Chin up Roxie,,,I received some words of wisdom from a drill sargent in boot camp after receiving a "Dear John" letter..His advice was if you line up all the women in the world and put her at the end of the line, you'll never have a chance to meet..Works for anyone, for that matter.
Thanks bigbear and tinker...was wondering that myself. Why does someone continue with a relationship knowing they are not right for you. He said he knew in his heart that I would'nt be happy in the long run with him, he thought he could be what I was looking for. I'm pretty much up front with someone, I asked alot of questions, so I assume we both knew enough about each other to continue...why fake it? Just be yourself.
Bigbear2000 write: nice of the guy to be so concerned. the ..... Shaddup Jess, less you offend someone. Naw, hell with it. If this guy "isn't the right man" for you, then why did he let the relationship go on for so long? Sorry, my friend. Though I try my best to be peaceful, somethings just irk hell outta me
Amen to that brother.
Roxie darlin, this is one of those speed bumps in life that leave us with a lesson learned and maybe a dent or 2 in the undercarriage, but you're a beautiful intelligent woman and although this bump hurt, you're still moving forward Sweetie. Just keep on truckin and don't look back, the man of your dreams lies ahead, not in the mirrors.
As for the question?
"Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice? Shame on me"
nice of the guy to be so concerned.
the ..... Shaddup Jess, less you offend someone.
Naw, hell with it. If this guy "isn't the right man" for you, then why did he let the relationship go on for so long? Sorry, my friend. Though I try my best to be peaceful, somethings just irk hell outta me
Got an email from the guy I was seeing, wanted to know if I made it through the hurricane, said he was worried and he will always care about me. He says he was'nt the right man for me, that I deserve better, who knows?
Thanks everyone for your prayers and concerns for me and my kids during the storm.
He*ll no, I wouldn't go back to the ex. He ended up with all the toys and will inherit millions. I paid for my son's clothes and activities myself. I took the high road on that one. He asked me back, I said NO Thanks. Just wish I had the strength and smarts to leave him sooner than I did! I thought I could 'glow anything right.'
It takes 2. I found out: No matter how hard I wanted it to work, there has to be someone willing to meet in the middle and do the relationship dance with me. It sounds so well-almost stupid now, when it's down on the page. Anyone can promise anything, but PROOF is in the pudding.
I hope to find my own Chocolate Pudding kinda'guy some day. In the mean time it is good friends who care that make it all worthwhile.
Roxie. I feel for ya. Truly. I won't add another layer of platitudes, while sincere - well, let's just say you'll find your way past this. You'll be fine. In answer to your query - I tried going back with my X and found out the true meaning of X really is "to cross out or delete". I should have learned the first time but sometimes I need to go through something twice before I learn. That's the ever-hopeful side to me. don't be fooled I'm no dummy. But with out hope...what have we got?
that story sounds so strangely familiar to me....right down to the ex wife and her kid. Sorry to hear that this has happened to you. Mine was 6 mths of wonderful then that call,damn those NC men. They say time heals all, I am just waiting to see if this is true
I'm sorry this happened to you but Life gets better, if you learn from the downs the ups are better too. This very thing happened to me but she told me she loved me and wanted to be with me on Friday, went to visit her friend in another state and never came home! WTF is up with that! But I think you should never get involved with someone if there is still something for your X. That's just living a LIE and i hate Liars and thieves. and child molesters. and women that kill there kids.and Dallas cowboys. Anyway get out there get some wind in ya face and enjoy life. Seeya on the road
Dear Roxie said: I really thought I had found someone special (well, he found me)Just goes to show, you never can tell.
No, you can't tell. It is really tough to take when someone decides to go back to the ex-wife or girlfriend. But, it is easy to tell that you have a good and kind heart! My best wishes for healing and tons of support from your friends.
You are better off my dear! Right now it seems like you arent but you will grow from this and the lesson you have learned. You are lucky that he called you and didnt just blow you off like some men would do. I have a rule that is in place from past heartaches as yours: I will not date anyone that is not 1 year for every 5 years of marriage or committment. Why? Because it takes that long to get to know yourself again and if you are recently divorced you have no clue what you want or where you want to go. I took the past 2 years off and am glad my heart has been broken because the man that wants me is out there and I will know it when we meet. But until then I will let it snap and date who I want and seek lots and lots for friends! Keep your chin up and smile!!!
I'm with bear, I take 5 good month over nothing. NEVER go back. There is a reason you broke up in the first place. They may call you a player afterwards. They may hate you afterwards. But there is a reason you broke up. Don't glue it back together.
ThighSyn write: Roxie, I too am so sorry for what happened. I immediately have a different feeling than just sorrow for you but anger for him as in the real sense of the word LOVE, it just isn't flip flopped around like that. Hang in there! Your a beautiful, sensitive woman. The right one is out there. Keep a smile on your face!!!
In answer to your question, go back to the ex? Only with me in a pine box filled with black widow spiders and a note on the outside: My final wish to you, money, drugs, booze and hoe's - open immediately...
I too am so sorry for what happened.
I immediately have a different feeling than just sorrow for you but anger for him as in the real sense of the word LOVE, it just isn't flip flopped around like that. Hang in there! Your a beautiful, sensitive woman. The right one is out there. Keep a smile on your face!!!
In answer to your question, go back to the ex?
Only with me in a pine box filled with black widow spiders and a note on the outside:
My final wish to you, money, drugs, booze and hoe's - open immediately...
I'm sorry to hear about what has happened to you.
I've always believed that if it didn't work out the first time, it sure won't work out the second. But, that is his loss.
The man apparently has no eyes with which to behold both your inner and outter beauty.
but like Maynard G. Krebs used to tell Dobie Gillis, in such times; "Yuh still got me, good buddy."