Do YOU find it easier to Dislike than Like Others? Relationship

  • View author's info posted on Jul 26, 2006 21:42


    I like almost everyone, until given a reason to feel otherwise
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  • View author's info posted on Jul 13, 2006 07:12


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  • View author's info posted on Feb 18, 2006 07:01


    softailcill write:
    i love meeting people and i go into all of my relationships friend or lover with a kind happy attitude and i take chances and give my whole heart to a man i think is worthy and believe me i have had my heart shattered in pieces just recently but I'll do it again because finding the right man to cuddle with and share life with is worth the risk;-) the only way i will not like somebody is if they give me a reason not to.;-)Peace, Cill


    Now I agree with this totally. I have never understood why anyone would want to go into any kind of a relationship with walls built up. All this does is make the other person have to work to break down walls someone else caused. To me it would be time better spent getting to know each other than one have to break down walls that he/she had nothing to do with building. Think about it, you have had your heart broken time and time again but guess what, your still kicking. Just my opinion now but if you have walls, you put them up, you bring them down, you just might like what you find on the other side.
  • View author's info posted on Feb 18, 2006 06:23


    i love meeting people and i go into all of my relationships friend or lover with a kind happy attitude and i take chances and give my whole heart to a man i think is worthy and believe me i have had my heart shattered in pieces just recently but i'll do it again because finding the right man to cuddle with and share life with is worth the risk;-) the only way i will not like somebody is if they give me a reason not to.;-)Peace, Cill
  • View author's info posted on Feb 16, 2006 04:49


    HarleyGurl35 write:
    Good one, Softy.

    People have to give me a reason not to like them. With me, everyone starts off the same.

    Even after they give me a reason to not care for them, I will still give them another chance to redeem themselves. Many times it's been worth it. Most of the time, they don't even know I'm struggling with 'liking them'.

    It really takes a lot for me to truly NOT like someone. There is 1 that I have absolutely no use for here on BK, and so I stay clear of them.

    They have shown their true colors time and time again so that tells me they are just what they are. Fake.

    There have been times I found myself trying to really like them on one thread, only to find them on another reminding me why I just shake my head and sit in amazement at how they don't realize how they are embarrassing themselves.

    Honestly, I find myself feeling embarrassed for them.

    ya, What HGurl said. ty!

    Great thread Softie.
    Muahh...to my bk buds.

    DD
  • View author's info posted on Feb 14, 2006 08:30


    For me.. dislike is easier. Not like it is bred out of envy... or anything like that though.

    However, I just always figured that the World would be a much better place without most of the people.

    So, the step over the line to "like" has to have some affirmative force to push it there.

    Can be as simple as some chatty fella at a road house buys me a whiskey. Okay, he stepped over the like line... but could be back on the other side as easily if he banters on or asks too many questions.

    A flash of a smile or a wink can do the same thing. But those who try sooo hard to be liked... are the easiest to dislike.

    AJ
  • View author's info posted on Feb 13, 2006 09:59


    Go with the flow... the important relationships stick by thierselves and the others I just enjoy whatever is good and drop whatever may have been bad. No use keepin anything with u that does not enhance your life.
  • View author's info posted on Feb 12, 2006 21:22


    Good one, Softy.

    People have to give me a reason not to like them. With me, everyone starts off the same.

    Even after they give me a reason to not care for them, I will still give them another chance to redeem themselves. Many times it's been worth it. Most of the time, they don't even know I'm struggling with 'liking them'.

    It really takes a lot for me to truly NOT like someone. There is 1 that I have absolutely no use for here on BK, and so I stay clear of them.

    They have shown their true colors time and time again so that tells me they are just what they are. Fake.

    There have been times I found myself trying to really like them on one thread, only to find them on another reminding me why I just shake my head and sit in amazement at how they don't realize how they are embarrassing themselves.

    Honestly, I find myself feeling embarrassed for them.
  • View author's info posted on Feb 12, 2006 17:09


    yea, i know what your saying....i don't know if it's that i just dislike people or situations, or i just got so use to just avoiding people and situations----weather it is because i really dislike them, don't want to be bothered by them, or just get to tired of trying.....i always envied people who could always find the good in people, i think i might have stopped doing that much anymore, looking for the good...but i think i have come to realize though when i do met someone, when the good is there it is like i have known them all my life, no stress, just kinds natural....so i guess to answer you question softtail....i dunno....interesting question
  • View author's info posted on Feb 12, 2006 07:18


    Softail1999 write:
    To me its soooo much simpler to dislike than to like.. If you dislike something you avoid it and pay no nevermind to it.. The End...


    Just wondering here...

    Good topic Softail.
    In my younger angry days I felt to often I was being prejudged by others. So I lived with an idea to not like anyone cause no one would like me.
    With the help of others that said My outward appearances look too serious or angry, I began to look in my own mirror. What I saw, was what they saw. They were right. But I couldn't help how I looked.
    After hearing myself say many times, If only people would take the time to get to know me. I began to realize I had to stop judging others the same way.
    It is easier to just dislike, from the start. Our work load is so much decreased....
    But it gets lonely.....
    Chkn
  • View author's info posted on Feb 12, 2006 02:21


    mspyder write:
    Softail,
    I had to think about this for a minute and sometimes you are right it is easier to look and see dislikes, it doesn't seem to take any effort, BUT, for my general outlook and attitude it is important that I look for likes. With myself I have to admit I seem to project my insides out on others outsides, if that makes sense. It's a good topic, it makes you or I think.
    Spyder

    oh man we gotta think1!!crap im doomed!!!hi spyder
  • View author's info posted on Feb 11, 2006 15:12


    Nodey write:
    Hmmm...I've always been told I like to find the good in others more than really should be allowed. It's just always been easier for me to like than dislike.

    Maybe that's a major flaw?


    I don't see that as a flaw at all, Nodey. I would try to say more than one sentence, but it just ain't coming together right now.
  • View author's info posted on Feb 11, 2006 15:10


    Personally I think you are thinking way to much on this. The way I see it is lick'em all and pick the one that screams the loudest, and if she shakes then thats a whole diff......uh ..............you said like huh,................................................nevermind
  • View author's info posted on Feb 11, 2006 11:38


    Hmmm...I've always been told I like to find the good in others more than really should be allowed. It's just always been easier for me to like than dislike.

    Maybe that's a major flaw?
  • View author's info posted on Feb 11, 2006 10:26


    Softail1999 write:

    DOUBLED81 write:
    HEY BRO,,I've learned for me it's much easier on the soul to make and keep a Great Friend ,then it is to make and keep a Great Enemy,,,,,,,peace...<><

    Im hearing you on that, or should I say I heard you..
    Sometimes its difficult to not fall..

    Thanks for the awakening..

    Take Care...

    ANY TIME ,,,,GLAD IF IT HELP'S YOU...<>
  • View author's info posted on Feb 11, 2006 10:25


    its easier to dislike yes cause then you dont have to put much energy or time in to figuring out if you DO like them.
    I always look for the good in everyone and if the bad is just too much then I run.Id rather focus my time and energy on happiness not bull chit!!! Hiya softy!!!i see your back...hehehehe
  • View author's info posted on Feb 11, 2006 09:57


    HEY BRO,,I've learned for me it's much easier on the soul to make and keep a Great Friend ,then it is to make and keep a Great Enemy,,,,,,,peace...<>
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