LadyVulcan write: I was in a 13 marriage and my husband also worked out of town during most of the time. He was gone during the week. He came home late Friday night or early Saturday morning, dumped out his dirty clothes so I could do his laundry for the next week. He turned on his ball games and barked if anyone would touch the dial even though he slept in his recliner in front of it. Sunday was his golf day with his Brother. He left to head back to the job right after golf. One day it hit me, if I have to live alone I want it to be my choice. I was tired of spending holidays, Birthdays, special days alone. I also found out he was cheating so there was really no reason for me to stay. Roxie asked in another forum, would I go back? H*E*L*L*O no! I believe relationships are for sharing, and that means doing things together and being a part of each others life. I won't tolerate less. I also will not tolerate lying and cheating. Ok, there's my two cents.
Lady....Yes Relationships are for two people! not more not less....How are you ?.....Long time....Mo
Mo, I am doing GREAT!!!!!!! Thanks for asking. Sounds like you have been enjoying yourself too. :)
HarleyGirl said:
Success is such a sweet revenge!
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HG- Great to hear you made such a healthy choice and a good life for yourself post-EX.
When I knew I was going to get out of my marriage, that became my mantra. I was going to succeed in all areas of my life and that was to be the sweetest revenge. Good karma around that. Not wishing bad things for my ex or wasting time feeling p i s s ed at him, but succeeding in spite of my ex.
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Weenie,
Glad to hear you are feelin' feisty!
DD
Won't tolerate liars, cheaters, verbal/mental/physical abusers, slackers who won't work, inconsiderate's who only thing of their own feelings, frivolous spenders, slobs, nervous ninnies afraid to try new things or step outside the box, and men who are loners or don't want to be a part of my family or accept my family or enjoy family time.
Pretty much narrows down my selection, but I don't mind men who have their own friends and want to have "man time" or who enjoy their own activities such as hunting and fishing, as long as it isn't overdone and extreme, as I also don't like to be crowded and shadowed all the time, and don't like needy men.
Is there a reason I may be single??
I would not tolerate self-centeredness. I would not tolerate a lack of compassion and coldness towards other people. Tried to explain that one away. Found out if they're telling you that's the way they are, that's the way they are.
HarleyGurl35 write: Yep, Lady, pretty much the same scenario with me. It was 11 years for me though. Now looking back at the marriage, I'm not sure he didn't have affairs waiting for him in each city he had to "do business" in.
I was an idiot though. Because he always had his cell p*hone, I never knew what hotel he was in. Looking back, for all I know, he was down the street shacked up for the week. The month of our 11 year anniversary, he tells me "he loves me, just not in love". Well, I guess not. He has been in Venezuela and, as he put it, "she looked at me a certain way, and gave me her card." Now I think what a freakin IDIOT I was to even TRY to make it work.
If after 11 years of total devotion and loyalty on my part, all it takes is "a certain look" and a business card, to turn his head, then take off.
It is so true though, that success is the best revenge. I don't keep up with him, but the last time I spoke with him, he did tell me, he was miserable and never thought he'd ever be so unhappy. And he is telling me this while he is seeing some other woman. It feels good to know I have provided myself with a first class lifestyle, bought my own bike, and am happy. Even single!
That part really killed him, my buying a bike. That was something he said he always wanted US to do together. Well, sorry, but s*ex was something "I" always wanted us to do together. Bless his little heart, I just hate that it bothers him that I ride without him. Gosh, I just HATE it!
Success is such a sweet revenge!
I am sorry that you too ended up with a smuck, but it sounds like you are out there in the wind and enjoying life now. Good for you Harleygurl. You go Gurl!
LadyVulcan write: I was in a 13 marriage and my husband also worked out of town during most of the time. He was gone during the week. He came home late Friday night or early Saturday morning, dumped out his dirty clothes so I could do his laundry for the next week. He turned on his ball games and barked if anyone would touch the dial even though he slept in his recliner in front of it. Sunday was his golf day with his Brother. He left to head back to the job right after golf. One day it hit me, if I have to live alone I want it to be my choice. I was tired of spending holidays, Birthdays, special days alone. I also found out he was cheating so there was really no reason for me to stay. Roxie asked in another forum, would I go back? H*E*L*L*O no! I believe relationships are for sharing, and that means doing things together and being a part of each others life. I won't tolerate less. I also will not tolerate lying and cheating. Ok, there's my two cents.
Lady....Yes Relationships are for two people! not more not less....How are you ?.....Long time....Mo
Mo, I am doing GREAT!!!!!!! Thanks for asking. Sounds like you have been enjoying yourself too. :)
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