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bikerteach49
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Posted on Thu, Oct 05, 2006 12:20

I am really not sure how to start this, so I am just going to dive in. First, I love reading the blogs. Most of you guys have great senses of humor. Second, I've learned more about how women think on this site than I did married for 21 years. Third, there is something my parents taught me when I was just a tadpole that sticks with me still today, and I thought it was a lesson most men from my generation learned unequivocably. You never, and I repeat NEVER, threaten a woman to the point where she feels physically endangered. I was always taught that women, as aggravating and exasperating as they can be, were the greatest gift that God gave mankind. Nothing sets my hair on end faster than to hear a man bully, cajole, or denigrate a woman. If you find a woman to be so intolerable that you can't handle the situation any longer, then walk away. You don't use snide innuendoes or threats to get what you want. Ladies, be yourselves. Have your catfights, belittle us (we probably deserve it, ), but please keep talking. Your voices are like little precious sparrows that light up our lives. Semper Fi


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Posted on Sat, Oct 21, 2006 05:27

BT Good to hear. I have never hit a women. I am ashamed to admit that when my X and I argued. I would get right up in her face and scream.(this was many years ago) I figured that if I did not hit her it was not abuse. Then after one really bad argument I was talking to a friend and his wife about it. She pointed out to me.That even though I knew I was not going to hit her.....She didn't. I admit this to let guys know. there many form of abuse.None of them good. I am happy to say that,one little insight some one gave me. Changed the way I treated her.Treat everybody for that mater. One other little insight that some one gave me, that changed my life."Anger is Fear, expressed." As I have grown older and more comfortable with myself.And I don't worry about what others think about me. I find that I almost never get angry with anyone.(except myself) I have been hurt by people,confused by people and let down by people.It has been many,many years since I have lost my temper at any one though.


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Posted on Fri, Oct 20, 2006 23:41

BT you sound like a very sweet man. Too bad more men were not brought up with the values that your parents instilled in you. Hats off to mom and dad!


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Posted on Thu, Oct 19, 2006 22:09

Honestly BT, It bothers me alot when a woman rips on her man in public. We all deserve respect. Thanks for the wonderful words... You are a true gem amoung men. Why some woman has not lassoed you down in your area, is a mystery.


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Posted on Sat, Oct 14, 2006 17:48

I am deeply touched by your words and thoughts,and wish to thank you bikerteach,for proving that chivalry is still alive and lives within your heart,soul,and spirit.


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Posted on Thu, Oct 12, 2006 22:39

Very well said, and verbal abuse is still abuse, and there is no reason to ever abuse another, especially a woman. Fighting and, of course, war, is another situation. I would say arguing with a woman is OK, fighting is not. Semper Fidelis Jarheads, and an early Happy B-Day!!


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Posted on Thu, Oct 12, 2006 19:16

I am impressed... so sweet of you to say it out loud. My ex abused me (torchered is more like it)both physically and emotionally. I started to believe him when he said I caused it. After being away from him I realized he was the abnormal person. We need to acknowledge all the caring, loving, gentle men out there... and YOU are one of them! Bless you!!


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Posted on Wed, Oct 11, 2006 19:58

Bikertech: Agreed, I have equally learned a great deal from both Doves and Eagles. It sounds like your parents tough you wisely. I am straight forward. No games. Was married to an abusive man both physically and mentally. Now, I look to the male encourager. A lifter of my head. Even in difficult times. It is so easy to let upsetting matters go when you have a gentle makeup, like kissing and sweet words of forgiveness. It just makes you melt in their arms.


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Posted on Wed, Oct 11, 2006 09:03

hey teach, i fully agree with you. there is nothing that get my heart pumping more than an abusive man, either mentally, physically or verbally. your moma raised you right. btw former wm here. Semper Fi


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Posted on Wed, Oct 11, 2006 08:57

Hi Teach ... What I mean by "walk the walk" is every serious relationship I've had ... they ALL say "I would never abuse you or hurt you in any way" ... because most of my life has already been HELL. Guess what? That's why I havn't been with anyone in a long time ... it always turns out that they have NO control over their temper tamtrums. I guess I've been "fortunate" enough that I've had the "chance" to break free before I really get hurt. "What doesn't kill us" ... (I could ad-lib here all day long!) lol


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Posted on Mon, Oct 09, 2006 12:05

Thanks for the all the support, and Semper Fi to you Mac. Wild, I am not sure what you mean by 'Walk the Walk', but I have never verbally or physically abused a woman in my life. That's not to say my patience has never been tested, but I have always had the foresight to walk away before saying or doing anything I would regret later. I have to much respect for myself to allow that type of behavior to become part of my personality.


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Posted on Sun, Oct 08, 2006 10:14

Teach, I don't know if you realize how many of the women here adore you. You are a kind man. And my thoughts echo Irish's. I can't believe any woman in close proximity to you would not jump at the chance to get to know you, be with you. Thanks for always making the women here feel special. As to abusers, they are prevelant aren't they? Verbal, emotional, physical. Been there. Had enough. Most women have believe it or not. Many don't even realize that they have. Well, maybe that answers the question about why you are single. Too many women are gun shy. I sure hope one takes that step towards you soon. You sure deserve a loving mate. Thanks again Teach. Be safe, T


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Posted on Sat, Oct 07, 2006 20:58

And why are you still single??...lol


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Posted on Sat, Oct 07, 2006 20:43

Bikerteach49- You said a mouthfull. They are the best that God put on this earth. They can try the patience of a saint. But I wouldn't trade them for a million dollars. They are what they are. bdwolf77


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Posted on Sat, Oct 07, 2006 11:20

You keep talkin'like that ... you'll win EVERY womans heart that's here! ;^) Now ... can you "Walk The Walk"? :^)


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Posted on Sat, Oct 07, 2006 11:14

Hey BT ... ~~ YOU ROCK! ~~ ;^)


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