After 19 years it was time for the divorce,now time has past and my ex and I get along great now.I think people need to talk about their divorce,it helps in the healing process.Was the divorce worth it,Hell yes! My kids are happier now(atleast they say they are),I'm happier,don't know if my ex can be happy but I hope she is.After trying everything we could I realized there was nothing else to do but get the divorce.It's been 5 years,and I may not be the happiest man on earth,but I am happy!
I would much prefer to see you on the sixth go around !!! Is alimony included in this....? lol
I can see many of you guys now....thinking, that the "other option" might be good for me :)
DITTO what he said............LOL......nothing like riding peaceful and alone then in a truck, or house fighting. I love my new ride......Az is a lovely place to ride alone......I find friends are like jeans they wear out........need some patches ;) yell at me where its smiling
softail1999 write: Ladyhawk wrote: have NEVER regretted my divorce even though I came out on the short end of the money issue. Just wasn't worth fighting over. Getting out was worth it all. I feel better, look younger, and enjoy life more than ever. I would still like to have someone "special" to share my life with but I can do without marriage again.
I feel was worth it all Ladyhawk. I would still like to be married again though. I guess old fashioned that way. With the commitment and vows and all. Relationships take understanding, acceptance and forgiveness, which my ex lacked. It should be a part of all of us.. But nowadays seems many people lacking in one of these or all for that matter. Just my thoughts and feelings on this.. Take Care...
Softail,
Nothing wrong with being old fashioned. We all have our personal preferences about things. I'm not saying I wouldn't consider marriage sometime in the future if the right person comes along and asks. Its just that I have no desire to pursue it any time in the near future. It is hard enough finding someone to get along with as friends.
softail1999 write: Ladyhawk wrote: have NEVER regretted my divorce even though I came out on the short end of the money issue. Just wasn't worth fighting over. Getting out was worth it all. I feel better, look younger, and enjoy life more than ever. I would still like to have someone "special" to share my life with but I can do without marriage again.
I feel was worth it all Ladyhawk. I would still like to be married again though. I guess old fashioned that way. With the commitment and vows and all. Relationships take understanding, acceptance and forgiveness, which my ex lacked. It should be a part of all of us.. But nowadays seems many people lacking in one of these or all for that matter. Just my thoughts and feelings on this.. Take Care...
I am not so sure its as many as you think lacking in on or all of these...I just think its so easy to get give up these days...I think we have givin up talking to each other...All I know is I will not live the next 40 years of my life fighting or stressing...I am not perfect and i am not beautiful...but i am a good woman and when i find the rigt person...I will make him and he will make me happy...But divorce is easy these days...I love my ex with all my heart...but i broke his heart when i left him...but if i had tried harder maybe i could have made it work...who knows...
Ladyhawk wrote: have NEVER regretted my divorce even though I came out on the short end of the money issue. Just wasn't worth fighting over. Getting out was worth it all. I feel better, look younger, and enjoy life more than ever. I would still like to have someone "special" to share my life with but I can do without marriage again.
I feel was worth it all Ladyhawk. I would still like to be married again though. I guess old fashioned that way. With the commitment and vows and all. Relationships take understanding, acceptance and forgiveness, which my ex lacked. It should be a part of all of us.. But nowadays seems many people lacking in one of these or all for that matter. Just my thoughts and feelings on this.. Take Care...
galews write: It was very costly, but yes, in the end it was worth it. I like who I am now, and I am no longer a paycheck to someone who really didnt care.
Costly!! Totally agree with you but well worth it.. Hell liveing in WI I got stuck with half her credit card bills-Didnt help that she used them to help set herself up in a new place either.. But well worth it.. No longer have to stock up on "Zantec" or "Pepto" hehe... Im in Much better health without her. And, ROMANCE NOVELS begone....lmfao...
I have NEVER regretted my divorce even though I came out on the short end of the money issue. Just wasn't worth fighting over. Getting out was worth it all. I feel better, look younger, and enjoy life more than ever. I would still like to have someone "special" to share my life with but I can do without marriage again.
galews write: It was very costly, but yes, in the end it was worth it. I like who I am now, and I am no longer a paycheck to someone who really didnt care.
Costly!! Totally agree with you but well worth it.. Hell liveing in WI I got stuck with half her credit card bills-Didnt help that she used them to help set herself up in a new place either.. But well worth it.. No longer have to stock up on "Zantec" or "Pepto" hehe... Im in Much better health without her. And, ROMANCE NOVELS begone....lmfao...
I agree, yes it is worth it. Specially if you were/are in a marriage like I was. He was not only abusive physically, but also mentally and verbally and not just to me but also to our son. Sorry but you don't throw a 2 yr. old against a wall because you got kicked in the face while playing with them.. That was it for me.. So yes, divorce is worth it..
yes its worth it trust me i know im just going through one right now after 27 years. I have a new life and new adventures out there waiting for me. You'll find them too. Enjoy
hot4hogs write: You know you did the right thing when you get to the point that the bad memories waaaaaaaayyyyy overshadow the good memories. Now, where's that woodchipper?
Ha my ex tried the woodchipper thang!! I don't fit!!
Sometimes it's good to be big, unless I try to get in a toyota, then it's fun for everyone but me!!!
OK I'm more punchy then usual today, no sleep, lots of coffee!!!
Oh they're not gonna like me at work!!!
Hot4hogs: The woodchipper is on it's way to blondeharleygirl as we speak!
Bikeman: No worries! We could make you fit into the chipper by dismembering your frozen corpse according to one of Eye's previous posts! lmfao!
Thanx Legs! But I've decided it'll be lots more fun to watch him self-destruct!