Older women require a confident approach. Cute and shy will only get you so far. They don't have time for the nonsense: they're fully grown. They know what their hearts (and minds, and bodies)are capable of, and want you to know yourself, at least. I was married to a woman 13 years older than myself for a long time: life took us different ways, but she still calls sometimes. I'm currently attracted to a cutie who is only three years older than me, but along the way, I got old, too.