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Posted on Fri, Apr 15, 2005 07:18

LadyB04

Hang in there Darlin, been to hell and back a couple times myself. I think the hardest part for most people, and certainly myself, is learning not to try to control things that ya can't control anyway!! Just look at life as one big ride to wherever and ya deal with the road as it comes up.

This will sound silly but start everyday reminding yourself that you are a good person and that you love yourself as much as your friends.

Keep ridin

  


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Posted on Thu, Apr 14, 2005 10:09

Best thing ever invented and so much easier then having to hide the body



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Posted on Thu, Apr 14, 2005 08:34

bikeman--how right you are--how we accept or give love if we don't love ourselves????

we can never forget the past--but we can put it in it's proper place--behind us

  


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Posted on Thu, Apr 14, 2005 06:18

Let me see now, hhuuummmmmmm.
1st marraige, widowed.
2nd marraige, divorced.
3rd marraige, widowed.
4th marraige, divorced.

Am I seeing a troubling pattern here with my history? Should I try for #5? any volunteers?. lol.

  


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Posted on Thu, Apr 14, 2005 00:51


LadyB04 write:
No matter what, divorce isn't easy! & It's even harder when u loose the love of your life!

With all that's happened to me, I'm tring to get back some of my selfworth & selfesteem. I still have a hard time looking at myself in the mirror without disgust!

I don't think the words-"broken hearted" come close to how I feel inside at times.

I do know what you're talkin about and hope you learn to love yourself and put the past where it belongs, in the past. Look forward to new relationships and learn from past mistakes. Don't ignore the red flags that I'm willing to bet ya you have seen before and ignored them. Keep smilin and ridin

  


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Posted on Wed, Apr 13, 2005 12:32

When I think about my divorce, I think of being a failure. It took 2 of us to make our Marriage fail. I do know I will never make the same mistakes again. but yes it was worth it to get divorced but not to my kids it wasnt.



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Posted on Mon, Apr 11, 2005 18:28

My divorce was five years ago. In 03 she said it was the worst thing she ever did. I said I was sorry she felt that way. I got off the tele and hit the starter on the Fatboy and rode off to bike night.

Hi Haasy how's things up north.



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Posted on Sat, Apr 09, 2005 19:26

when you drive by the local 15 room notell motel and your 5 year old son says "hey daddy, I been there before", You ask hime why and he says" thats where mommy took me to meet this guy she knows". Yea, I would say its worth it.



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Posted on Fri, Apr 08, 2005 23:07

Haasy ... unique. Love it. don't ever change, not that it appears you're likely to. B)



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Posted on Fri, Apr 08, 2005 07:33

Well, I am not much for divorce, but I just had to get one last time around. Me and her secret lover had scheduling conflicts



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Posted on Fri, Apr 08, 2005 07:13

haasy good one..

i think perhaps the question should be is marriage worth it? since they a lot seem to end in divorce



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Posted on Wed, Apr 06, 2005 03:52

I often wonder if the divorce rate was as high as it is now back in the 50's, what would be the common living arrangements?

The two things I have learned about marriage is: somebody is going to turn in to a jerk after the vows and temporary mental insanity and shooting your spouse is a lot cheaper than the cost of a divorce.

  


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Posted on Tue, Apr 05, 2005 18:58

never knew life was so fun.no more DRAMA.

  


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Posted on Tue, Apr 05, 2005 17:31

Hell YES, the best thing my ex ever did for me



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Posted on Tue, Apr 05, 2005 15:18

divorce is the death of a marriage/relationship

if you are the one who wanted the divorce, it is like watching someone you love die an agonizing slow death

if you are the one who was informed by you partner that they wanted the divorce, it is like getting the news that someone you loved died suddenly

so is it worth it--for me yes it was--but it was still a grieving process that took time to heal

friends, family and a great therapist came in handy--to help deal with all the mixed feelings of disolving 24(23 married) years of being together
even knowing it needs to be--i sometimes 2nd guess myself

at this point i'm happy and satisfied with where i am and where i'm heading

i wish all the same senerity for all

  


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