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Posted on Thu, Sep 08, 2005 20:18


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WINDSPIRIT50 write:
If all he gives you is his cell #

LOL....wasn't MY cell!


LOL!....House, cell, Job....should I continue.....LOL



On the other hand,there are some I wish I had never given my home number to.It's all a crapshoot. I'm leery of giving up all my numbers to a man right away.


Nodey...I'm sorry I told some guys my name!

  


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Posted on Thu, Sep 08, 2005 18:26


LadyVulcan write:
DD, I too go by my gut instincts. I am a very good listener and I pick up a lot of what is being said during our conversations. I also notice body language and I see if his actions reflect the words that he speaks? Does he walk his own walk and talk his own talk? I have to share a recent date that I had. You will get a good chuckle over this one. See if you pick up on any warning signals, lol. After date #1 he decided he really wanted to see me again and soon. He called two days later and asked if I would like to have dinner. Sounded good???? WRONG! He said he didn't get paid until Friday (and it was only Wednesday) so he wasn't talking "go out" to dinner. He wanted to bring a couple of cans over to my house and make a batch of spaghetti. I could add some ingredients (like the meat.) And, he asked if he could use my shower when he was here because his place had no running water or electricity. Hmmmmmmm...... needless to say I graciously bowed out and decided he was NOT the right ONE for me. It is little hints like this... lol.




Lol...good call LadyV. Sounds like the date I had. I thought he was a really cool guy on the first date. Second date we went to his place so he could make me dinner. He stole money out of my purse while I went to powder my nose.

Oh well,guess he had to find a way to pay for the groceries he had to buy.



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Posted on Thu, Sep 08, 2005 18:22


WINDSPIRIT50 write:

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WINDSPIRIT50 write:
If all he gives you is his cell #

LOL....wasn't MY cell!


LOL!....House, cell, Job....should I continue.....LOL



On the other hand,there are some I wish I had never given my home number to.It's all a crapshoot. I'm leery of giving up all my numbers to a man right away.



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Posted on Thu, Sep 08, 2005 10:28


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Now, some of us only have cells for our only communication. We use cable for our computer and live on the road. Why pay for a land line when you never are around it to use it?

And for the record, that's the only number girls give. So, how does that work. Girls are exempt????

No girls aren't exempt. I only have a cell p-h-o-n-e my cable provides me internet access. I move around a lot as a traveling nurse and it just isn't worth it to get a land line



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Posted on Thu, Sep 08, 2005 04:15


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Now, some of us only have cells for our only communication. We use cable for our computer and live on the road. Why pay for a land line when you never are around it to use it?

And for the record, that's the only number girls give. So, how does that work. Girls are exempt????

"Girls" aren't exempt from anything...we're just verrrry cautious! I don't even give my cell # out unless I feel verry comfortable...and you're right...most folks dont' have land lines anymore. I agree with the "meeting a few times" comment, then, and only then, will he receive personal information from me, unless I've had the opportunity to observe him for a bit. Just my 2 cents worth there.

  


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Posted on Wed, Sep 07, 2005 16:06


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I'm thinkin' if you find yourself looking for ways to find faults, then you've already written that person off. An objective, open perspective should allow you to see the person for who they really are. Usually takes a few encounters to spot trends. And if you can't tolerate something, you'll see it before too long, people don't change colors all that easily.



Great advice TwoKicks!! Guess that's why you're the Chief!

  


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Posted on Mon, Sep 05, 2005 14:59


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So, what are the early warning signals you have recognized?


...as for me..ref to insincere..been told "I give mixed signals" I get that from my four older sisters, a guess..lol..I try to use the gut also, usually right on most times...and listen to what they (people) say but go off what they don't say, and what they do..or don't do....hope this made some since for ya..and go get what you deserve lady, don't settle for less...better stop before I reveal what is in the *men's manual for women*...lol


MO.....the gut always tells you what's right or wrong....The problem with that is do we listen or stuff a sock in it!....In my life today I'm choosing to listen!.....and DD...You'll know what to do when it presents itself.......Mo



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Posted on Sat, Sep 03, 2005 11:57


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So, what are the early warning signals you have recognized?


...as for me..ref to insincere..been told "I give mixed signals" I get that from my four older sisters, a guess..lol..I try to use the gut also, usually right on most times...and listen to what they (people) say but go off what they don't say, and what they do..or don't do....hope this made some since for ya..and go get what you deserve lady, don't settle for less...better stop before I reveal what is in the *men's manual for women*...lol

  


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Posted on Fri, Sep 02, 2005 03:46


ChiefTwoKicks write:
I'm thinkin' if you find yourself looking for ways to find faults, then you've already written that person off. An objective, open perspective should allow you to see the person for who they really are. Usually takes a few encounters to spot trends. And if you can't tolerate something, you'll see it before too long, people don't change colors all that easily.


Roger,
Hi! Great to see your post! So true. Great pic, by the way.
DD

  


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Posted on Thu, Sep 01, 2005 23:58


ChiefTwoKicks write:
I'm thinkin' if you find yourself looking for ways to find faults, then you've already written that person off. An objective, open perspective should allow you to see the person for who they really are. Usually takes a few encounters to spot trends. And if you can't tolerate something, you'll see it before too long, people don't change colors all that easily.


Thank you Chief!

  


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Posted on Thu, Sep 01, 2005 17:24

I'm thinkin' if you find yourself looking for ways to find faults, then you've already written that person off. An objective, open perspective should allow you to see the person for who they really are. Usually takes a few encounters to spot trends. And if you can't tolerate something, you'll see it before too long, people don't change colors all that easily.



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Posted on Thu, Sep 01, 2005 15:35


Bigbear2000 write:
Well from what I have read here, there goes the "big h ots". Being candid here, though I may get thumped for it. LOL
I think that lovelies fall into several categories. First off, they are all human beings and as such deserve the respect due to everyone.
Then there are the "big h ots" Those that you take one look at and it's "Wow!" (but you know as beautiful and h ot as they are, they wouldn't look twice at an old dawg like me. : )
Then there's those that you look at and just want to swoop up in your arms and take care of, for the rest of your days.
Then, there's the gal pals. While still quite lovely, you know that you'd probably be more a big brother, than anything else.
Lastly, there's the ones with an attitude. Not saying they aren't entitled to have an attitude, but I don't need the negativity in my face. Those, no matter how lovely, I avoid.
Yup. I've been wrong about liars and cheats before, but I think movin real slow into any relationship helps to eliminate them before they become too important in my life. : )
Sorry for ramblin. This is the most I've talked in years. : )


Awesome! Thanks for sharing. Glad to hear your thoughts. You can never judge a book by it's cover. (Duh)
Some people never look much past the cover. I agreed with your taking it slow-sometimes slow is tooo slow though. Balance- it's a little confusing-that's why I started this thread. I have some street smarts- and good common sense but am still not really h*ot at the online dating dance.
Hugs,
DD

  


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Posted on Thu, Sep 01, 2005 15:30

Lady V-

Since I'm not coming up there this weekend, would you please email me, if you see this?

Bumming-notagointovisitthisweekend
No Doobies either at "take it to the streets" up North-

DD



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Posted on Thu, Sep 01, 2005 15:25

Heritage99 said:"LOL....wasn't MY cell!"

Yeah, too bad YOUR cell# is on the wrong coast!

DD _Rockin'_ in California

  


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Posted on Thu, Sep 01, 2005 14:32


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WINDSPIRIT50 write:
If all he gives you is his cell #

LOL....wasn't MY cell!


LOL!....House, cell, Job....should I continue.....LOL

  


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Posted on Thu, Sep 01, 2005 13:17

Well from what I have read here, there goes the "big h ots". Being candid here, though I may get thumped for it. LOL
I think that lovelies fall into several categories. First off, they are all human beings and as such deserve the respect due to everyone.
Then there are the "big h ots" Those that you take one look at and it's "Wow!" (but you know as beautiful and h ot as they are, they wouldn't look twice at an old dawg like me. : )
Then there's those that you look at and just want to swoop up in your arms and take care of, for the rest of your days.
Then, there's the gal pals. While still quite lovely, you know that you'd probably be more a big brother, than anything else.
Lastly, there's the ones with an attitude. Not saying they aren't entitled to have an attitude, but I don't need the negativity in my face. Those, no matter how lovely, I avoid.
Yup. I've been wrong about liars and cheats before, but I think movin real slow into any relationship helps to eliminate them before they become too important in my life. : )
Sorry for ramblin. This is the most I've talked in years. : )



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Posted on Thu, Sep 01, 2005 12:29

DD, I too go by my gut instincts. I am a very good listener and I pick up a lot of what is being said during our conversations. I also notice body language and I see if his actions reflect the words that he speaks? Does he walk his own walk and talk his own talk? I have to share a recent date that I had. You will get a good chuckle over this one. See if you pick up on any warning signals, lol. After date #1 he decided he really wanted to see me again and soon. He called two days later and asked if I would like to have dinner. Sounded good???? WRONG! He said he didn't get paid until Friday (and it was only Wednesday) so he wasn't talking "go out" to dinner. He wanted to bring a couple of cans over to my house and make a batch of spaghetti. I could add some ingredients (like the meat.) And, he asked if he could use my shower when he was here because his place had no running water or electricity. Hmmmmmmm...... needless to say I graciously bowed out and decided he was NOT the right ONE for me. It is little hints like this... lol.

  


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Posted on Thu, Sep 01, 2005 12:09


WINDSPIRIT50 write:
If all he gives you is his cell #

LOL....wasn't MY cell!



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Posted on Thu, Sep 01, 2005 11:52


mojo2005 write:
Saw a book that may help...I have not read...."How To Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved" (Hunter House)..by..Sandra Brown

Thanks Mojo-I will check that one out. My biggest concern is the online dating thing. How to know a guy is for real. Real-good... lol

Dassy- Also, the long distance thing. I am being approached from guys who live far away. Body language reading gets a little tough at that point.

Windspirit -Only a cell ph*one #.- Good idea. : )
Thanks!
DD

  


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Posted on Thu, Sep 01, 2005 11:33

If all he gives you is his cell #

  


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