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Posted on Sat, Mar 11, 2006 07:11

Thanks DD

I was doing a long distance relationship for months,just came back a few weeks ago. we talk all the time, things were going great we talk everyday. than out of the blue nothing, no calls or emails nothing total silence. funny when your in a realtionship,always say communicate and be honest. I have learned a hard one from this past relationship. no more long distance. thanks again..Summer



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Posted on Sat, Mar 11, 2006 07:03

longnailsblonde write:
Why is it when you do ask them you still get the silence. I just trying to understand why men cant be honest. simple thing.

It is some men and some women who cannot be forthright. There are also women online that seriously work the men.
Making friends, and spending time riding and hanging out together, you learn a lot. Changes the whole dynamic to be friends first. Fewer misunderstandings, and a great way to learn what makes people tick without any pressure.
friends rock.

DD

  


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Posted on Fri, Mar 10, 2006 23:01

Why is it when you do ask them you still get the silence. I just trying to understand why men cant be honest. simple thing.



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Posted on Tue, Mar 07, 2006 00:05

IndoorVoice write:
Lemme bed ya ear for a quick second, I know its happened to several folks..Me as well... Ya start with a ewink, move to emails, maybe 3 to 5 a day, then ya proceed to messenger for a lil over a week, then ya do the call thing for and you talk several times a day,,EVERYTHING is GREAT !...The day comes where ya meet for lunch...the luncheon was super fun, great company and great food...
Several days pass and you still havent heard from her/him...
What in gods name went wrong ?...And if something went wrong or there wasnt a connection.. Why cant they openly admit it ?...

I am new to this forum, but can't help putting in my 2 cents worth. I know exactly what you are talking about. Recently I had the same experience, just slightly different. We did not meet on a forum. I had met her somewhere else and we spoke but I never paid much attention to her cause I thought she was married. To make a long story short, I found out she wasn't due to the death of her husband 2 years prior. I was able to make contact with her and we emailed back and forth and then went with the messenger thing. She had even gone as far as to ask me why I didn't pay much attention to her when we had met before.
Any way, we seemed to have everything in common including the love of bikes. I had not dated in over 3 years. I had just given up. She had not dated since her husband had died. So it was a little strange for both of us. She lives 108 miles from me which was no problem at all. We went to eat at a Pasta house and everything went great. We actually spent 4 hours at the Pasta House just talking and laughing away. She had been pretty ill the week prior to the date and wasn't quite over it but still wanted to go. I could see she was starting to feel weak so I suggested we end the evening. I took her back to her house and we made plans for the following day. The following day came and I called her and she sounded awful. I had told her that we could make the date for another day. She thanked me and said she was looking forward to it.
This is where the kicker comes in. When I got home I had emailed her and asked how she was doing. No response. Now mind you, we had not missed an evening of talking for 3 weeks prior to this. After several emails to her and 4 days later, I received an email stating how much she liked me and how much she enjoyed the evening. However, she went on to explain that she thought she was ready to go on with her life, but realised that in fact she wasn't. She said that she can't seem to let go of her husband and felt guilty for going out. Since my sister knows this lady, I do know she was being honest about what she told me.
So you see, it is not exactly the same, but in a way pretty similiar. Maybe, just maybe this guy you met had something in his past that prevented him from seeing you again. Either way, he should have had the common decencey to contact you and explain rather than putting you through that. As far as the comment (from someone else) about some guys just don't want to get fussed at, that may be true, I don't know. However to do that to another person wether it be male or female, is not right and makes that person a total jerk and you are better off without them.
Just my 2 cents worth.



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Posted on Mon, Mar 06, 2006 19:12

That what I would like to know. Why cant people just be honest. I was talking to someone for months. than we met everything seemed great. than they say how they are in love with you ...lol only you never hear from them again.. why is it so hard just to be real and be honest??????



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Posted on Mon, Mar 06, 2006 13:12

IndoorVoice write:
Lemme bed ya ear for a quick second, I know its happened to several folks..Me as well... Ya start with a ewink, move to emails, maybe 3 to 5 a day, then ya proceed to messenger for a lil over a week, then ya do the call thing for and you talk several times a day,,EVERYTHING is GREAT !...The day comes where ya meet for lunch...the luncheon was super fun, great company and great food...
Several days pass and you still havent heard from her/him...
What in gods name went wrong ?...And if something went wrong or there wasnt a connection.. Why cant they openly admit it ?...


Bottom line?

Men will say they didn't want to hurt your feelings..not realizing complete silence is worse. They hate confrontation..and with the way some women act after one date.. I can't say I blame them. Just ask him flat out..you'll get your answers.

Every date can't be Mr or Miss Wonderful..

but you can sure make some good friend's along the way.



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Posted on Mon, Mar 06, 2006 10:51

nittekitten write:
IrishRoseCA write:

nittekitten write:
it's the same for all of us. this is
really a strange way to meet people
and the rules are just as strange.
i've been thru the same, on both ends.
but at least i had the guts to say
your a nice guy, but... men, there
different, afraid of getting fussed
at i guess, lol
well, i'm meeting my first date
tonight off of bk. this man drove
a lot of miles and went to a lot
of trouble to take me to dinner.
wish me luck, i need it, i'm a
nervous wreck.


NiteKitten:how'd it go?


thanks for asking irishrose. went
very well i think, but there are
a lot of miles between us. we'll
have to see. (outside of the afore-
mentioned problem with this internet
dating stuff)

if things go as planned, i'll see him
again tomarrow night.

Good luck and hang in there!! If you have the right one it will become apparent to you. Don't ignore red flags or green flags. The distance is not insurmontable... We all end up where we're supposed to be don't try to control that which you cannot control.

Keep ridin and smilin sister

  


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Posted on Fri, Mar 03, 2006 17:33

nittekitten: good news! hope it continues to go well for you.

DD

  


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Posted on Wed, Mar 01, 2006 23:11

IrishRoseCA write:

nittekitten write:
it's the same for all of us. this is
really a strange way to meet people
and the rules are just as strange.
i've been thru the same, on both ends.
but at least i had the guts to say
your a nice guy, but... men, there
different, afraid of getting fussed
at i guess, lol
well, i'm meeting my first date
tonight off of bk. this man drove
a lot of miles and went to a lot
of trouble to take me to dinner.
wish me luck, i need it, i'm a
nervous wreck.


NiteKitten:how'd it go?


thanks for asking irishrose. went
very well i think, but there are
a lot of miles between us. we'll
have to see. (outside of the afore-
mentioned problem with this internet
dating stuff)

if things go as planned, i'll see him
again tomarrow night.

  


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Posted on Wed, Mar 01, 2006 20:32

nittekitten write:
it's the same for all of us. this is
really a strange way to meet people
and the rules are just as strange.
i've been thru the same, on both ends.
but at least i had the guts to say
your a nice guy, but... men, there
different, afraid of getting
at i guess, lol
well, i'm meeting my first date
tonight off of bk. this man drove
a lot of miles and went to a lot
of trouble to take me to dinner.
wish me luck, i need it, i'm a
nervous wreck.

NiteKitten:how'd it go?

  


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Posted on Wed, Mar 01, 2006 17:22

it's the same for all of us. this is
really a strange way to meet people
and the rules are just as strange.
i've been thru the same, on both ends.
but at least i had the guts to say
your a nice guy, but... men, there
different, afraid of getting
at i guess, lol
well, i'm meeting my first date
tonight off of bk. this man drove
a lot of miles and went to a lot
of trouble to take me to dinner.
wish me luck, i need it, i'm a
nervous wreck.

  


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Posted on Tue, Feb 28, 2006 10:03

alltomlee write:
HI There way went wrong? More than likely you said some thing he did or she did not want to here and they are gone just like that. You more than likely did nothing wrong just got tired of you and dumped you. That is the way the world is today. I'am not syaing it right but it is the way it is. Just move on to the next one and keep going!!

wish you best of luck

The eeeemaile, winks, etc and even chat do not work much around here.
You cannot type a lot of common words or your post gets booted...
But there are so many great people here, makes it worth all the b s . (I think.)

And I know people get very bdy, single parent problems, etc. It sure would be nice to know why:If someone seems to have a wonderful time and then checks out.

That's why friends rock!


LOL.

DD



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Posted on Mon, Feb 27, 2006 19:30

HI There way went wrong? More than likely you said some thing he did or she did not want to here and they are gone just like that. You more than likely did nothing wrong just got tired of you and dumped you. That is the way the world is today. I'am not syaing it right but it is the way it is. Just move on to the next one and keep going!!

wish you best of luck



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Posted on Thu, Oct 20, 2005 19:55

well have a back up plan next time you make arrangements to meet someone--know the area set up an appointment for a pedicure or a manicure and treat yourself to something special- and by the time you are done with the pedicure or manicure you will have forgotten all about him.and if by chance they do show up you can always call and cancel the appointment.either way you come out the winner.
well have a back up plan next time you make arrangements to meet someone--know the area set up an appointment for a pedicure or a manicure and treat yourself to something special- and by the time you are done with the pedicure or manicure you will have forgotten all about him.and if by chance they do show up you can always call and cancel the appointment.either way you come out the winner.

  


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Posted on Thu, Oct 20, 2005 18:15

Actually I was talking to a friend of mine on this type of subject the other night. One thing that we concluded and probably most others have . Is that it is easy to hide behind a computer screen and give people what they want to hear (mind you, you have to be good a reading people but what con man isn't). You can make up all these fantasies about your income, home, your personality, who and what you are basically. But one day you are brought back into reality and the person can't face it. But what I object to most are people trying to continue the farce of lying when they are caught out and then they try to pick fights so that they can say they walked out lmao. Some people just don't know when to quit.
I have had email and messenger contacts for months and then all of a sudden they are no longer there. I have been lucky in the live meetings only 1 disappeared there lol.
I have been on both sides of the fence.. I have had to tell people that there was nothing there and vice versa. That does not give me sleepless nights.
I guess we just have to keep our guard up and take one step at a time.
Ride safe everyone.
Actually I was talking to a friend of mine on this type of subject the other night. One thing that we concluded and probably most others have . Is that it is easy to hide behind a computer screen and give people what they want to hear (mind you, you have to be good a reading people but what con man isn't). You can make up all these fantasies about your income, home, your personality, who and what you are basically. But one day you are brought back into reality and the person can't face it. But what I object to most are people trying to continue the farce of lying when they are caught out and then they try to pick fights so that they can say they walked out lmao. Some people just don't know when to quit.
I have had email and messenger contacts for months and then all of a sudden they are no longer there. I have been lucky in the live meetings only 1 disappeared there lol.
I have been on both sides of the fence.. I have had to tell people that there was nothing there and vice versa. That does not give me sleepless nights.
I guess we just have to keep our guard up and take one step at a time.
Ride safe everyone.

  


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Posted on Thu, Oct 20, 2005 16:26

whoops sorry about the big pic I'm new to this and didn't realize that it was gonna be some giant post !!!
whoops sorry about the big pic I'm new to this and didn't realize that it was gonna be some giant post !!!



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Posted on Thu, Oct 20, 2005 16:20

same thing happened to me two times ,but I met them both and one visited me twice,and from edgewater too...hummmm. I don't know why they just can't tell ya the truth. it's not a big deal sometimes people just don't "click" but after meeting a couple times and a lot of correspondance it just doesn't make sense. anyway don't give up. you are really cute and I'm sure you will find someone . I'm going to try not to give up too since as they say sometimes s**t just happens. it would be nice though to be told what happened.
same thing happened to me two times ,but I met them both and one visited me twice,and from edgewater too...hummmm. I don't know why they just can't tell ya the truth. it's not a big deal sometimes people just don't "click" but after meeting a couple times and a lot of correspondance it just doesn't make sense. anyway don't give up. you are really cute and I'm sure you will find someone . I'm going to try not to give up too since as they say sometimes s**t just happens. it would be nice though to be told what happened.

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Posted on Thu, Oct 20, 2005 14:24

A "sancho" is a man that specializes in secretly having secks with married women.


can't be that good if the women don't knowA "sancho" is a man that specializes in secretly having secks with married women.


can't be that good if the women don't know

  


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Posted on Wed, Oct 19, 2005 15:11

Indoor ....... yes, it is ashame there are so many cowards out there -- but it does happen. Hang in there girl -- the right one is out there, and when the time is right, he will appear. Best wishes to you!
Indoor ....... yes, it is ashame there are so many cowards out there -- but it does happen. Hang in there girl -- the right one is out there, and when the time is right, he will appear. Best wishes to you!



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Posted on Mon, Oct 10, 2005 12:57

NORTY said: "A "sancho" is a man that specializes in secretly having secks with married women."

Well, that probably works for some men and some married women- but the secrecy part would never work for me!
DD

  


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