Fact is most guys and gals are not models, but does our mind forget that fact and pass up someone in search of the minds ideal of perfection?

Sometimes LUST just gets in the way and takes over and your all done for. LOL
Reality and fantasy wrapped all in one,,,,,,

My fantasy is to find the perfect woman....LOL better explain that...A woman who doesn't need a man in her life but wants one, a woman who is confident about herself,has a great smile loves to laugh and I can't forget has her own bike :)

You know I have been cery respectful here at BK. And in my letter to them I just ask if they were short staffed. If so that would certainly explain things, and I for one would not get so down on them. Well I got no response so I wrote a post(that never got posted) saying could it be that the guines that started this site--Now squeeks when he walks!!! So WTF---BK cut me down to my knees!! Me and my $10.00 are going out dancing!! (and no HD not around the pole!!!!

Yeah girls, this place is getting to be a pain--and life is hard enough as it is---why in the hell would we want to pay $10.00 a mo. for a hassle!!!
As far as I can see there are some pretty awesom chics on this site--and maybe we ought tostart a site!!!LOL--Any name suggestions--LOL My first was Bikers Beach Bash!!!! Ya'll are awesome!

Many years ago, when I wore a younger man's close (piano man) I dated a young lady. I cooked for her we had dinners, watched movies. Every thing clicked, sex was great but we never went out together. Not to bars, dancing or restaurants. She finally told me that she did not want to be seen in public with me because I was shorter then she was. And she found that embarassing. Needless to say I broke it off. That was 20 years ago. I see her every once in a while and the years have not been kind to her. Trophy husband (doctor) left her for a younger one. The bottle did not help her and neither did the drugs. Everytime she sees me she tries to get back with me, talking about all the fun we had. I did not change. I still walk tall (as tall as you can when you're 5'9) I can still look in the mirror when I shave and like what I see.

There is both reality and fantasy that can exist, but I have learned to listen to very key things that a man says, the "red flags" or the "bells" and when I hear those, I make sure I stay grounded and understand everything that was said, because when a man gives you those "flags and bells", it's for a reason, not because he is confused or scared, etc., it is because he means it and he wants you to know where he stands on your relationship. When that happens, I make sure I don't get involved and just have fun.

the reality is we all want the person that will make our souls dance--the one we can share all our fantasies and dreams with and they with us
when we leave in the am we sount the minutes until we are back with them

What used to be fantasy became my reality for 34 years..is now my fantasy again. Enjoying myself until it becomes my reality again.
Cweet Char

angelheart....your not a fool..we have all done what you did ......you did what your heart wanted to do, and that is the fartherst thing from a fool....only a fool closes their hearts to people.....and you seemed to have walk away with your pride and heart....they are the priceless items....

babybaby~ they took what I had placed on the message board and cut more then half of it off and now it makes me look like a conceided *brat ***for not being able to use the real word I wanted to use*** If they don't like what you have to say in part of what you are saying then delete it all don't just put what is okay up~ WTF! Tell you what that one place Harley-M_____ dot com is looking better and better everytime they mess with me~

bikerkiss must have gotten my letter-cause they are doing some really weird things with my posts

In my last relationship I had gotten so wrapped up in the fantasy; that together we built; of what could be, that the reality came up and bit me in my ass, to the tune of an amount of funds I am ashamed to admit (now where is that emoticon/smiley for the town idiot?)

I trust so easy, and am way too honest; for it makes me a fool.....
But in the long run, I would rather be the fool then the lair.

Reality .. many people have to take a reality check when it comes to the person that they want to be with. Through my life I have met and gone out with greek gods, hunchbacks of Notre Dame and those in-between.

In many cases the ones that others considered a fantasy dream date were just that fantasy!!

Me I will take a real person one who is not perfect cause I sure as heck am not.

I have a very personal experience with a fantasy that turned out to be a horrible reality. My son met one. He left his wife and kids for her. After 2 years of marriage he died. The doctors say his heart was just stressed out and he gave up. I found out later that this person he married showed her true colors after a few months into the marriage. But my son had been taught you try to work out problems and he was too embarrassed and too proud to ask for help.

So yes I know through my own experiences that reality is best. It gives you a basis on which to build and does not float away on a whisp of a cloud when you are not looking.

I don't think the inside always stays the same. Depending on how you feel about someone.
And lets face it we grow old inside and out.
I'm no angel--U were saying about "passing up"
When I first met my late husband, (favored Sam Elliot) was french,had the bod too. But he was starting his divorce, and was in some deep financial issue, on top of that he had gotten hurt at work and was on leave. Good looks and good personality, didn't weigh the other. 3 mo's later he contacted me. Well his situation was a bit better, but..... My heart kept telling me go for it. I finally did. Those were the best years, and I experienced true love for myself, so did he. I am a better person because of him.
I still remind myself to look at the whole package.

I don't think the inside always stays the same. Depending on how you feel about someone.
And lets face it we grow old inside and out.
I'm no angel--U were saying about "passing up"
When I first met my late husband, (favored Sam Elliot) was french,had the bod too. But he was starting his divorce, and was in some deep financial issue, on top of that he had gotten hurt at work and was on leave. Good looks and good personality, didn't weigh the other. 3 mo's later he contacted me. Well his situation was a bit better, but..... My heart kept telling me go for it. I finally did. Those were the best years, and I experienced true love for myself, so did he. I am a better person because of him.
I still remind myself to look at the whole package.

I don't think the inside always stays the same. Depending on how you feel about someone.
And lets face it we grow old inside and out.
I'm no angel--U were saying about "passing up"
When I first met my late husband, (favored Sam Elliot) was french,had the bod too. But he was starting his divorce, and was in some deep financial issue, on top of that he had gotten hurt at work and was on leave. Good looks and good personality, didn't weigh the other. 3 mo's later he contacted me. Well his situation was a bit better, but..... My heart kept telling me go for it. I finally did. Those were the best years, and I experienced true love for myself, so did he. I am a better person because of him.
I still remind myself to look at the whole package.

Excellantly said Lady Vulcan. I had 34 years of that.

In reality we all do need our fantasies.

Continue on CC...(I'm a higway honey)

Eye_m_no_angel makes a note: "Lady Vulcan UNDERSTANDSSSSSSSS relationships."

The reality of it is.... if a guy is going to win my heart there must be romance, mystery, awe, in the relationship or it will shrivel and die like a rose on the vine. That goes both ways. You must do those little things that keep a relationship exiting... in doing so you get the best of both worlds. Reality and fantasy combined. It doesn't get much better than that, does it?