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Posted on Thu, Feb 01, 2007 22:12

Help me out guys. If a man goes into his proverbial cave, for no apparent reason, should he be left alone? If something, other than the woman, is causing the problem should the woman just leave him alone? Biker men are no less confusing than ordinary men. You would think by now I would have this figured out.


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Posted on Fri, Feb 02, 2007 12:40

this is what i would do ..If you love him n care for him ..give him his space n time to be alone ..he will figure it out on his own.. n support him ..you need a big hugsssssssss g/f..Harley


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Posted on Fri, Feb 02, 2007 12:00

At one time or another we all need a little room to be selfish. Let him know you love him and care about what's going on in his life. He will see that he needs to open up in order for you both to work through any problems. Give him some space but make sure it's not too much for too long.


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Posted on Fri, Feb 02, 2007 11:28

OH triple ditto. I have a good friend (who happens to be on BK) and he and another friend here in Jax go into 'cave mode' a bit every now and then. Although it 'drives me nutso' I simply let them both know I'm here, my shoulder is here, my ears are here, the long tight HUGZ are here as well, and should they want to or need to talk, CALL ANYTIME. And I DO mean that for sure. Then once its over, and sometimes it takes TIME for them to 'come back out and play', they either talk about it or not, but let me know all is well now and we continue on...... Suz~ ;)


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Posted on Fri, Feb 02, 2007 09:28

Ditto Cruisin. I would let him know I am there should he need me but leave him be, let him have his time.


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Posted on Fri, Feb 02, 2007 08:20

I would leave him alone and give him support. Be still and empathetically listen when he is ready to talk..make the emotional air around you both.. nonjudgemental and supportive...he is distancing for a reason...eventually that reason will be revealed or you will figure it out. Under reacting is better than over reacting. Reflect in the meantime on the way you both communicate or issues you see present that need working on and spend the time working on what you want to improve on your side of the fence, since that is the only thing here in your control...just my opinion..take it or leave it. :}


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Posted on Fri, Feb 02, 2007 07:49

I am not a man, but I would say; Yes, give him time to work out in his head what ever it is he is going through. Go do other fun things that you enjoy then give him a call to see how he is and what he is feeling. Been though that. My two cents


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