Hang in there Darlin, been to hell and back a couple times myself. I think the hardest part for most people, and certainly myself, is learning not to try to control things that ya can't control anyway!! Just look at life as one big ride to wherever and ya deal with the road as it comes up.
This will sound silly but start everyday reminding yourself that you are a good person and that you love yourself as much as your friends.
LadyB04 write: No matter what, divorce isn't easy! & It's even harder when u loose the love of your life!
With all that's happened to me, I'm tring to get back some of my selfworth & selfesteem. I still have a hard time looking at myself in the mirror without disgust!
I don't think the words-"broken hearted" come close to how I feel inside at times.
I do know what you're talkin about and hope you learn to love yourself and put the past where it belongs, in the past. Look forward to new relationships and learn from past mistakes. Don't ignore the red flags that I'm willing to bet ya you have seen before and ignored them. Keep smilin and ridin
When I think about my divorce, I think of being a failure. It took 2 of us to make our Marriage fail. I do know I will never make the same mistakes again. but yes it was worth it to get divorced but not to my kids it wasnt.
My divorce was five years ago. In 03 she said it was the worst thing she ever did. I said I was sorry she felt that way. I got off the tele and hit the starter on the Fatboy and rode off to bike night.
when you drive by the local 15 room notell motel and your 5 year old son says "hey daddy, I been there before", You ask hime why and he says" thats where mommy took me to meet this guy she knows". Yea, I would say its worth it.
I often wonder if the divorce rate was as high as it is now back in the 50's, what would be the common living arrangements?
The two things I have learned about marriage is: somebody is going to turn in to a jerk after the vows and temporary mental insanity and shooting your spouse is a lot cheaper than the cost of a divorce.
if you are the one who wanted the divorce, it is like watching someone you love die an agonizing slow death
if you are the one who was informed by you partner that they wanted the divorce, it is like getting the news that someone you loved died suddenly
so is it worth it--for me yes it was--but it was still a grieving process that took time to heal
friends, family and a great therapist came in handy--to help deal with all the mixed feelings of disolving 24(23 married) years of being together
even knowing it needs to be--i sometimes 2nd guess myself
at this point i'm happy and satisfied with where i am and where i'm heading