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Posted on Thu, Aug 03, 2006 19:01

I am going to be serious this time. LOL I can be it just mite rain. Why is it that people judge you because of your job,age,kind of bike you ride,the way you dress,your weight and ect. That don't make you a bad person. That is why alot of people are not happy with the person they are with. Example Like me just because I drive a truck and not a doctor, have a F250 and not a Lincon,ride a Suzuki and not a Harley, dress laid back and not in a $100 dollar out fit,or because I am 34 and not 50. That does not tell you what kind of person I am. I have been judged on this site already for my age. I hope I got it fixed with them. I see in some blogs that some of you have been judged for you size. Just because you are a little over weight don't make you a bad person. I see on some profiles that you don't want a match if they don't have a Harley. Will that Harley love you are not. Do you want your match to love you car,dog, house are you. How meny have been judged this way. Most of all how meny on here judge people in this way. Ok that is anuf I got to go back to my old self can't handle this serious snit. LOL


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Posted on Tue, Aug 15, 2006 18:00

leah dina45, not judgeing, just looking


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Posted on Mon, Aug 14, 2006 19:20

sumtoy,,,you be the man as my teenagers say. Its a good thing. Mac youre not so bad either. Hey when am I gonna meet someone to take me for a ride!(on a bike) :-) Mary


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Posted on Thu, Aug 10, 2006 17:19

It is a shame that some are guilty of making pre-mature judgements when sizing someone up as a potential mate. Most of us have been through at least one relationship probably more and we know (or think we know) what we DON't want, so maybe thats why they discrimate against the things you mentioned Sumtoy. Damn baggage! I personally try to let every man stand for himself until he proves to me otherwise but I am guilty of being apprehensive about dating someone much younger than myself. I don't think thats judging a man's character or the kind of person he is, it would just be my personal preference to not date someone that is my son's age! LOL The other things you mentioned, money, job, materialistic things, riding a Harley, I think it would be a real shame if a man's character is based on how much money he makes and the possessions he owns and wouldn't say much for the lady's character who may be sizing him up. I do believe in physical attraction and chemistry and I will be the first to say that even age can't defy that if its meant to be, there a lot of things in this life we just can't fight!


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Posted on Thu, Aug 10, 2006 16:52

I think we are all guilty of making those judgements when are sizing someone up as a potential mate.


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Posted on Thu, Aug 10, 2006 15:11

Hey Sumtoy I know what you mean and I think your a Sweetheart, Love reading you Blogs. I don't jump in often but I do check out in put.


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Posted on Thu, Aug 10, 2006 11:51

SUMTOY>>>I find myself, thinking about my lifestyle..which is, I am a naturist. I find it to be very exhilarating, free spirited, open to things around me.. and mostly about acceptance..If people could just get past, thinking about what they look like on the outside..And focus on who they are on the inside.. Then they would project a more positive attitude..in general.. Clothing does NOT make the person or what TOYS you own.. That Harleys are the only thing to ride.. because that is not true.. Clothing is something we wear, because of the weather elements and because of our society in this country.. whereas in some European countries.. going without clothing is not a big deal. We go to museums, and view nude paintings and nude sculptures, but that is considered art.. I keep hearing that, the human body is beautiful.. Then why do we insist on covering it up? Something to think about.. ;-) Of course, riding on cycles we do need to wear leather gear.. Smiling!! I'm sure, by commenting that I am a naturist, that others will turn there heads in disbelief. Probably judging me, for being so OPEN about it. Let it be known, that being into nudism, is NOT NASTY or LEWD.. only in narrow minds that just don't comprehend what it actually means. Nudity implies to most, that being Nude is Sexual...which is the biggest misconception that naturists have to fight. As a result, you may find naturists, like myself..to be over-sensitive to it. This is not to say that naturists are against sexuality. We just believe, like most of our society, that there is an appropriate time and place for it.. Hope your not judging me? But if you are... OH WELL!! I feel, better getting this off my chest.... LOL I mean bare breasts.. ha ha ha!!!


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Posted on Mon, Aug 07, 2006 19:05

All is good now. The thing that I put was just an example. The age thing was it but that is funny because I know the real deal. hay Mick I been out running round the house. I think I can out run you for a little ways. I hope so.LOL


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Posted on Mon, Aug 07, 2006 16:15

Queenbee - bravo. You articulated what many of us couldn't, or wouldn't take the time to do. May you find the love of your life - and make many new friends along the way.


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Posted on Mon, Aug 07, 2006 15:23

ah here whut yer sayn, foks luk ad me an saie im a dumazz


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Posted on Sat, Aug 05, 2006 21:31

most people find faults in others cause they dislike the same thing in themselves


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Posted on Sat, Aug 05, 2006 01:59

uh huh yup yup uh huh uh huh..yessireebob. knowwhatyamean uh huh ;p


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Posted on Fri, Aug 04, 2006 17:33

Some on here got me all wrong. The person was putting me in the class with all my age. That was not so good but we where not what you could say talking other then just hay. I am most likely more mature then the average person my age. I am on here to make new friends and have some fun. If something else come from the site hay that would be ok. I got to watch my step on here. I am the kind of person that will tell a lady she looks nice if she looks nice. That does no mean that I am in love with her. It is like Botarby8s said because he has tattoos he is not bad. Just because you had a bad experience with someone else that had tattoos don't mean that everbody that has them is bad. The big thing that I was saying is that you will never find your sole mate if you judge by what they have in life, if they have tattoos,long hair, short hair,big, small, short are tall. The money will be gone, ride in junk yard, hair will fall out, but the heart will be in the fight to the end. By the way it did rain today.LIL


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Posted on Fri, Aug 04, 2006 14:14

Couldn't have said it better myself! I don't care what someone does for a living, as long as he can support himself and his way of life. Age is a number and looks fade and the body grows old and weary. If you're on here to find the last love of your life, to find someone to grow old with and ride into the sunset with, then what really, truly counts is what's in your heart and his (hers) and if they fit together don't let that person go! Love conquers all. :)


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Posted on Fri, Aug 04, 2006 12:57

Are you talking about "judging" people as in having a lower or prejudged opinion about them in general, or are you saying that someone may not be interested in dating because of one of these things. I am the ultimate believer in not judging people by age, appearance, job, money, where they live etc etc, but that is not the same as not wanting to pursue a relationship with someone because of my personal preferences when it comes to some of those things. I am comfortable with the age group, body type etc etc that I will be attracted to, but I am not judging a person if I am not attracted to them. I dont believe my personal prefferences when it comes to attraction are "The Standard" and we all have different one's, but dont call that judging.


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Posted on Fri, Aug 04, 2006 12:53

Well i agree with you. I try very hard to decide if i like someone by the type of person they are,not what they have or don't have..and if people cant do the same with me than they aren't worth my time.... be safe Frankie :)


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Posted on Fri, Aug 04, 2006 12:11

Well, I'm with you on about 90% of that - I'm on the other end of the age discrimination thing though...I have no idea why you're having problems if you're 34. I try not to be superficial, but there are a large number of young(ish) beautiful women here who enjoy being chatted up, that's why most of us are here, and if the physical chemistry isn't there, not much else will happen either...and young(ish) can mean either physical age or attitude - there are lots of women over 50, especially on this board, who are real babes, a lot of their attractiveness is because of the way they view themselves and the world can go to hell if they don't like it which suits me fine 'cuz I'm pretty much the same type of person. Also, I have responded to every wink or email I've received, even if it's just to say "thanks" unless she doesn't post or send a pic along...if I put myself out there, so should she. If someone (male or female) doesn't want to post a pic publicly, they should send one along if they would like to email someone. The long and short of it though, is that everyone here is or has been discriminated against because of one thing or another, so you're not alone by any means. Just work through it and understand that not everyone is going to pick up on your cues and be an instant mate. I like to make first contact in the chat room and many women have not answered me - that's their perogative as it is mine and it's also exciting when someone I like decides to give an old fart like me a tumble. For me it goes way beyond the thrill of the chase since I'll never be fortunate enough to meet many of the women here - I enjoy chatting, talking sexy if that's mutually acceptable, or just making new acquaintances. Above all, be a gentleman and give the girls the respect they deserve.


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Posted on Fri, Aug 04, 2006 08:48

Hi SUMTOY. You are so right. People judge all the time, and it is such a shame. We all start out younger and then get older. And why do people assume we are what our jobs are. It is what we do, not who we are. The package that we come in also does not define the person inside. I have met some wonderful people all over the world on this site, and you know what,I could care less what they look like. Just my thoughts on this subject.


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Posted on Fri, Aug 04, 2006 06:58

Who is picking on my Sum? They go through me first.


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Posted on Fri, Aug 04, 2006 06:22

I understand your point, but let me twist it just a bit for you. A person who will judge others without knowing anything about them, or place criteria upon who they will associate with that is borderline ridiculous, is most likely someone with whom you wouldn't be able to build a lasting relationship... be it romantic or just friends of the same sex. So in essence, via their own self-absorbed stupidity, they're doing you a favor. I think subconciously what you're talking about, and my outlook on it, has a great deal to do with my tattoos. If my appearance will deter someone from speaking to me, they most likely aren't someone who shares my values, outlooks or interests. By judging me, they've saved me valuable time that can then be invested in someone else. I can't say that I'm completely free of it myself though... I don't like politicians. 'Tis wrong of me to lump them all together, but that is one group I'd just rather avoid all together.


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