Here's my own point of view, based on a truism I overheard the other day....
Men (here and elsewhere) aren't really afraid of commitment, nor of a relationship.
What they are afraid of is getting into a bad relationship or commitment situation.
The reason? The cost to them (emotionally and otherwise, depending on the situation) from the time it starts going bad until it is over.
Show us who you really are (you know, the person you turn into after a couple months in, or after the ring goes on) up front, just as you want us to do, so we can have the information we need to make the decision.
I know what you feel like, during the divorce proceedings my ex kept saying "I still love you" even though she had a boyfriend.
God gave man only enough blood to think or have an erect penis. Man cannot do both at the same time.
I am currently in a realtionship, and in the back of my mind I wonder if it will fail.
I have asked many a women with her own motorcycle, I am up front about my relationship. 99.9% will NOT ride with me! Why? It is because they think I want something else!!
Relationships fail because of lack of communication, trust, and most of all the couple are not friends, only lovers.
Wow I hear ya darlin. It is a two way street for us gals that have our act together and own our own stuff too. I think we all worry about hooking up with mister wonderful and a month goes by and he no longer sends flowers let alone get off the couch to say hello.
And we certainly dont want to risk someone taking half of what we have accumulated and worked so hard to earn. So the answer is to not settle for anyone that comes to the table with less then yourself. Not shallow just a realist.
wow someone tell me if wrong or right started seeing a guy June 08 he calls from CA asking me fly up to ride back home said missed me so much he paid air ticket, to where He live WI b 4 hrs distance from each other I go we have cool time 5 days riding with one other guy, but always palnning trips with buddies says just friends ,
no he doesnt seem to want due to low thingy,come see me I visit him he cooks for me treats nice but no touching kissing much, we cuddle bed awsome ,talk every night phone giggle a lot but holidsys now says nope never have with woman,, trouble,so hes going on christmas trip with another single buddy, 2 days trip, I feel left out was so looking forward to spending nice holidays with a guy this year, have met his sis CA folks WI and he my family both in our late 50ts so what to do Im sad taht Im not worthy of happy Hols any sugestions it seems buddies rule .and his life always needs to be first.any advice, haha probably ditch him huh but Im halfway happy with him.
Falcon, I totally understand what you're saying. And none of us wants to get into a bad relationship. But we have to use our instincts and life experience to help evaluate whether or not this person is the right one. Don't ignore the flags. You know what you want and don't stop til you find it. And NEVER EVER settle for someone less!