dreamer8 write:
You look like you belong together and are very happy with each other.I'm so pleased for you both.

DirtyBikers4Eva write:

Awww!!! Thank you soo much!! He is the love of my life!! We fought real hard to get here!! We fell in love at first sight 3 years ago!! Ever since have been struggling to find a way to be where we are today. He is a WONDERFUL MAN.

And Seeme, You are a wonderful person!!

seeme1st write:


and that i am happy for you
because in the pics you do look good together

DirtyBikers4Eva write:


Yes exactly!! Believe me I AM PAMPERED...LOL But I respect him soo much that I return it and I do not think (I know) he would not continue it if I did not return the same RESPECT!

DirtyBikers4Eva write:
Im not sure what we are arguing about.. I actually think we agree. Maybe Im having a hard time explaining what I mean clearly. My point is I see men who just lay down to a woman and then blame her because she does not respect him. I do not think anyone should lay down that way because its not being true to oneself.. thats all im trying top say.

seeme1st write:


indecisiveness isn't a good thing--so i think i get it--the wishy washy person--not a good thing

but someone who wants to pamper me--ouhhhhhhh so nice

we all have the red flags--i just can't be with a man that believes he is better than i or that i am weak and need him-- i don't need him i want him

DirtyBikers4Eva write:
i am who i am--and i deserve and demand respect from those i'm with and i return it--even if it means that i hurt you by being truthful--because my being truthful is respecting you enough to risk losing you!!! and putting me aside for your happiness


Seeme... if a man has this attitude that u wrote above THEN i am attracted to him. But if he is a YES man right off the bat my red flags go up!!

seeme1st write:


so that is saying you don't believe that someone can "FALL IN LOVE AT 1ST SIGHT"

it happens--you shouldn't have to prove who you are--i accept it is someone tells me they have fallen for me--my ex and i were together for 25 years--he was engaged the 1st time we met (i didn't know it) he broke off the engagement and it took him 6 mths to ask me out after that--when he told me my reponse was that i cared about him but i couldn't tell him i loved him at that time because i didn't feel that for him at that time--the love did grow

falling in love at 1st sight isn't a sign of weakness--wanting to please the person you are with isn't either

and yes i don't want to be my lovers mother figure
there is a difference and if partners important matters should be discussed--i don't want a male that tells me what i should or shouldn't be doing--give me an order and i will do the opposite to spite you!!!!!

yes i want a strong male that i can lean on when i need it but i also want a man that can show me his weaknesses--because that shows complete trust in us as a couple and true intimacy

DirtyBikers4Eva write:


Okay... I have a question for the ladies...

If you meet a man that is so nice right off the bat, falls in love immediately, will do anything for you, buys u everything, never disagrees, wants to marry you right away, always saqys yes to everything you say and want... do you fall in love back??

I ask this because... Guys like that make me runaway... I do not trust it and I see it is as a flaw in his character. I think that if he doesnt make me show something of myself b4 he hands over all the goods then he must be desperate or weak. I want a challenge and a man who thinks enough of himself to demand something back from me. Somehow I see it as him hiding his true opinions and desires. No-one is honestly like that all the time unless they are denying thierselves in order to impress another. Luv your name says u luv the bad boys? What exactly does that mean??

I have to be with a man stronger than me mentaly and emotionally or I (without intending to) will take advantage or just cut out all together. I want someone who I can lean on and who can protect me in this world. Not someone who needs me to direct every step he makes and wants my approval on all his decisions.

Just my take on things!!

luvthebadboys write:

Treating a woman(or anyone) with kindness and respect is NOT a sign of weakness..on the contrary. My point was, some people don't know the difference. I'm one of those loons that was raised to respect all, unless they give you a reason not to! Well then... the gloves are off!LOL!

DirtyBikers4Eva write:


I agree with you completely... my point is though, too many people just hand out all the respect and kindness without making the person prove themselves.. I think that is a mistake. You set yerself up to be disappointed and you teach others that they do not have to respect u back. Respect ois not a GIVEN in my book it is something that is EARNED. I am always polite (unless there is reason not to be) but my RESPECT is something that others have proven themselves worthy of. I would do just about anything for someone I respect so It is not something I hand out without much thought and admiration.

luvthebadboys write:

Treating a woman(or anyone) with kindness and respect is NOT a sign of weakness..on the contrary. My point was, some people don't know the difference. I'm one of those loons that was raised to respect all, unless they give you a reason not to! Well then... the gloves are off!LOL!

ponch69 write:
if treating a woman wit h respect is a sign of weakness then call me weak but god forbid you call me out because you'll find no weakness in this brother. I believe a woman should be treated with respect and admiration but only if she deserves it. It is a 2 way street but I would never disrespect a woman I loved my mom to much to do that.

ponch69 write:
if treating a woman wit h respect is a sign of weakness then call me weak but god forbid you call me out because you'll find no weakness in this brother. I believe a woman should be treated with respect and admiration but only if she deserves it. It is a 2 way street but I would never disrespect a woman I loved my mom to much to do that.

2kspringerhd write:
I to believe in this way of thinking to the point that these things of which she speaks is not something I strive to do It is just habit and me. The problem with this though is everytime I have been this way with a lady it is seen as being to nice, caring to much, and yes I have even been told That no one can be this way so they leave expecting something differant.

The frustrating part is watching friends treat thier girls like crap and she never leaves. There inlies the area between a rock and a hard place to which I am most likely found. It's hard when you can be no other way even if you tryed. Ok, thats enuff of the real me I will go back to being an a-hole now.


2K
i believe that there are those ppl that when treated right feel because of their personal history that they don't deserve it--they find ways to sabatoge it either by lying, cheating or finding a person that will treat them the way they subconsiously think they deserve

the thing is we need to find those that have worked on themselves and KNOW they deserve to be treated good and won't accept anything less

fault isn't with you--so keep it up and the one who will be filled with gratitude will come around and mutual gratitude can be soooooooo rewarding!!!!