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leahjuno
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Posted on Tue, Jan 23, 2007 01:36

Can anyone give me some advice on how to help a work colluege/friend, she tried to kill herself yesterday. Her long term boyfriend broke up with her recently ,he didnt even have the courage to tell her to her face he sent her a letter , saying he was going back to his ex wife and a lot of other horrible things i wont repeat on here, leaving no forwarding address and even changed his mobile phone number, her kids are all grown and gone and dont want to know either. I have been there for her, held her hand, given her a warm shoulder to cry on, let her rant and rave about him in sheer pain and anger, but i'm running out of ideas, that will be of any use to stop her doing this again,can any one suggest anything please ?


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Posted on Mon, Jan 29, 2007 18:45

Leah, you are a good friend to stick with her and help her. Good to hear she is getting help. One thing to keep in mind is that the people who are offering support to that person in need, well they need to take care of themselves too. Don't neglect yourself hon. Thanks for keeping us apprised of how she is doing. You take care! Hugs, T


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Posted on Sat, Jan 27, 2007 08:10

i'm afraid she has been mentally unstable a long time , she was physicaly abused as a child , then just drifted from one horrible man to another , she is to see a psychiatrist this coming week, for her first session,we will all help and support her ,in a strange way trying to kill herself has probably done her a world of good ,she discovered she has loads of people who care about her, thank you all


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Posted on Fri, Jan 26, 2007 02:12

SO leah, IS she getting some professional help? Something not brought up here but needs to be , is if you feel that she is too unstable and a dire threat to her own safety..not seeking means to cope...you can petition her in involuntarily ...keeps her safe and she can get treatment.. last resort, but one to consider.


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Posted on Thu, Jan 25, 2007 08:12

i have been going to see her every day ,i let her talk and talk it seems to be helping , our works colluges have all been doing the same ,but we have to keep it as quiet as possible , because we are health workers , she will be sacked if the manageress finds out what happened , and thats the last thing she needs but so far so good. She is getting some strange phone calls now though, you know the kind , you pick up and someone is there you can hear them breathing quietly but they dont reply to any talking , it just says anonymous caller , its not helping at all , shes convinced its the his ex wife, she is also trying to convince herself that the ex wrote and sent the horrible letter,i just find it better to let her talk about it and give her lots of hugs , thank you all ,


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Posted on Wed, Jan 24, 2007 17:13

How is it going Leah?? Any news on your friend??? Hugs, T


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Posted on Wed, Jan 24, 2007 11:25

The only thing a friend can and should do is get professional help, immediately. You are not qualified to handle this and the guilt, if anything should happen to her, will destroy you.


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Posted on Wed, Jan 24, 2007 06:37

As a friend br there for her but make her accountable, she has to keep appiontments with thr professionals that are there to help her. But like everyone else has said a true friend is what will be best don't judge him or her just listen, she still loves the man so saying negative things about him may hurt your relationship with her. Good Luck and I will keep you both in my prayers. Nancy


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Posted on Wed, Jan 24, 2007 06:29

My thoughts and prayers are with you Leah, hope it all works out. We are here if you need us : )


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Posted on Tue, Jan 23, 2007 17:26

Leah, I agree with folks here, a crisis unit is a good place to start for immeditate needs.


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Posted on Tue, Jan 23, 2007 12:21

I hope everything goes well for your friend, but make sure you have someone you can lean on to help you as well while you help your friend.


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Posted on Tue, Jan 23, 2007 12:03

Thank you all for your help it means a lot to me, she is going to see a counsillar,when she gets out of the hospital tommorrow, she had long sessions with two psychiatrists today ,my family and i will be with her and see this through, she has more friends than she realizes, we just need to help her keep on the straight, out of the bottle and away from the pill pot.Thank you all once again for the help ,much appreciated ,love leah


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Posted on Tue, Jan 23, 2007 10:17

Leah, call your local Mental Health Org and tell them you need to get her in there. Everyone is right. She needs to be in a safe place where they can help her. There is the type of suicide..Susie, you might know the correct term for this...sort of a passive suicidal spell where it is all too much and you just wish you could cease, then there is the more threatening kind. None of us can judge at this point, you are a dear friend to be there for her, get her there. OR get someone to come out to her if that is not possible. Prayers for you both hon, T


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Posted on Tue, Jan 23, 2007 05:35

A friend of mine runs a Rehab. Many of the clients talk about suicide. He asks them how they would do it. If they are not sure. He still takes them in to the rehab. But under close watch. Assigns a buddy to them. If they know how they would do it. He sends them straight off to a psych. ward. Best to get her professional help.


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Posted on Tue, Jan 23, 2007 04:55

yes pro help immediately and you'll have to watch her for 24 hrs get some other friends to help that is usually the critical time.


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