BHG--you are right about the person going thru the divorce to initiate a relationship with another--we need to grief the death of a marriage
but what about the person who thinks they are the rescurer--they inject themselves into someones life thinking they are helping the other--instead they add to the pain and feelings of abandonment when they leave--and those feelings are intensified because the orginal hurts weren't dealt with
so by all means do your grieving--and heal your souls before moving on--otherwise it will take you longer to heal and get on with living
BHG, after reading your posts, profile and looking at your pics. I bet most men would jump at the chance to get eaten up and spat out by you. I have a feeling that after they heal they would carrie that scar with pride....