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Posted on Mon, Apr 10, 2006 12:55

harleyangeleyes4u write:
WOW, hmmmm had a wall up for a long time due to being hurt and lies. Now Im wondering did I do the right thing coming back in here ?

well why they cant be honest is beside me...Messed up heads i guess...both!!!lmfao



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Posted on Mon, Apr 10, 2006 08:41

IndoorVoice write:
Lemme bed ya ear for a quick second, I know its happened to several folks..Me as well... Ya start with a ewink, move to emails, maybe 3 to 5 a day, then ya proceed to messenger for a lil over a week, then ya do the call thing for and you talk several times a day,,EVERYTHING is GREAT !...The day comes where ya meet for lunch...the luncheon was super fun, great company and great food...
Several days pass and you still havent heard from her/him...
What in gods name went wrong ?...And if something went wrong or there wasnt a connection.. Why cant they openly admit it ?...

What a powerful question to ponder over. I guess with most of us pilgrims (being biker guys), its tougher to be in touch with emotions and establishing relationships.
I have only learned through experience that all of the wisdom and knowledge that we take in is only as good as the person we share it with. There is nothing like the excitement, emphatuation, or physical attractions to someone wanted that immediate need for gratification and I think a slower pace/path and road to friendship is the best approach to a sucessful meeting and match for whatever it is we all search for here. I think friendship should be the overwhelming precedent or protocol, because that way, I don't think we would feel loss, cheat, or betrayal. Have hope, and all things in there time will be.



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Posted on Fri, Mar 31, 2006 13:49

WOW, hmmmm had a wall up for a long time due to being hurt and lies. Now Im wondering did I do the right thing coming back in here ?

  


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Posted on Mon, Mar 13, 2006 18:49

this is true and hello to you nastalgia



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Posted on Mon, Mar 13, 2006 18:48

Thanks DD

I do look forward to meeting new friends here.



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Posted on Sun, Mar 12, 2006 12:21

Howdy everyone, Just want to throw my 2 cents worth in (hi Summer) well whats honesty have to do with ne thing I ask??
If one can't be honest with themself, there's no to be with others...which is sad in it's self. Honesty is never seen sitting astride the fence. Look at lies, We tell lies when we are afraid... afraid of what we don't know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie, the thing that we fear grows stronger.
sincerity is something that shouldn't be taken lightly, infact the lack of it has caused Wars, divide Family...it's the backbone of what we should be. True to each other, as they say the TRUTH speaks for it self!!!



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Posted on Sun, Mar 12, 2006 07:57

I agree Mike, I would expect those type of games from Children not adults. I can handle to the truth, ignoring someone shows no respect that is what hurts. I always treat people the way I want to be treated, with Respect and honesty. I am sure there are real people on here. look forward to meeting new friends. was just curious about it. Sorry it has happend to you also.



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Posted on Sun, Mar 12, 2006 07:50

I agree Mike. we are not children we are adults. I would expect that from children. I have always lived by... I treat people exactly the way I want to be treated. that would be RESPECT,HONESTY. Nothing hurts a person more than being ignored. Thanks for the reply nice to hear a mans side. lol.. I am learning most people are very much into games. LOL oh well learning expereince :)



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Posted on Sun, Mar 12, 2006 03:00

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Thanks DD

I was doing a long distance relationship for months,just came back a few weeks ago. we talk all the time, things were going great we talk everyday. than out of the blue nothing, no calls or emails nothing total silence. funny when your in a realtionship,always say communicate and be honest. I have learned a hard one from this past relationship. no more long distance. thanks again..Summer

Mike: If you were closer, we could ride and let the wind sweep it all away.

Summer: I have heard of men and women who do the same thing. Several of them are on BK.
I don't get that kind of behavior, never will.
Life is too short, too fleeting to waste.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
And,
Hold fast to Dreams,
for if Dreams die,
Life is a broken winged bird;
that cannot Fly.
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There are plenty of great people here to make friends with.
DD



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Posted on Sat, Mar 11, 2006 07:58

i hate that.i had the same thing happen to me.we meet for newyears everything seemed to go great and she even said she'd like to see me again.then bam no calles back or email replys.it would have been nice to at least get an email saing she decided she wasn't intrested.let get real people were not children ,were adults,at least most or us i think lol.we can handle the truth be honest,tell the truth for once.if not i hope it kicks you back in the as

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Posted on Sat, Mar 11, 2006 07:11

Thanks DD

I was doing a long distance relationship for months,just came back a few weeks ago. we talk all the time, things were going great we talk everyday. than out of the blue nothing, no calls or emails nothing total silence. funny when your in a realtionship,always say communicate and be honest. I have learned a hard one from this past relationship. no more long distance. thanks again..Summer



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Posted on Sat, Mar 11, 2006 07:03

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Why is it when you do ask them you still get the silence. I just trying to understand why men cant be honest. simple thing.

It is some men and some women who cannot be forthright. There are also women online that seriously work the men.
Making friends, and spending time riding and hanging out together, you learn a lot. Changes the whole dynamic to be friends first. Fewer misunderstandings, and a great way to learn what makes people tick without any pressure.
friends rock.

DD

  


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Posted on Fri, Mar 10, 2006 23:01

Why is it when you do ask them you still get the silence. I just trying to understand why men cant be honest. simple thing.



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Posted on Tue, Mar 07, 2006 00:05

IndoorVoice write:
Lemme bed ya ear for a quick second, I know its happened to several folks..Me as well... Ya start with a ewink, move to emails, maybe 3 to 5 a day, then ya proceed to messenger for a lil over a week, then ya do the call thing for and you talk several times a day,,EVERYTHING is GREAT !...The day comes where ya meet for lunch...the luncheon was super fun, great company and great food...
Several days pass and you still havent heard from her/him...
What in gods name went wrong ?...And if something went wrong or there wasnt a connection.. Why cant they openly admit it ?...

I am new to this forum, but can't help putting in my 2 cents worth. I know exactly what you are talking about. Recently I had the same experience, just slightly different. We did not meet on a forum. I had met her somewhere else and we spoke but I never paid much attention to her cause I thought she was married. To make a long story short, I found out she wasn't due to the death of her husband 2 years prior. I was able to make contact with her and we emailed back and forth and then went with the messenger thing. She had even gone as far as to ask me why I didn't pay much attention to her when we had met before.
Any way, we seemed to have everything in common including the love of bikes. I had not dated in over 3 years. I had just given up. She had not dated since her husband had died. So it was a little strange for both of us. She lives 108 miles from me which was no problem at all. We went to eat at a Pasta house and everything went great. We actually spent 4 hours at the Pasta House just talking and laughing away. She had been pretty ill the week prior to the date and wasn't quite over it but still wanted to go. I could see she was starting to feel weak so I suggested we end the evening. I took her back to her house and we made plans for the following day. The following day came and I called her and she sounded awful. I had told her that we could make the date for another day. She thanked me and said she was looking forward to it.
This is where the kicker comes in. When I got home I had emailed her and asked how she was doing. No response. Now mind you, we had not missed an evening of talking for 3 weeks prior to this. After several emails to her and 4 days later, I received an email stating how much she liked me and how much she enjoyed the evening. However, she went on to explain that she thought she was ready to go on with her life, but realised that in fact she wasn't. She said that she can't seem to let go of her husband and felt guilty for going out. Since my sister knows this lady, I do know she was being honest about what she told me.
So you see, it is not exactly the same, but in a way pretty similiar. Maybe, just maybe this guy you met had something in his past that prevented him from seeing you again. Either way, he should have had the common decencey to contact you and explain rather than putting you through that. As far as the comment (from someone else) about some guys just don't want to get fussed at, that may be true, I don't know. However to do that to another person wether it be male or female, is not right and makes that person a total jerk and you are better off without them.
Just my 2 cents worth.



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Posted on Mon, Mar 06, 2006 19:12

That what I would like to know. Why cant people just be honest. I was talking to someone for months. than we met everything seemed great. than they say how they are in love with you ...lol only you never hear from them again.. why is it so hard just to be real and be honest??????



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Posted on Mon, Mar 06, 2006 10:51

nittekitten write:
IrishRoseCA write:

nittekitten write:
it's the same for all of us. this is
really a strange way to meet people
and the rules are just as strange.
i've been thru the same, on both ends.
but at least i had the guts to say
your a nice guy, but... men, there
different, afraid of getting fussed
at i guess, lol
well, i'm meeting my first date
tonight off of bk. this man drove
a lot of miles and went to a lot
of trouble to take me to dinner.
wish me luck, i need it, i'm a
nervous wreck.


NiteKitten:how'd it go?


thanks for asking irishrose. went
very well i think, but there are
a lot of miles between us. we'll
have to see. (outside of the afore-
mentioned problem with this internet
dating stuff)

if things go as planned, i'll see him
again tomarrow night.

Good luck and hang in there!! If you have the right one it will become apparent to you. Don't ignore red flags or green flags. The distance is not insurmontable... We all end up where we're supposed to be don't try to control that which you cannot control.

Keep ridin and smilin sister

  


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Posted on Fri, Mar 03, 2006 17:33

nittekitten: good news! hope it continues to go well for you.

DD

  


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Posted on Wed, Mar 01, 2006 20:32

nittekitten write:
it's the same for all of us. this is
really a strange way to meet people
and the rules are just as strange.
i've been thru the same, on both ends.
but at least i had the guts to say
your a nice guy, but... men, there
different, afraid of getting
at i guess, lol
well, i'm meeting my first date
tonight off of bk. this man drove
a lot of miles and went to a lot
of trouble to take me to dinner.
wish me luck, i need it, i'm a
nervous wreck.

NiteKitten:how'd it go?

  


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Posted on Tue, Feb 28, 2006 10:03

alltomlee write:
HI There way went wrong? More than likely you said some thing he did or she did not want to here and they are gone just like that. You more than likely did nothing wrong just got tired of you and dumped you. That is the way the world is today. I'am not syaing it right but it is the way it is. Just move on to the next one and keep going!!

wish you best of luck

The eeeemaile, winks, etc and even chat do not work much around here.
You cannot type a lot of common words or your post gets booted...
But there are so many great people here, makes it worth all the b s . (I think.)

And I know people get very bdy, single parent problems, etc. It sure would be nice to know why:If someone seems to have a wonderful time and then checks out.

That's why friends rock!


LOL.

DD



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Posted on Mon, Feb 27, 2006 19:30

HI There way went wrong? More than likely you said some thing he did or she did not want to here and they are gone just like that. You more than likely did nothing wrong just got tired of you and dumped you. That is the way the world is today. I'am not syaing it right but it is the way it is. Just move on to the next one and keep going!!

wish you best of luck



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