here's the story: i go to a local bar a few months back. i get there before my buddy "Smooth". yea, that's what everyone calls him because he is. so while waiting i'm sitting next to a girl and we start talking and having a few laughs. mostly at my buddy's nickname. Smooth shows and a few other friends so we go to a table and we all end up having a great time. well it's time to leave and it's the girly, Smooth and myself. we both offer her a ride as we are standing outside. so here's the comparison, Smooth is good looking, 5'11 and was driving his lexus. i am ok looking i think, 5'7 and was sporting my way cool '91 bonneville that is seriously showing it's age. so she opts for the ride with Smooth and they end up hitting the sheets that night. over the months i have seen her several times out with Smooth and we all laughed a lot and had a great time together. the only real complaint she had with Smooth was that it "seemed like he was always looking for the next girl". he was, that's Smooth! well last weekend we all got together and she told me that she saw me at the store but wondered whose car i was driving. i said probably mine. so then all my drunk, blabbermouth friends go on and on about my toys and what i do for a living, Smooth blurts out that he is my broker, and that i drive the bonneville to bars so my other car doesn't get messed up. she just looks at me like no way. about an hour ago i get a call from girly and she is ditching Smooth because the relationship isn't going anywhere. well no f'n chit! the dude's name is "Smooth". what the he!! was she expecting?? oh and she wants to know if maybe we can get together sometime. i politely declined and told her that i'd probably see her around. i guess this wouldn't burn me so bad if it hadn't happened before. but all of a sudden i became "good enough" when my friends started blabbering? i must also state that they were hugely exaggerating! man this burns me.

The fact that she left with Smooth and slept with him the first night should tell you everything you need to know about her. There's nothing wrong with it. But is this the girl you really want a relationship with. She's a player just like Smooth.

I'll bet several years from now she'll still be doing the same thing. Only being a little older and not as pretty she'll be leaving with the guy in the Bonneville.

i recently got asked by another member if i had eventually hooked up with girly, the answer was no. girly and Smooth hooked back up for about a week or so. she found out Smooth was also hitting the sheets with her roommate so that ended them. saw girly this weekend with one of the local big wig lawyers gettin' all cozy. he happens to be married. it will be a never ending cycle for these people.

Unfortunately many people will always be judgemental. It could be based on what someone drives, or rides; do they have tats, is their head shaved, etc...
One thing I've found out in my short 39 years on this earth, is that those who are true, will be the ones standing by your side regardless how much money you have, what you drive, what you wear, what you look like....

I've faced many of the same issues with different situations. But many people will always judge the book by its cover. I always feel its their loss not mine.

My hats off you you Still, you actually took the high road. Many guys would have took her up on her offer, did a few rolls in the sheets, and dumped her like a bad habit out of spite. It just another example showing her loss, not yours.

Stillme67 writes: about an hour ago i get a call from girly and she is ditching Smooth because the relationship isn't going anywhere. well no f'n chit! the dude's name is "Smooth". what the he!! was she expecting?? oh and she wants to know if maybe we can get together sometime. i politely declined and told her that i'd probably see her around.

If she can ditch Smooth and call you with in an hour..after hearing all that..she sounds like she belongs with Smooth... She's probably just like him and you did the right thing when you politely declined. No matter how much money you have or don't have or what kind of car you drive, you are YOU and that shouldn't change for anyone. When the right person comes along...she will accept you for what you are and not what you spend or drive. Don't accept anything less, Stillme!

i don't think he actually lied to her but yea, Smooth always says the right things. and yes, he's always looking for the next "better chic". but like i said before, he's not a bad guy, just immature. i'm hoping finds a woman that will set him straight and change his ways.

Still me said:
"went out last night with Smooth and a few others. told them about what i had posted on this site. after a lot of ribbing about how i should just get a "ma il order asian bride", Smooth said that he was just filtering them out for his bro's.
Oh and watch out, Smooth may be logging on. "
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Well, thanks for the heads-up!

My 2 cents:
Maybe there was an actual attraction to Smooth at first and it took a little while for her to see he was just a player. He probably lied to her, right? Sounds like he lies to them, uses them and thn moves on to the next one. And, "filtering them out for his bros?" That is really sikk!
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Nothing wrong with anyone looking for many attributes in one person:
Having a good job, dressing nicely, and having a good car isn't a bad thing.
And part of the problem: Smooth may have engaged her in much conversation, made her laugh, made her feel special. May have told her they had many things in common, he couldn't believe he had met someone he clicked with so well, would she be willing to go out with him again?
I agree shallow suXXX.
Nothing wrong with a 'deep' one with a nice career, etc. though....
DD

Nope, Stillme, you're not losing it!

ah, thanks! i thought maybe i was losing it or something.

what happens is if someone isn't a paying member it takes 24 hrs give or take for their posts to post--so if they posted im between soemone that is where it will show up---messed up system buttttttttttt that is how they did it--wasn't always that way--we had some who aren't members anymore cause it

Softail - yep, you're right

Norty - a little bitter there aren't ya dude? i'm not out anything so i'm not holding any grudges.

forum posts??? what is up with the posts? i check it and there is a post. come back and there are new posts in between what i have already read. am i missing something?

went out last night with Smooth and a few others. told them about what i had posted on this site. after a lot of ribbing about how i should just get a "ma il order asian bride", Smooth said that he was just filtering them out for his bro's.
Oh and watch out, Smooth may be logging on.

Softail, you are right on! Still, what this chicky said that she was looking for and what she was really looking for was not the same thing.
She latched on to old Smooth because she thought he had it all, looks, money, class. It didn't matter if Smooth was just smooth because she never took the time to find out what he was really made of... nor did she take time to really know you. If she had you would have won hands down. What everyone here is saying is right. Do not feel bad because you were second runner up. Wait for the woman who knows that you are number one and is proud of you for who you are. She will be well worth the wait, my friend and with a little patience you will find her. I wish you luck in your search.

Hmmmm? Your looking at it wrong maybe..

The way you see it is being the second option to women interested in "Smooth" first...
Are you sure you would want to be the First to these same women????
They may be fun if thats all your looking for? Till they find a second option to you!!.

Id rather be first to a women interested in me... Who arent looking for a second option...

Different way to look at it...

LMAO!!

aww, thank you..

girly and Smooth are not bad people. Smooth has to present a certain air of success because he is a broker. no one wants to invest with someone who doesn't look successful. i guess the part that bothers me is that girly said that she was looking for someone loyal, funny, and no games (probably 70% of what all women have listed on their profiles here). there were three other guys at the table who would have been exactly that. but still she went with a dude whose nick name is "Smooth". so what the heck was she expecting?? and this happens a lot. maybe i'm just jealous but i'm tired of being the second option.

well hell guys and girls.
i am not the best looking roster in the shack but i am the same as the rest.
i have a few mates that i have had the unfortunate luck of setting up women with them.
and it really hurts as when we are out they all say they are going to find me the women and i inturn just sit back and have a chat with them " the girls".
at the end of the night the boys seem to always pick up the chick they were supposed to be setting up for me.

so far i am the best man at a future wedding. " and she is already pregs"
and the others have had more "dates" than a turnstyle at a country fair.

not that i wanna complain but it seems that our mate always change and get in the way when something might happen for you.
thats why i am here as none of them ride and have no interest in doing so.

There will always be people looking for a free ride. The stories I hear these days never fail to amaze me. She is a blatant money grubber for sure! It is kind of sad that someone would want to be with a man for money instead of love. Love warms your heart, money is just paper with the illusion of worth. You are better off.

Hey Still, Firstoff, your name for this thread caught my eye & I was thinking...what's this about? lol Then as I begin reading & the story starts to unfold, I had a feeling where it was going. Good for you for turning her down. I have a problem with people who are materialistic because what people have is not what people are really made of. I look for what is inside the person's heart & soul & their character. She most definitely did not have any class either. Hugs to you, Still. From what I've read from your postings, you do have character & class. Have a great day, my friend!

Still...I'm so glad you turned her down.....you don't need someone in your life that only wants a guy for what he has....and you my friend have something money can't by and that's Class!