Well kids - what to say?
A friend finally caught up with me last night to share the news of a new relationship...Thats Great I say, I'm so happy for you! Many times a relationship can work that moves fast as long as you're on the same track!
As he was describing his new love an image came to me...A familiar image...Yes, I knew this girl, Is it my business to tell this person what I really think?
Of course I did...

Amen to that Mo!

Comfy honesty works may sting a bit but in the end your a better friend to people. Someone they can trust and know where they stand. Stay that way.

No need for ya to be quiet!! Speak your mind, all the posts that I've seen ya write made sense to me

That's O.K. Doc....Looks like I've been longwinded lateley too.............And I like reading what you have to say...
I never took at look at this forum before! I'm so glad I did!
Now I'll try to be quiet for a while...
Damn!

Ummm yes yes and yes to everything you have said here!! Not only about telling your friend because in doing so you proved that it was more important to attempt to protect your friend then to not tell him , thereby insuring he didn't get angry at you. If you chose the latter it would actually be a selfish motivation, as it would put your status as his friend before his welfare. Since you told him what you know to be the truth even tho you knew he may get angry at you, that was the selfless thing to do and unquestionably the best thing spiritually to do!!

What you said about your friend telling you the truth I would personally agree with 100%. It seems that many times friends will not tell the truth to not hurt your feelings, but in doing so they unintentionally hurt you more, that's my take on it anyway..

Yea I'm longwinded tonight, in one of those moods!!

I can see you & Mo & a few others feel the way I do about this type of thing..

Happened to me too once - a friend not telling me the truth when I expressed doubts - But I do beleive they were true friends, just worried about hurting my feelings - Pishaw - Anyone who has been a true friend to me could not hurt my feelings by speaking their mind...Now THAT is important to me...

I would have told my friend without blinking an eye....I'd rather my friend be mad at me for a while! A true friend would "not" stand back and watch another walk into a fire without a hose!.....Mo

Thanks to all of you for your thoughts and words-
Yo all are pretty darn cool!!!

I also think you did the right thing.

I was on the receiving end of that once. Unfortunately, my friends (or so called friends) didn't voice any warnings me until afterwards. I believe that real friends need to be honest with one another. Reguardless of whether they are receptive to the advice or not.

It is a good thing Comfy, and it is lonely sometimes, but it pays dividends, even though it carries a high cost. It's another level of honesty between friends, and categorizes good friends and acquaintances. I can think of more than once when I didn't get a warning and lost because of it. And other times when I was warned and didn't heed it, so we do what we can and don't worry bout the rest.

Hey...I think it's a good thing but it probably can get lonley

it is in my book girlfriend....

Nice to have another point of view...
I sure would have liked someone to have told me what they really thought at one time or another, just so I could have kept my eyes peeled, but who's to say I would have listened at the time?
My friends tell me, "Comfy, we always know where we stand with you!"
I sure hope thats a good thing....

Hey Comfy1 I would want to know...but I would be p***ed at you for awhile

Well, it sounds like you are a good friend, that did all she could. I just hope that your caring didn't damage your friendship

I think I repeated after every sentance in his own defense,"WATCH OUT FOR HER!!"...That was it, but suddenly he had to go...Funny, huh He may not listen right now, but I would appreciate a friend doing that for me...
Thank you Bear!

That was a tuff call, Comfy. Do you warn your fiend or stay quiet and just be there to pick up the pieces later.
I think that you did the right thing, though your friend might not appreciate it at the time.