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Posted on Sat, Oct 08, 2005 05:51

Works for me! I don't have a problem with it...
I had this great insightful thing I wrote last night on this whole concept, but it got timed out...Guess I wasn't meant to enlighten you folks with my brilliance - (thats a joke!)
I'm much too honest, but I feel it's better to get the hurt over quick than to let it linger - I actually ended up with people altho I wasn't interested in as a signifigant other become a very good friend - At least you know what you are dealing with that way -



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Posted on Fri, Oct 07, 2005 21:06

I know what you mean IndoorVoice (your Posting 17-AUG-05)
I have had the same for a lady on this site. We set a date to meet for coffee and a hour before she called to put off an hour. Then was a no show. No call or email for 2 days. Then we tried again this time for diner. I waited 2 hour and this time not so much as a call or email just up and disapeared. Why do people do that? The last one turned out was just posting profiles on different sites to scam men out of money. I don't know about anyone else but honesty in dating does go along way.



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Posted on Fri, Oct 07, 2005 13:38

And I can't respect chicken sheet cowards.
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Yah!

Bear-Sorry anybody treated you that way.
Springer; beautiful words as usual!
AJ- loved your post

Wish people would just say 'whatever'.
What is sancho? I have to look that one up!
DD- Ready to get off this computer and Rock in Real Life~~~

  


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Posted on Fri, Sep 23, 2005 13:27

oh yeah, if all of ya'll are really looking for honesty... go ck out aj in his kilt under the bring it on topic!!!! now that's honest....honestly righteous!!!!!!



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Posted on Fri, Sep 23, 2005 13:25


IndoorVoice write:
Lemme bed ya ear for a quick second, I know its happened to several folks..Me as well... Ya start with a ewink, move to emails, maybe 3 to 5 a day, then ya proceed to messenger for a lil over a week, then ya do the call thing for and you talk several times a day,,EVERYTHING is GREAT !...The day comes where ya meet for lunch...the luncheon was super fun, great company and great food...
Several days pass and you still havent heard from her/him...
What in gods name went wrong ?...And if something went wrong or there wasnt a connection.. Why cant they openly admit it ?...

another perspective.....we are always so quick to feel "whats wrong with me", ya know, betcha a lot of times these guys are feeling more insecure/inadequete than we are and figure they can't measure up to expectations....not necessarily meaning that they lied about anything, just think you are too "hot" or "together" or whatever, and IT IS THEIR INSECURITIES that causes their actions....not condoning the handling of their feelings, certainly a nice white lie is absolutely the minimum requirement....ya know like, "sorry, i can't make it, i'm getting married in the morning" or something??!!!



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Posted on Fri, Sep 23, 2005 13:12


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Bear6664 write:
indoor
sometimes when we finally meet the electricity isnt there and some guys would rather hide then simply say , Im sorry it wasnt there for me , I have met several women who turned out to be considerably heavier then they led me to believe . I assume they thought that thier personalities were so terrific that they could overcome the weight issue but dishonesty is a tw o way street . I am ashamed that I must consider weight as a criteria but the little head gets a say in matters too , it has become such a problem that if all I see is a head shot now Im gonna ask for a full picture . I know that some of the best people in the world are overweight but that just isnt what Im into and conversely many women want a guy taller then my almost perfect self . FOr me it's weight for someone else it could be something as silly as bad breath , whatever it is if the person drops off the face of the earth after the first meeting just consider it a life lesson and that all folks will n ot be honest with you . It might not be something you need to internalize , or maybe your just yucky in person , only kidding .



Bear, that happens to me also. Thats just the way it is, we like what we like, can't help it. Can't force ourselves to like people that are not our style.

Hey guys...i'm a larger woman and i couldn't agree more with you....i haven't always been a big girl...so i know both sides..and what i know is that are a lot of hot, gorgeous and great guys that do prefer larger women, and a lot of guys that are like me-no preference , i get stimulated by the mind and character first-s*x will be great if i have intellectuall intercourse 1ST! my point is, ya'll have every right to your preferences and should never apologize for them...it's the people who preach and want to downgrade others for their appearance, whether their too skinny, too fat, too whatever.....if we all avoid criticism and stuck with "this is my choice" mentality, it isn't offensive.....i'd rather be thin, i'd rather do thinner.......and most my men have been,,,, but thats a topic for my therapist!! by the way, i do ugly also....remember - it's all mental at 1st (Now, i will admit, when it comes to my p*rno, everyone better be movie star gorgeous!!! LOL



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Posted on Thu, Sep 22, 2005 19:36


Marzen759 write:

sassc write:

Armydaughter311 write:

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Indoor....It's happened to the best of us, they just vannish off the face of the earth, very inconsiderate. I guess once they met someone, the chase is over and they move on to the next best thing! Don't worry....it's not you!



Yep it happens..Id move on..


I do agree, simply move on. I was prepared to meet up with a guy in Edgewater, MD...no expectations..just thought we hit it off and could have alot of fun in the sun..for a few days. If we clicked we clicked if not...no big deal....needless to say, he extended the invite and then fell off the face of the earth when I agreed I might just take him up on his offer..A response of any kind is the polite and adult thing to do..never took it to heart..just moved on....you deserve that much..keep smiling..

Well I am about 20 miles from Edgewater MD and here I am. Come on down.


Thanks for the winks Marzen....not ignoring just busy packing for a local move next weekend...less then 20 miles..lol

  


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Posted on Tue, Sep 20, 2005 10:11


sassc write:

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Roxie0215 write:
Indoor....It's happened to the best of us, they just vannish off the face of the earth, very inconsiderate. I guess once they met someone, the chase is over and they move on to the next best thing! Don't worry....it's not you!



Yep it happens..Id move on..


I do agree, simply move on. I was prepared to meet up with a guy in Edgewater, MD...no expectations..just thought we hit it off and could have alot of fun in the sun..for a few days. If we clicked we clicked if not...no big deal....needless to say, he extended the invite and then fell off the face of the earth when I agreed I might just take him up on his offer..A response of any kind is the polite and adult thing to do..never took it to heart..just moved on....you deserve that much..keep smiling..

Well I am about 20 miles from Edgewater MD and here I am. Come on down.



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Posted on Tue, Sep 20, 2005 07:19

Well put Happy Kitty. Any man who can't come out and tell me that he is no longer interested needs to grow a set. It's not like I bite, well not unless they ask nicely ;)



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Posted on Tue, Sep 20, 2005 07:11


Bear6664 write:
indoor
sometimes when we finally meet the electricity isnt there and some guys would rather hide then simply say , Im sorry it wasnt there for me , I have met several women who turned out to be considerably heavier then they led me to believe . I assume they thought that thier personalities were so terrific that they could overcome the weight issue but dishonesty is a tw o way street . I am ashamed that I must consider weight as a criteria but the little head gets a say in matters too , it has become such a problem that if all I see is a head shot now Im gonna ask for a full picture . I know that some of the best people in the world are overweight but that just isnt what Im into and conversely many women want a guy taller then my almost perfect self . FOr me it's weight for someone else it could be something as silly as bad breath , whatever it is if the person drops off the face of the earth after the first meeting just consider it a life lesson and that all folks will n ot be honest with you . It might not be something you need to internalize , or maybe your just yucky in person , only kidding .



Bear, that happens to me also. Thats just the way it is, we like what we like, can't help it. Can't force ourselves to like people that are not our style.



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Posted on Tue, Sep 20, 2005 02:20

One of the things I put in my profile (on this site) as far as what I'm looking for in a man is someone with "a little guts in a relationship."

I've had the experience of being in an actual relationship for several months and then had him decide he didn't want to be in the relationship and not even call to tell. Finally got a "dear Jane" e ma*l. I came to the conclusion that though hurtful, it was a blessing. I don't need a man I can't respect. And I can't respect chicken sheet cowards.

On the reverse side, I now find myself in the position of getting ready to have to let someone (not from this site) know after the first meeting that I just don't want a second date. (I was hoping he would be one of the ones that wouldn't call back. Dang!)

So, I know how it feels to have to be the one to say "sorry" also. And I don't relish the thought, but I have to show the same guts and character I want from a man.

The thing is, most of us get rejected sometimes, and most of us do the rejecting sometimes. That part is not necessarily a reflection of who we are or who they are. What is a reflection of us or them is how we each handle the situation, regardless of which end of the stick we're on.



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Posted on Sun, Aug 21, 2005 11:39


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Aw, sooner or later ya get used to it. (lie) Ya just rode 300 miles to meet someone, after checking them out by email, pho*ne, etc. The trip was a bummer from the start, with speed traps, old folks in sleds and maniac truckers who have decals on their cabs, keeping score of the bikers they've killed. Bt through the bugs, the rain and that hail storm atop the Ozarks, you've managed to get there on time. You watch anxiously out the window, awaiting her arrival, checking out every car that pulls into the parking lot. Finally you think you see her. She comes in the door, looks around,giving you a glance. Then she sees someone else she knows and goes over to sit with them. You tell yourself, "Maybe that isn't her", but you know it is. Finally you get out of there; a little embarassed, a little angry, but a hell of a lot wiser. Oh well, at leasat you put some miles on and got a cuppa joe out of the deal. : )




I wouldnt wish that upon anyone BigBear..how horrible

  


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Posted on Sun, Aug 21, 2005 06:49


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Roxie0215 write:
Indoor....It's happened to the best of us, they just vannish off the face of the earth, very inconsiderate. I guess once they met someone, the chase is over and they move on to the next best thing! Don't worry....it's not you!



Yep it happens..Id move on..


I do agree, simply move on. I was prepared to meet up with a guy in Edgewater, MD...no expectations..just thought we hit it off and could have alot of fun in the sun..for a few days. If we clicked we clicked if not...no big deal....needless to say, he extended the invite and then fell off the face of the earth when I agreed I might just take him up on his offer..A response of any kind is the polite and adult thing to do..never took it to heart..just moved on....you deserve that much..keep smiling..

  


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Posted on Sun, Aug 21, 2005 04:45

Aw, sooner or later ya get used to it. (lie) Ya just rode 300 miles to meet someone, after checking them out by email, pho*ne, etc. The trip was a bummer from the start, with speed traps, old folks in sleds and maniac truckers who have decals on their cabs, keeping score of the bikers they've killed. Bt through the bugs, the rain and that hail storm atop the Ozarks, you've managed to get there on time. You watch anxiously out the window, awaiting her arrival, checking out every car that pulls into the parking lot. Finally you think you see her. She comes in the door, looks around,giving you a glance. Then she sees someone else she knows and goes over to sit with them. You tell yourself, "Maybe that isn't her", but you know it is. Finally you get out of there; a little embarassed, a little angry, but a hell of a lot wiser. Oh well, at leasat you put some miles on and got a cuppa joe out of the deal. : )



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Posted on Fri, Aug 19, 2005 13:07

Bear I forgive you for misunderstanding me Dear.. I merely asked why cant they just come out and say it, There profile tells they want honesty, buts thats ok a few other men and ladies helped me out and gave me some great tips..As for your women's weight issue, thank goodness that is just your preference, but some folks are mature enough to..what if I depise men with skinny white arms in sleeveless shirts...ha ! How shallow would I be ?... VERY...

Thanks for trying and the best of luck to you

  


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Posted on Fri, Aug 19, 2005 12:45

Norty, I told all of Biker Kiss Darling... so yes thats honest...

  


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Posted on Thu, Aug 18, 2005 09:52


gefallen write:
"and Hitler hates Harleys, he told me so .... hahahah"

I knew it.. he IS IN TEXAS! Probably hanging out in some small community with Jimmy Hoffa, Elvis and Jim Morrison.



He is a living legend somehow *lol*



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Posted on Thu, Aug 18, 2005 09:00


IndoorVoice write:
Lemme bed ya ear for a quick second, I know its happened to several folks..Me as well... Ya start with a ewink, move to emails, maybe 3 to 5 a day, then ya proceed to messenger for a lil over a week, then ya do the call thing for and you talk several times a day,,EVERYTHING is GREAT !...The day comes where ya meet for lunch...the luncheon was super fun, great company and great food...
Several days pass and you still havent heard from her/him...
What in gods name went wrong ?...And if something went wrong or there wasnt a connection.. Why cant they openly admit it ?...

IV....honesty, now that there is a question.....i don't honestly know....i for one do have a hard time with trusting people....some i chose wisely to trust and some not....but the ones who did prove trustworthy in my book, and i will admit they a far and few between, they for sure outshine all my mistaken trusts.......why what happened to you happened, i don't know, but maybe-just maybe-some unknow force was guiding and protecting you for alot of unwanted heartache....i read this once, and it really helps me.....god, or whoever the higher being be, answers in four ways....1....no, no yet......2...no, i love you to much.....3..yes, i thought you would never ask......4..yes, and her's more.......i'm sorry for what has happened, but you are better then that, hang in there.......

  


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Posted on Thu, Aug 18, 2005 08:51


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I think I saw Honesty the other day. Caught a fleeting glimpse of it passing through town with Integrity, Innocence, Sincerity, Empathy, Hope and Character.

Those silly Seven Horseman! They should hang around a bit longer than they do most times. Dont ya think?

never heard that before, that is nice



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Posted on Thu, Aug 18, 2005 07:03


Roxie0215 write:
Indoor....It's happened to the best of us, they just vannish off the face of the earth, very inconsiderate. I guess once they met someone, the chase is over and they move on to the next best thing! Don't worry....it's not you!



Yep it happens..Id move on..