DIVORCE IS IT WORTH IT? Friendship

  • View author's info posted on Apr 27, 2005 09:29


    Ive had 2 marriages and 2 divorces,,, both men cheated and lied. One of the men is on here i wont give out his name.. but he has found "the love" of his life for now... i was his 5th marriage and his exwife tried to tell me about him and his drinking problem but i didnt want to hear it .. finally realized it though.. but i WAS so much in love with him. but anyway ... I AM ALL GOOD..
  • View author's info posted on Apr 27, 2005 07:29


    Since i started tihis part.Divorce is not a plesant thing,in my case i feel it was inevatable.After 7 yrs of being very unhappy i decided to end it,she did not want it.While dating,I was very upfront what was negoshable and what wasnt.After about 5 years of marrige,the non negoshable things became a problem.So i stood my grounds and the problems began.She was a stay at home mom and complained how bad her life was?So she left here with enough to pay cash fur 2 new harleys and 500. a month fur 1 child.She is an RN AND A GOOD MOTHER,GOOD PERSON.I kept all of my stuff,a lot of which i had before the wedding and the house,for what i have i feel she was very fair.My self,I cant be any happier.well thats my story and im sticking to it LOL
  • View author's info posted on Apr 27, 2005 06:45


    Yeah, well, on that....Take a Number, LOL.
  • View author's info posted on Apr 27, 2005 06:39


    Yeah Razar, peace and happiness is where it's at. Just need a little grownup lovin now
  • View author's info posted on Apr 27, 2005 04:56


    Good for you Cruz that you came out on top. Sounds like me, only I didn't get the bike until after the divorce. Couldn't afford it before that the way she went through the money.

    I got the house, the kids and lost a lot of money in the process, but we're all happy now.
  • View author's info posted on Apr 27, 2005 04:46


    Even tho it just about ruined me financially, I kept the house, the hog and most importantly the 2 minor kids. Finally after 26 years we have a peaceful, loving household. So worth it.
  • View author's info posted on Apr 24, 2005 23:24


    Well said ladyvulcan
  • View author's info posted on Apr 24, 2005 19:54


    Divorce, is it worth it? I thought a long time about this one. The question, is it worth it? Then I read through the thread. Divorce is devasting, it is the end of a family unit. Kids never do understand and they seem to suffer the worst. But, still, is it worth it? In my instance I stuck around way longer than I wanted to. I waited until my kids were grown because I felt they deserved happiness at any cost. Perhaps it was easier because he was not the Father of my children, but since their Father had passed it was the only Father they knew. Even so, my belief is that divorce is never worth it, but sometimes it is inevitable. There is no other option.
  • View author's info posted on Apr 20, 2005 04:51


    Well, as for us common folks, I don't really think anyone gets married with the intent to get divorced. I don't think that's what was being said here. sometimes, though, that's a decision that has to be made somewhere down the road, and I think the question was "is it worth it or should I stay for (kids, financial reasons, etc, etc). Now if we're talking Hollywood, I'm sure a few of them might have had the divorce settlement in mind when they got married.....
  • View author's info posted on Apr 19, 2005 22:33


    WHO EVER GETS MARRIED WITH THE INTENT OF DIVORCE?
  • View author's info posted on Apr 19, 2005 08:49


    Lady, I understand completely. Been there and done that. During my divorce, there were times where I just sat and cried because I wasn't sure if I was going to get my girls or not. I couldn't imagine not getting custody, especially since they wanted to live with me to begin with. They would sit around me and hug on me and tell me everything was going to be alright. They had faith when I didn't, and they were right, too, everything turned out alright. Why a Dad wouldn't want or fight for his kids I will never understand, but that's just me. I would have given up everything just to get mine. Turns out, I didn't have to.
  • View author's info posted on Apr 19, 2005 08:34


    Kids are wonderful and so worth it. Last week, I was at a low point and really sad, my kids must have sensed it because they stayed in my room and rubbed my back and my put lotion on my feet, all without asking. I sat and cried and they sat and hugged me. Nothing is so satisfying as that..
  • View author's info posted on Apr 19, 2005 07:59


    Thank you, Lady, and the same to you as well. I know how hard it is being a single parent, but I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world either!
  • View author's info posted on Apr 19, 2005 07:54


    I applaud you for what you have done with your girls. I think its great! So many people say they stay in a marraige for the kids. I hope the best for you and good luck.
  • View author's info posted on Apr 19, 2005 07:45


    Well, I can only speak for me, as I think that's all any of us can do is speak about what we went through. Each person has to make that decision based on their circumstances. For me, as hard as it was, the answer was yes. I didn't realize it as I was going through it, but my ex was unfaithful, mentally/verbally/physically abusive to our girls, tried to be the same way with me, too, and just an all around mean spirited person, never happy with anything and always wanting more. We never had enough money for some reason, although I have a decent paying job. I know you probably think I am just saying that, but in the end, I got custody of our 3 daughters, I got the house without having to pay her a dime, she pays me support though I make a lot more than she does, and she got stuck with the $20,000 + in credit card debt that I didn't even know we had. Needless to say, my and the girls are much happier, the bills are paid, I got my bike 9 months after the divorce was final, my girls are all three on the honor roll at school for the entire year for the first time in their lives, and we have done more, been more places, had more fun and are happier in the almost two years since the divorce than the 18 years we were together. So....again, in my case, it was worth it, not just for me, but for my girls too.
  • View author's info posted on Apr 15, 2005 21:04



    LadyB04 write:
    2kspringer....

    Hi Cutie!
    I would say that your divorce is definitly justified. Sorry it happened.
    (I think I was too good to my husband! I did everything, then when I felt I was being taken advantage of, I slacked off alittle on the things I used to do for him- (he would never talk to me, I had to do something so he would notice I was there!) That's when things went from bad to I wanted to just die!)



    Thank you sweetheart, justified or not I still consider it a failuer on my part. I know that I took her for granted sometimes in that I was happy to be married and thought that she was to and I did not have to put forth any effort to keep it happy. Man did I ever learn from this.

    I am a truck driver, since I am gone for 3 to 4 days a week I would stay home to take care of my son so she could go out with the girls to get out for a bit. Was never comfortable with this but figured I am not her dad, it was not my place to tell her what she could or couldn't do but her place not to put herself in these situations. On one of our vacations it was goin to be her first time seeing the ocean so I wanted it to be special. I left on a trip on Sunday afternoon, drove making drops and pick ups non stop until i got home on Wed. morning around 3 am. I done this so I could then drive the 3 hour trip with her and my son to the beach so the first time they ever saw the ocean would be at sunrise. Her reason given for divorceing me was that I never did anything for her. I have never understood this but am sure I am just missing something.
  • View author's info posted on Apr 15, 2005 13:59



    LadyOnABike write:
    When I think about my divorce, I think of being a failure. It took 2 of us to make our Marriage fail. I do know I will never make the same mistakes again. but yes it was worth it to get divorced but not to my kids it wasnt.

    I hear ya, that failure thing always kinda went up my backside sideways!! All we can do is try to not repeat the mistakes we made in our failed relationships.
  • View author's info posted on Apr 15, 2005 13:57


    SJ
    Yea Bikeman your'e a cutie alright, ifn I was a gal I'd be all over you like teeth on a bulldog. lol.

    OK but remember Jerry!! I'm the pitcher, your the catcher!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • View author's info posted on Apr 15, 2005 13:55



    LadyB04 write:
    Thanks Bikeman... for the kind words. It's nice to know that someone out there cares.

    I have only 1 question for you....... WHY ARE YOU SINGLE? The words you speak..... If you can make a person feel special on the internet, & from your pic. your handsome....What's up?

    **Thanks once again Bikeman

    Thanx for the compliments

    I'm 2 and 0 in marraiges. My 2nd marraige's divorce was final Jan of 2005. We seperated in Oct 2003. I dated off and on last summer, then stupidly enough I saw my 2nd ex from August to December. THAT was an extaordinarily BAD idea, but I guess you could say love is deaf dumb and blind sometimes!! As they say chit happens.

    I try to learn from past mistakes or at least not repeat them!! I've been talking and goofing with allot of the BK ladies and even tho it , thus far has been strictly on the internet and a few on the p h o n e it has done a great deal for my overall frame of mind. My longterm goal is still to find 1 woman that I can spend the rest of my life giving and receiving unconditional love emotionally, spiritually and physically..

    DAM I talk too much, what was the question???

    I'll check this thread when I get home, I'm in my office and I'm leavin now.
    YAY friday rush hour leaving Logan Airport... The only place you can spend 2 hours on a 50 mile commute!!
  • View author's info posted on Apr 15, 2005 11:42



    LadyB04 write:
    Thanks Bikeman... for the kind words. It's nice to know that someone out there cares.

    I have only 1 question for you....... WHY ARE YOU SINGLE? The words you speak..... If you can make a person feel special on the internet, & from your pic. your handsome....What's up?

    **Thanks once again Bikeman



    Yea Bikeman your'e a cutie alright, ifn I was a gal I'd be all over you like teeth on a bulldog. lol.
Follow - Email me when people comment