I am just curios, and if you ladies want to comment (I am sure I will get a few) all is fair in Love and war. So the Man that you are either looking for, or the man you already have, is he the man you have dreamed of all your life, or do you just want to find a good man and mold him into what you want?
Suzananana write: My real question is - why do they always wanna try to change ME???? Very confusing.....
Guys? Whaddaya think? lol....
I'm in agreement with most all of the other posts here. If you're out to change your partner into something else, you can pretty well lay money that neither of you will be happy with the results. What's true with the Ladies is also true with the guys. Unfortunately some of my fellow gender are equally guilty of trying to mold their mates into an image that exists only within the fantasies of their minds, and not within the realm of reality.
Personally I prefer to approach it like this; determine the faults your willing to live with (which their will always be a few). I'm not saying go down a list and critique every little pro and con. We all have personality characteristics that we just can't tolerate in others, and you don't have to spend too much time thinking about it to come up with a few. If these are things that are "always" going to annoy you about the other person, and you simply can't come to grips with it, maybe you'd better stop there. Also, don't be so naive as to think that this process isn't taking place on the opposite side of the table as well. Once past that, its time to celebrate the differences, and if it was meant to be you'll eventually meet on common ground and built your own perfection as a couple based upon the added strengths of your individualisms. The key is patience, and a willingness to compromise. Rome wasn't built in a day, and neither are lasting relationships. The idea of personal exploration sounds like more fun to me anyway....
Just my humble opinion, nothing more nothing less.
No way am I out to change a man - I can't even make up my own mind in a reasonable amount of time - much less someone else's - way too much work for this simple girl.
Suzananana write: My real question is - why do they always wanna try to change ME???? Very confusing.....
Guys? Whaddaya think? lol....
I'm in agreement with most all of the other posts here. If you're out to change your partner into something else, you can pretty well lay money that neither of you will be happy with the results. What's true with the Ladies is also true with the guys. Unfortunately some of my fellow gender are equally guilty of trying to mold their mates into an image that exists only within the fantasies of their minds, and not within the realm of reality.
Personally I prefer to approach it like this; determine the faults your willing to live with (which their will always be a few). I'm not saying go down a list and critique every little pro and con. We all have personality characteristics that we just can't tolerate in others, and you don't have to spend too much time thinking about it to come up with a few. If these are things that are "always" going to annoy you about the other person, and you simply can't come to grips with it, maybe you'd better stop there. Also, don't be so naive as to think that this process isn't taking place on the opposite side of the table as well. Once past that, its time to celebrate the differences, and if it was meant to be you'll eventually meet on common ground and built your own perfection as a couple based upon the added strengths of your individualisms. The key is patience, and a willingness to compromise. Rome wasn't built in a day, and neither are lasting relationships. The idea of personal exploration sounds like more fun to me anyway....
Just my humble opinion, nothing more nothing less.
Suzananana write: My real question is - why do they always wanna try to change ME???? Very confusing.....
Guys? Whaddaya think? lol....
I'm in agreement with most all of the other posts here. If you're out to change your partner into something else, you can pretty well lay money that neither of you will be happy with the results. What's true with the Ladies is also true with the guys. Unfortunately some of my fellow gender are equally guilty of trying to mold their mates into an image that exists only within the fantasies of their minds, and not within the realm of reality.
Personally I prefer to approach it like this; determine the faults your willing to live with (which their will always be a few). I'm not saying go down a list and critique every little pro and con. We all have personality characteristics that we just can't tolerate in others, and you don't have to spend too much time thinking about it to come up with a few. If these are things that are "always" going to annoy you about the other person, and you simply can't come to grips with it, maybe you'd better stop there. Also, don't be so naive as to think that this process isn't taking place on the opposite side of the table as well. Once past that, its time to celebrate the differences, and if it was meant to be you'll eventually meet on common ground and built your own perfection as a couple based upon the added strengths of your individualisms. The key is patience, and a willingness to compromise. Rome wasn't built in a day, and neither are lasting relationships. The idea of personal exploration sounds like more fun to me anyway....
Just my humble opinion, nothing more nothing less.
I would like to find a good man,when i do find this good man there will be no need to change him. Accept him for who he is or not at all. dreams do come true just like a good man.. all in good time.. good things come to those who wait.. Oh if you have to mold or change them, they werent the good one afterall
No, Nuttin I would want to change about him. Besides, I fell in Love with who he is. Why mess with the good stuff?
He is not a Blob of clay!!!!! And I am NOT a Sculpter. He is perfecto mundo in my blue eyes!!!!!
I'm not their momma lol. Not my job to remold or reprogram them to suit my needs. Either they have it together or they don't, either we are compatiable or we're not. If not then its not worth the effort to continue. But at my age, I honestly don't want to be with someone that I have to train or modify thier behavior. I wouldn't do that anyway.
Best to accept someone for who they are. . . explore the good and the bad as both sides make up the whole of their being and is what makes them unique in the universe. If you find you cannot accept someone unconditionally that way, time to roll on because. . . like they say. . . "There is someone for everyone."
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