I received this email today - very powerful words & wanted to share with all of you.
People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay. Let them go. And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part in the story is over.
And you've got to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead. You've got to know when it's dead.
You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell you something. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat, I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay. Let them go!!!
If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to...LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to past hurts and pains...LET IT GO!!!
If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see you're worth...LET IT GO!!!
If someone has angered you ... LET IT GO!!!
If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge...LET IT GO!!!
If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction ... LET IT GO!!!
If you have a bad attitude...LET IT GO!!!
If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better...LET IT GO!!!
If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in Him...LET IT GO!!!
If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship....LET IT GO!
If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help themselves...LET IT GO!!!
If you're feeling depressed and stressed....LET IT GO!!!
If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself and God is saying "take your hands off of it," then you need to... LET IT GO!!!
Let the past be the past. Forget the former things. GOD is doing a new thing for 2005!!! LET IT GO!!! Get Right or Get Left... think about it, and then LET IT GO!!! "The Battle is the Lord's!"
HarleyGurl35 write: Whoa...can't read that too many times. Thank you so much for sharing.
I have a hard time sometimes letting go of things. I tend to waste time trying to figure out why, how, and all that other stuff.
I heard something today that I decided I was going to hold onto. It was:
"I may not be where I want to be, but I sure as hell ain't where I was!"
Sometimes I think we all focus on where we've been too much, instead of where we're going, and the the tremendous people we've met along the way.
You, Smile, I would consider one of those people...along with SO many others here. You each are so unique and brighten me in your own special way.
You guys are really great. Probably more than you know.
Thank you HarleyGurl...& thank you for sharing your words of wisdom also. I am so thankful for everyone here on BK. Each & everyone of us are unique & special in our own way & bring so much here to share. Hugs girlfriend...
jerryw13 write: Well said Happykitty, and Crystal said it herself. She loved the man she WANTED him to be. That just doesn't work. I have a philosophy, 'You can't argue favorite colors!' Simply means each of us chooses our own way, and if someone chooses something we don't like, it's fruitless to expend energy on trying to change that choice.
I agree with you Well Said is Right! Don't go into a relationship thinking you will change them. Especially if we're older we are who we are and set mostly in our ways and the person who is with you can add on to their life for the better or for not-therefore a breakup. Jade
You're welcome Happykitty...these are great words...I'm really glad a friend of mine sent this email to me today - & I'm sure they didn't even realize at the time how powerful the words would hit me today. I've been struggling since July with putting closure in a friendship...maybe I need to just imagine that the person has died...sounds harsh but it would be a way of putting closure I guess? You're so right with your words "Sometimes we have to find the best closure on our own. The person won't or can't give it to us." And yep, we are the lucky ones, Happykitty, who are capable of maturity & growth. By the way, I truly enjoy your posts here in the forum. Hugs to you also, sister
Thanks Smile, glad you enjoy what I write. Hey, before we get to closure and letting go, grieving has its own time too, can't be rushed. You'll know when it's time. And I find grief is like debris at the bottom of a pond. Every so often, something will stir bits of it up for us again. A few more tears and then we move on a little more again.
Wildcat2005 write: WOW Smile...I don't know how to thank you for this..I've thought my life was over and then I read that and now I know I can go on and I will. It wasn't meant to be...Thank YOU....
Wildcat? No need to thank me...well...ok...you can...(smile...)I believe everything happens for a reason & when I got that email sent to me that day, it just hit me. That's when I thought, you know what? I'm going to share it with the family here on BK because you never know who it may touch that day who really needs to read those words as much as I did. Take care, sister, & Hugs...
HD78Shovelhead write: was rambling throuh post and saw yours was good reading, time to stand up, dust off and grin at one of lifes little kicks cause just round the corner there may be a hug wishing you all well and a big hello from a newbie
Thank you for your words of wisdom & the hug, HD78...It was nice chatting with you last night. Thanks for popping in to say "hi". Welcome again to BK!
notythots write: Never read this before, but glad I decided to read some of these forums today, TY for these words, and I,m sure I,ll be reading lots more.. They definetly made me think a bit and realize it,s not me and let it go.
crystal1 write: Haven't been on here in awhile. Never really shared much but I think it's time, high time, I do things differently. I've recently returned to CA from TN. Hey any friends out here close to me? Would love get out & about and just laugh for about 8 hours LOL I'm trying to walk forward and not stay in a place that has caused me such sadness and depression. I can't change him; can't make him love me; can't change the reality of "He's not by my side" Never will be again. I needed to read this; to say the words. He let it go in a heartbeat as he moved on. To easy...wasn't there to begin with. That's what hurts so damn bad. I love the man that I wanted him to be and he simply wasn't lol couldn't be. I don't want your hearts to break but I needed to hear that they do and it's not about me but everyone runs right into hurt. We all get blind sided atleast once. Perhaps we need the hurt to APPRECIATE the surprise that God has for each of us around the next corner. All y'all have a great afternoon & please write and let's chat.
I agree with you Well Said is Right!
Don't go into a relationship thinking you will change them. Especially if we're older we are who we are and set mostly in our ways and the person who is with you can add on to their life for the better or for not-therefore a breakup.
Well said Happykitty, and Crystal said it herself. She loved the man she WANTED him to be. That just doesn't work. I have a philosophy, 'You can't argue favorite colors!' Simply means each of us chooses our own way, and if someone chooses something we don't like, it's fruitless to expend energy on trying to change that choice.
Hey Crystal, I had a broken heart this year too, probably not as deep or as in many pieces as yours. But I do understand about being blindsided, about letting your walls down and opening your heart and then being hit so unexpectedly. Yep, blindsided. I do know what it's like to feel the shock of being told "I love you" one moment practically and then all of a sudden it's as if they just stopped. And you're right, perhaps it wasn't there in the first place. Or maybe some men can just shut down??? I don't know. I've stopped making myself crazy over wondering how and why.
I've moved on and have peace and contentment again. I laugh a lot again. I'm a bit more cautious now, but I still have a heart that can love. I wish the same for you.
I've said it before somewhere and say it again. We love because of who we are and because we have the ability. Their ability to love us in return, or lack thereof, is because of who they are and not a reflection of us. Peace and love and lots of hugs.
Never read this before, but glad I decided to read some of these forums today, TY for these words, and I,m sure I,ll be reading lots more.. They definetly made me think a bit and realize it,s not me and let it go.