is to be put off by an others foot prints try to remember, you shall be making youre own in the hearts of others. To the tipe of memory they lead to is up to you. So that somedays, maybe as warm summer breaze brushes the hair of the one you love, maybe just maybee the foot prints you left will lead them back to thoughts of you. This thought gives me contentment today. So remember where ever they are to make room in your hearts and the people around you for the foot prints of others, Gone By.
Chkn

Chkn, what a beautiful story to share and a great reminder for all of us. Thank You!

  


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Posted on Mon, Nov 21, 2005 09:44

Dreamer big ((((((HUG))))))

  


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Posted on Mon, Nov 21, 2005 08:31

chkn write:
Wow! I feel like I'm walking on Hallowed ground here, don't even know if I qualify to post. I won't get into my lose cause the relationship was far to complex to discribe, but alot of you brought up some things that bring a happy pain to my heart. And I feel I'd like to share something with you all. You the ones that have lost and you the ones that may be with someone that had a lose.
Her name was Sue, she had just reached her 15th birthday when we got married 6/26/1972. She was my high school sweet heart, off and on. I wish I could say we had years together like some of you, but we didn't have that. Our life together was just like our dating, off and on....
Here's what I want to say.
I remeber every time I here the song "Night Moves". I'm sure there are people that can say that song was there's but beleive me every word of that song fits my situation then, and it spooks me still...
It's not so much a shame for me to say now that I was driving to school by the end of eight grad. I was sixteen, and had a car. Sue told me she had never had been on a picnic. You know food, blacket and all. I remember thinking how dumb. But I did it anyway for her. You know all the way down to borrowing my mothers basket and all. My mom was tickled about it, but was the one that really did all the work. Anyway for this picnic I knew the perfect spot. and this is where I took Sue on that clear satuday morning, thankyou God still for the weather. As if it was just today, I remember after we got there in the middle of this huge grass field w/trees, the grass was about a foot and a half high and the blankit only floated on top of it. Sue said she was gonna go find a good spot for us, and left. As I gathered up everthing to fallow when I turned around from the truck of the car, she was gone. My hands were full and the car keys werein my mouth so calling out was a waist of time. Then I saw it, in the grass, the path she took. the grass was parted and with the dew of that morning you could see every step she took. And soon I was back with her. And that day was one of the high lights in my life, and at first I thought it was gonna be a dumb thing.
My point to this is, its not what we did that day, that I want to share, but it's something about those foot prints in the grass that seem so important to me now. I can still see them. We all have had lives before, and in these lives there were people we loved. Like those foot prints in the grass that day.
Others have left foot prints in the hearst of all of us, always leading us back to a time. To you that lost and to you with those having lost, remember. These foot prints in the hearts are just there, love them, they are the gifts that make us who we are today. There is no requirement for them to be brushed out, as they never can be. Nor are they there to be filled, cause that should not be either and I think would be sad. So rather than if one is to be put off by an others foot prints try to remember, you shall be making youre own in the hearts of others. To the tipe of memory they lead to is up to you. So that somedays, maybe as warm summer breaze brushes the hair of the one you love, maybe just maybee the foot prints you left will lead them back to thoughts of you. This thought gives me contentment today. So remember where ever they are to make room in your hearts and the people around you for the foot prints of others, Gone By.
Chkn


Amen brother.

  


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Posted on Mon, Nov 21, 2005 06:46

Hugs to you Dreamer....

  


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Posted on Mon, Nov 21, 2005 06:22

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Posted on Mon, Nov 21, 2005 05:41

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Thanks all you lovely people out there,had a rough week this week so a group hug would be lovely.cant read this thread without crying.Not just for me but all the people who are hurting out there.Take care all.Dreamer.
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Posted on Sun, Nov 20, 2005 11:01

Wow! I feel like I'm walking on Hallowed ground here, don't even know if I qualify to post. I won't get into my lose cause the relationship was far to complex to discribe, but alot of you brought up some things that bring a happy pain to my heart. And I feel I'd like to share something with you all. You the ones that have lost and you the ones that may be with someone that had a lose.
Her name was Sue, she had just reached her 15th birthday when we got married 6/26/1972. She was my high school sweet heart, off and on. I wish I could say we had years together like some of you, but we didn't have that. Our life together was just like our dating, off and on....
Here's what I want to say.
I remeber every time I here the song "Night Moves". I'm sure there are people that can say that song was there's but beleive me every word of that song fits my situation then, and it spooks me still...
It's not so much a shame for me to say now that I was driving to school by the end of eight grad. I was sixteen, and had a car. Sue told me she had never had been on a picnic. You know food, blacket and all. I remember thinking how dumb. But I did it anyway for her. You know all the way down to borrowing my mothers basket and all. My mom was tickled about it, but was the one that really did all the work. Anyway for this picnic I knew the perfect spot. and this is where I took Sue on that clear satuday morning, thankyou God still for the weather. As if it was just today, I remember after we got there in the middle of this huge grass field w/trees, the grass was about a foot and a half high and the blankit only floated on top of it. Sue said she was gonna go find a good spot for us, and left. As I gathered up everthing to fallow when I turned around from the truck of the car, she was gone. My hands were full and the car keys werein my mouth so calling out was a waist of time. Then I saw it, in the grass, the path she took. the grass was parted and with the dew of that morning you could see every step she took. And soon I was back with her. And that day was one of the high lights in my life, and at first I thought it was gonna be a dumb thing.
My point to this is, its not what we did that day, that I want to share, but it's something about those foot prints in the grass that seem so important to me now. I can still see them. We all have had lives before, and in these lives there were people we loved. Like those foot prints in the grass that day.
Others have left foot prints in the hearst of all of us, always leading us back to a time. To you that lost and to you with those having lost, remember. These foot prints in the hearts are just there, love them, they are the gifts that make us who we are today. There is no requirement for them to be brushed out, as they never can be. Nor are they there to be filled, cause that should not be either and I think would be sad. So rather than if one is to be put off by an others foot prints try to remember, you shall be making youre own in the hearts of others. To the tipe of memory they lead to is up to you. So that somedays, maybe as warm summer breaze brushes the hair of the one you love, maybe just maybee the foot prints you left will lead them back to thoughts of you. This thought gives me contentment today. So remember where ever they are to make room in your hearts and the people around you for the foot prints of others, Gone By.
Chkn

  


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Posted on Sat, Nov 19, 2005 17:04

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smile2005 write:
Dane, Sorry the Chicken Soup for the Grieving Soul one didn't work out for you...I actually haven't even finished reading that book. I read a portion of it a few months after my Mom passed away in 2003 & at that time of my life it was exactly what I needed & it helped me through my tough time I was going through when I felt so alone in the world & like no one understood what I was feeling...


Carla, everyone reads the written word differently.. What is great to one person is not so great to another. I appreciate the fact that you recommended that book and I recommend others read it because it may be of help to another. Just because it didn't light my fire doesn't mean it won't stir a huge flamin' help for someone else.

Yes...I realize that Dane...that's what is so great about each of us...we're all our own individuals. If we were all the same, life sure would be boring! I didn't mean anything bad about you not liking the book...I was just sharing my feelings regarding how it helped me get through my rough time with the loss of my Mom...From my heart, I had hoped that it would help you a little bit, but that's ok, my friend...I'm glad that I did recommend for you to read it & you were able to find out that it didn't do much for you. I'm impressed that you even read the entire book cuz I didn't even do that! I read just enough apparently to help me through the time that I needed...I feel honored that you went out & ordered the book just to read it from my recommendation. Thank you..
I also want to say it meant a lot to me to go out to Sweet Pea's grave on my birthday...she was a very special woman & the both of you were so very blessed to have shared the time that you did with each other...Thank you, again...
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Posted on Sat, Nov 19, 2005 12:46

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Dane, Sorry the Chicken Soup for the Grieving Soul one didn't work out for you...I actually haven't even finished reading that book. I read a portion of it a few months after my Mom passed away in 2003 & at that time of my life it was exactly what I needed & it helped me through my tough time I was going through when I felt so alone in the world & like no one understood what I was feeling...

Carla, everyone reads the written word differently.. What is great to one person is not so great to another. I appreciate the fact that you recommended that book and I recommend others read it because it may be of help to another. Just because it didn't light my fire doesn't mean it won't stir a huge flamin' help for someone else.



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Posted on Sat, Nov 19, 2005 12:43

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ver...i miss understood......wow, you guys were together for a while then, either way though, it's a rough one.....do try and get that book of "life after loss" back, it's a good one, if anything it does make you feel like ---going insane is normal---lol......we do understand...........


I just didn't communcate it very well. What a ride we had though. It was a great one. I am blessed to have had the honor of that ride.



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Posted on Wed, Nov 16, 2005 13:43

Dane, Sorry the Chicken Soup for the Grieving Soul one didn't work out for you...I actually haven't even finished reading that book. I read a portion of it a few months after my Mom passed away in 2003 & at that time of my life it was exactly what I needed & it helped me through my tough time I was going through when I felt so alone in the world & like no one understood what I was feeling...

  


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Posted on Wed, Nov 16, 2005 12:37

ver...i miss understood......wow, you guys were together for a while then, either way though, it's a rough one.....do try and get that book of "life after loss" back, it's a good one, if anything it does make you feel like ---going insane is normal---lol......we do understand...........



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Posted on Wed, Nov 16, 2005 10:57

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ver-----thanks, your a nice guy....your post gave me chills and it bought tears to my eyes....i never realized that it was only a year you two were together.....man, i don't even know what to say, i am lost for words......i am sorry the time was so short, but the way you write, she gave you a life time....that's nice, she was an amazing women to be able to do that....hey, did you ever get to read thoes books?


We were together 10 years. Before that we chatted for 2 years on line. She in Maryland and I in California. We were married for 9 months. It was a great 12 years we spent.
I have read the chicken soup but cosugarbabe took the other one and I have not seen it. I need to get it back from her so I can read it. The chicken soup was not very realistic to me. It consists of many short stories so condensed it gave me the feeling that one day you were just terrible and some little something happened that suddenly made everything alright. It just doesn't happen that way.
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