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Posted on Tue, Aug 23, 2005 10:40


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Nodey write:

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Gothic, Nodey , first things first. you are both gorgeous women and I'm having a hard time believing that either of you don't know, and go after exactly what you want.

VERY well said, Tricia. Hey girls, welcome to the new millenium,

Bear has a point, you do have to pick your spot, not every bar is 'safe',


True Warmheart. That's why I don't like agoing into any new place alone.

Get my point?

......Nodey someone told me "Don't be skeeeeeeeeeered"....Shoot we stare atya here(I do anyway~no drool yet).......My advice..GO..member some guys have gals, their someone to keep eye on.....ya know how gals can act...or plan "B"...flush the whole pile crap away..come to Corpus I can be ya personal tour guide....problem solved....South Padre rally in mid Oct..should I book ya a room??

  


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Posted on Tue, Aug 23, 2005 06:23


Nodey write:
Wowzer! I had a friend come visit me and we went to Bike Night here in Nashville. My first time going, because all of my friends don't share the riding interest that I do.
Talk about lots of h*ot single men! My only problem now is I have no one to brave the waters with me.

Any suggestions how I go about going to bike night alone?


Hello Nodey, You need to go with other girl friends, offer to buy the first round anything to motivate them to go along.
You know the "Safety in numbers thing".
I understand your dilema, "Country Girl in the big city" thang.
All those strangers and their all stareing at you. Right?
Time is slipping by Girl it's time you made up your mind and took action.
I hope to read of your sucess soon.
Peace

SLB



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Posted on Tue, Aug 23, 2005 01:51


Nodey write:

Warmheart write:

Tricia2005 write:
Gothic, Nodey , first things first. you are both gorgeous women and I'm having a hard time believing that either of you don't know, and go after exactly what you want.

VERY well said, Tricia. Hey girls, welcome to the new millenium,

Bear has a point, you do have to pick your spot, not every bar is 'safe',


True Warmheart. That's why I don't like agoing into any new place alone.

Get my point?

......Nodey someone told me "Don't be skeeeeeeeeeered"....Shoot we stare atya here(I do anyway~no drool yet).......My advice..GO..member some guys have gals, their someone to keep eye on.....ya know how gals can act...or plan "B"...flush the whole pile crap away..come to Corpus I can be ya personal tour guide....problem solved....South Padre rally in mid Oct..should I book ya a room??

  


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Posted on Mon, Aug 22, 2005 18:50

I agree Nodey..sometimes you just have to go it alone...I go alone all the time (new to this site in hopes of changing that) and if I dont see someone I know I just act like Im waiting on someone. You wont be alone long. Good Luck

  


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Posted on Mon, Aug 22, 2005 09:16

I understand that a person has to make themself happy. I have really been working on trying to have a positive attitude. I am back in college and have lost 13 pounds in the past 2 months. When I catch myself having a negative thought, mostly depression because I don't have a man, or jealousy that someone else has a man, I try to think of positive thoughts, "I'll have a man soon" and be happy for the woman who has a man.
I understand that not every woman who walks into a bar-room is a loose woman. But walking into a bar-room alone does give that impression to many people and can kind of set you up as a target. A rapist or killer is more likely to stalk the single girl, than a couple or group of girls.
I really don't like bar-rooms anyway, because, surprise, surprise, you meet drunks. I've tried giving it a shot and hoping there will be someone like me, who is just there to socialize. So far, no luck.
A lot of people suggested I try church, since I am looking for marriage. All I met there was boring men. I am getting involved with the biker church, but all the cool guys there are already married. Perhaps I'll meet someone volunteering at events.
As far as the internet goes, I've only met one man and he was 5'2". I need a big guy, I'm no delicate flower.
I've met several men off of local chat lines, all a bunch of losers. Does anyone actually have good luck on here, or are we all a bunch of lost, lonely souls so damaged that we don't even want each other?
A lot of people, mostly women say they can't believe I don't have a man the way I look, and I'm a really sweet person. I don't understand it myself. There's a local joke about me, they say I couldn't get a man if I was in Angola with a hand-full of pardons.
I don't know what the problem is. Any suggestions?



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Posted on Sun, Aug 21, 2005 17:59


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True Warmheart. That's why I don't like agoing into any new place alone. I would rather go in numbers until I feel the place and patrons out. Gothic has a point about the South. On the upside,people are a lot more open and friendly. The downside is the they hold fast to their old beliefs.I truly am too old to worry about what people think of me for walking into a bar alone being female. What bothers me is the fact that there are some who ACT on those beliefs. whether it be a sportsbar or a bikerbar.

I have my favorite haunts where I have a feel for the place and people, So I have no problem walking in alone. This is new waters for me,therefore the dilemma.

Get my point?



Yes, I think I do. I haven't lived there, so I'll have to guess based on the people I know from there. It would be different from here I'm sure. As much as things change, they still stay the same, eh?

Maybe something to try would be to suggest some of those familiar people from your present favorite haunts meet there at the new place?



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Posted on Fri, Aug 19, 2005 15:18


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Gothic, Nodey , first things first. you are both gorgeous women and I'm having a hard time believing that either of you don't know, and go after exactly what you want. However if you truly are being held prisoner by these repressive excuses for not seeking your own happiness, then may I suggest you seriously look at us women today AGAIN. We are strong independent and most of us self supporting and do not seek out men for the same reasons are mothers did so how is it possible to take the advice or warnings offered us as little girls. I hope no woman out there would let feelings of self or social inadequacies take root, if we learn to be happy, and I mean it girls happy with ourselves and "our" choices others will follow and be drawn to that happiness. So Nadey I hope you go to that bar and sit there real proud because lady you'll be exactly where you want to be and will still be a lady. or call me and I'll come with you.and Gothic, free your mind the rest might follow



VERY well said, Tricia. Hey girls, welcome to the new millenium, where the old rules don't apply. Tell that mom's voice in your head to leave you alone because you know better. Isn't independence one of the traits that attracts you to the biker community?

Bear has a point, you do have to pick your spot, not every bar is 'safe', with or without accompaniment, but look around first and choose for yourself whether or not you are in physical danger. Your woman's intuition should tell you that, right? If it's a real threat it feels different from just insecurity or embarrasment, doesn't it? And there's always a few jokers in every deck, don't be afraid to walk away from or ask someone to leave you alone if they are 'weird'and make you uncomfortable. Personally I've seen more 'crap' toward women take place in sports bars than in biker bars.


True Warmheart. That's why I don't like agoing into any new place alone. I would rather go in numbers until I feel the place and patrons out. Gothic has a point about the South. On the upside,people are a lot more open and friendly. The downside is the they hold fast to their old beliefs.I truly am too old to worry about what people think of me for walking into a bar alone being female. What bothers me is the fact that there are some who ACT on those beliefs. whether it be a sportsbar or a bikerbar.

I have my favorite haunts where I have a feel for the place and people, So I have no problem walking in alone. This is new waters for me,therefore the dilemma.

Get my point?



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Posted on Fri, Aug 19, 2005 12:23


Tricia2005 write:
Gothic, Nodey , first things first. you are both gorgeous women and I'm having a hard time believing that either of you don't know, and go after exactly what you want. However if you truly are being held prisoner by these repressive excuses for not seeking your own happiness, then may I suggest you seriously look at us women today AGAIN. We are strong independent and most of us self supporting and do not seek out men for the same reasons are mothers did so how is it possible to take the advice or warnings offered us as little girls. I hope no woman out there would let feelings of self or social inadequacies take root, if we learn to be happy, and I mean it girls happy with ourselves and "our" choices others will follow and be drawn to that happiness. So Nadey I hope you go to that bar and sit there real proud because lady you'll be exactly where you want to be and will still be a lady. or call me and I'll come with you.and Gothic, free your mind the rest might follow



VERY well said, Tricia. Hey girls, welcome to the new millenium, where the old rules don't apply. Tell that mom's voice in your head to leave you alone because you know better. Isn't independence one of the traits that attracts you to the biker community?

Bear has a point, you do have to pick your spot, not every bar is 'safe', with or without accompaniment, but look around first and choose for yourself whether or not you are in physical danger. Your woman's intuition should tell you that, right? If it's a real threat it feels different from just insecurity or embarrasment, doesn't it? And there's always a few jokers in every deck, don't be afraid to walk away from or ask someone to leave you alone if they are 'weird'and make you uncomfortable. Personally I've seen more 'crap' toward women take place in sports bars than in biker bars.



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Posted on Fri, Aug 19, 2005 08:02


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Hi trish love the new pic , let me tell you Trish is one independant strong woman and her advise is good . However
Nodey stay out of Bars alone , in bars you meet drunks and players or if your a guy you meet tramps and addicts , that is what is so great about internet dating you can SCREEN the idiots before they are drunkingly trying to grope you on a first meeting , plus bars are dangerous , Id get you outside and toss you in my saddlebag to never be heard from again .



Exactly my point Bear. This is exactly why I was having the dilemma.



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Posted on Fri, Aug 19, 2005 07:56


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Nodey,

JUST go!!!!!!!!!!! do it............ nothing wrong with going alone.
I do it at times, and not there more than 2 minutes and have a few men giving me lots of attention.
Hey, that is the best way to find a man anyway.... if your with others they are sometimes hesitant in approaching you... especially if you with a man friend.. which I have plenty of men friends and they think it is your
boyfriend and it isnt> sometimes I want to wear a sign > Single. teeeee. I have a coutnry cowgirl shirt that says:
I gave him the boot, and has a pic of a cowboy boot at the end of the saying...
I get so many compliments on it :)

Anyway go try going out alone and let me know how it goes...

Good Luck!
NYBikercowgirl




Thanks Ldy-H.I was going to go this past week,but it poured all evening. maybe next week.



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Posted on Fri, Aug 19, 2005 07:51


Tricia2005 write:
Gothic, Nodey , first things first. you are both gorgeous women and I'm having a hard time believing that either of you don't know, and go after exactly what you want. However if you truly are being held prisoner by these repressive excuses for not seeking your own happiness, then may I suggest you seriously look at us women today AGAIN. We are strong independent and most of us self supporting and do not seek out men for the same reasons are mothers did so how is it possible to take the advice or warnings offered us as little girls. I hope no woman out there would let feelings of self or social inadequacies take root, if we learn to be happy, and I mean it girls happy with ourselves and "our" choices others will follow and be drawn to that happiness. So Nadey I hope you go to that bar and sit there real proud because lady you'll be exactly where you want to be and will still be a lady. or call me and I'll come with you.and Gothic, free your mind the rest might follow




Thanks for the words Tricia. But I do go after and seek my own happiness.As-a-matter-of-fact,I am a happy person. But,this is not about seeking happiness. It's about walking into a biker bar alone. I've been through way too much to be naive enough to walk in somewhere being the lone female. I think this is what this whole question boils down to for me.


I do appreciate your words of wisdom though. Good post.



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Posted on Fri, Aug 19, 2005 06:50


Tricia2005 write:
Gothic, Nodey , first things first. you are both gorgeous women and I'm having a hard time believing that either of you don't know, and go after exactly what you want. However if you truly are being held prisoner by these repressive excuses for not seeking your own happiness, then may I suggest you seriously look at us women today AGAIN. We are strong independent and most of us self supporting and do not seek out men for the same reasons are mothers did so how is it possible to take the advice or warnings offered us as little girls. I hope no woman out there would let feelings of self or social inadequacies take root, if we learn to be happy, and I mean it girls happy with ourselves and "our" choices others will follow and be drawn to that happiness. So Nadey I hope you go to that bar and sit there real proud because lady you'll be exactly where you want to be and will still be a lady. or call me and I'll come with you.and Gothic, free your mind the rest might follow


Beautiful house Miss Tricia!

  


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Posted on Fri, Aug 19, 2005 06:40


Nodey write:
Thank HarleyChic and Warmheart. Good advice from you both! Funny thing is someone spotted me there and recognized me from Y ahoo. He tracked me down and we went riding and barhopping. From that I got two more numbers.
I'm going to take both of your's advice and try it.What do I have to lose?

Well, g/f, if you do this and it works, you let me know..I've never had the kahonas to go into a bar/bikenight alone...lol think it's because of where we're from Nodey? You know..sweet, southern belles and all??

  


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Posted on Thu, Aug 18, 2005 21:54

Gothic, Nodey , first things first. you are both gorgeous women and I'm having a hard time believing that either of you don't know, and go after exactly what you want. However if you truly are being held prisoner by these repressive excuses for not seeking your own happiness, then may I suggest you seriously look at us women today AGAIN. We are strong independent and most of us self supporting and do not seek out men for the same reasons are mothers did so how is it possible to take the advice or warnings offered us as little girls. I hope no woman out there would let feelings of self or social inadequacies take root, if we learn to be happy, and I mean it girls happy with ourselves and "our" choices others will follow and be drawn to that happiness. So Nadey I hope you go to that bar and sit there real proud because lady you'll be exactly where you want to be and will still be a lady. or call me and I'll come with you.and Gothic, free your mind the rest might follow

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Posted on Thu, Aug 18, 2005 17:58

Maybe it's just a southern thing, but I was always taught that a lady that goes to a bar-room alone is a w----. I haven't ever went into a bar-room alone because I wouldn't want people to think that, so I'm usually alone and miserable. Is this attitude just from my area, or is it old-fashioned? I realize that a lot of things that used to not be acceptable, like women calling men and asking them on dates, now is, but I still wouldn't do anything like that either.



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Posted on Thu, Aug 18, 2005 13:12

Nodey,

JUST go!!!!!!!!!!! do it............ nothing wrong with going alone.
I do it at times, and not there more than 2 minutes and have a few men giving me lots of attention.
Hey, that is the best way to find a man anyway.... if your with others they are sometimes hesitant in approaching you... especially if you with a man friend.. which I have plenty of men friends and they think it is your
boyfriend and it isnt> sometimes I want to wear a sign > Single. teeeee. I have a coutnry cowgirl shirt that says:
I gave him the boot, and has a pic of a cowboy boot at the end of the saying...
I get so many compliments on it :)

Anyway go try going out alone and let me know how it goes...

Good Luck!
NYBikercowgirl

  


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Posted on Sun, Aug 14, 2005 10:27


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Nodey write:
Wowzer! I had a friend come visit me and we went to Bike Night here in Nashville. My first time going, because all of my friends don't share the riding interest that I do.
Talk about lots of h*ot single men! My only problem now is I have no one to brave the waters with me.

Any suggestions how I go about going to bike night alone?


Why do that, I would love to come up from Huntsville area and take you to Bike Night any time. We have several here that you might like to attend... on Thursday Nights. Would love to meet you anytime...

Rick
SilverStreakBiker




Gee,thanks for the offer Silver! I might just take you up on that oneday.

  


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Posted on Sun, Aug 14, 2005 10:24

Thank HarleyChic and Warmheart. Good advice from you both! Funny thing is someone spotted me there and recognized me from Y ahoo. He tracked me down and we went riding and barhopping. From that I got two more numbers.
I'm going to take both of your's advice and try it.What do I have to lose?



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Posted on Sat, Aug 13, 2005 22:18


Nodey write:
Wowzer! I had a friend come visit me and we went to Bike Night here in Nashville. My first time going, because all of my friends don't share the riding interest that I do.
Talk about lots of h*ot single men! My only problem now is I have no one to brave the waters with me.

Any suggestions how I go about going to bike night alone?


Why do that, I would love to come up from Huntsville area and take you to Bike Night any time. We have several here that you might like to attend... on Thursday Nights. Would love to meet you anytime...

Rick
SilverStreakBiker



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Posted on Sat, Aug 13, 2005 22:02

A lot of those Biker Men are down here in Alabama where we can ride all year .... come on down!!
Will be looking for you,
Rick
aka SilverStreakBiker



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