With me at first it's physical (overall package, no one thing) then it turns to mental/emotional and spiritual and of course common interests. You need all those connections for a long term relationship.
I'd much rather be with someone that's cute with an imaginative mind instead of some brainless emotionally high maintenace Barbie Doll. Of course she's got to be a freak in the bed too. Hehehe
The windows to the soul; twinklin' deep eyes.
The wide, free smile.
Large gentle hands,
Them strapping, sturdy long legs,
and a deep steady voice.
Oh, Baby, come on home... now!!!
A brain, honesty, and a guy that can make ya laugh has got to be in there as well.
Strickly as an ATTRACTION:
The FIRST thing that catches my eye.... a tall guy with long hair....if he has a warm smile, my heart does flip flops. A deep voice & the smell of good cologne....and I'm weak in the knees..lol
What attracts me is the person inside. Because when a good person smiles, what shines through is worth more than gold or a model-like figure or face. Being an artist I look beyond the physical. Does not mean I don't look but that is not my priority in finding the person I want to share my life with, whether they be a friend or a soulmate. There has to be communication, trust. honesty, loyalty and love. Everything else can be worked out. Maybe I am too unrealistic but that is the way I feel.
Hmmmm, well I answered this once and it went up in bk smoke????? I will try it again. I totally agree with you. The eyes and smile first. The eyes are the mirror image of the soul they say and eyes don't lie. If his eyes light up when our eyes first meet and he gives me that big flash of a grin, he'll melt my heart.
Wow, I can't say that there is one thing. Here are some things that have originally attracted me to a man:
The way he smells
His devotion to his kids
The way he climbed a tree
His crude and sarcastic humor
Mostly, I think what attracts me to any one person is their ability to stand out and above the average man at a key point in time. I think that quality that sparks my attention has to happen at precisely the right time, regardless of what it is. Sometimes I may overlook a potential love interest for months until one day something just clicks and I see him completely different. But I think that's how most people are. We all need time to really see the qualities that transcend raw physical attraction. As I say on my profile: It's far easier to find someone who is aesthetically pleasing than someone with a good heart and I like a challenge.