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Posted on Sun, Jul 06, 2008 15:51

Each of us should think about what this says, because I beleive that what the story tells us, is true about our lives. We never have the chance to go back and do the things we wanted to do but just never found the right time and when we do, it's too late. A friend of mine opened his wife's underwear drawer and picked up a silk paper wrapped package: 'This, - he said - isn't any ordinary package.' He unwrapped the box and stared at both the silk paper and the box. 'She got this t he first time we went to New York , 8 or 9 years ago. She has never put it on , was saving it for a special occasion. Well, I guess this is it. He got near the bed and placed the gift box next to the other clothing he was taking to the funeral house, his wife had just died. He turned to me and said: 'Never save something for a special occasion. Every day in your life is a special occasion'. I still think those words changed my life. Now I read more and clean Less. I sit on the porch without worrying about anything. I spend more time with my family, and less at work. I understood that life should be a source of experience to be lived up to, not survived through. I no longer keep anything. I use crystal glasses every day... I'll wear new clothes to go to the supermarket, if i feel like it. I don't save my special perfume for special occasions, I use it whenever I want to. The words 'Someday...' and 'One Day...' are fading away from my dictionary. If it's worth seeing, listening or doing, I want to see, listen or do it now. I don't know what my friend's wife would have done if she knew she wouldn't be there the next morning, this nobody can tell. I think she might have called her relatives and closest friends. She might call old friends to make peace over past quarrels. I'd like to think she would go out for Chinese, her favorite food. It's these small things that I would regret not doing, if I knew my time had come. I would regret it, because I would no longer see the friends I would meet, letters... that I wanted to write 'One of these days'. I would regret and feel sad, because I didn't say to my brother and sisters, son and daughters, not times enough at least, how much I love them. Now, I try not to delay, postpone or keep anything that could bring laughter and joy into our lives.. And, on each morning, I say to myself that this could be a special day. And it will be. Each day, each hour, each minute, is special. Live for today, for tomorrow is promised to no-one. If you got this, it's because someone cares for you and because, probably, there's someone you care about. If you're too busy to send this out to other people and you say to yourself that you will send it 'One of these days' ,remember that 'One'


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Posted on Sun, Aug 03, 2008 00:16

Thanks for the post, NN. That is one of the reasons I ride. Tomorrow I my not be able to do it again. Take every day by the... horns and ride it for all it's worth. Ride safe!


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Posted on Sun, Jul 13, 2008 07:27

Hey Deb!! My code is "life is too short". I live everyday as if it were going to be my last and I have no regrets. I set two goals this year and I have accomplished both of them...my motorcycle license and my tattoo. I spend time with my kids, they come first, screw everything else. If I died tomorrow, I would be happy and fulfilled.


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Posted on Wed, Jul 09, 2008 17:59

Quoting: Originally posted by HarleyRidinRN Yes NightNurse...i all too well know the feelings these folks are going thru. lost my 23 year old 8 years ago in a car wreck...my last alive sites of him are looking back in my mirror as i pulled away with him standing there watching me. See...i was working in Ny at the time and had just two more weeks to work then I'd be home...two days later he was taken from me. Lost mo Mom to cancer just a little over two years ago, my sisters and i took care of her at home for 3 months till see passed, how I wish I'd gotten hime to spend more time with her while she was feeling well. My husband, who i was separated from but still very much in love with just died May9th...out walking the dog and had a massive MI. Being a nurse myself I see people lose loved ones all the time but its not the same whenits your own. Every day is sooo precious, no one is promised tomorrow. So yes...you gotta take the time to enjoy life and tell people how much they mean to you and that you love them as often as they can. Hey....whats on your Bucket List???

Hi. Nice to meet you. Ohhhh my bucket list! Good movie,too! Lottsa things in my bucket. I guess most importantly is that I'd like to be around long enough to see my 2 beautiful Grandsons grow up to manhood, and to know all will be ok for them and their futures.


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Posted on Wed, Jul 09, 2008 13:13

Yes NightNurse...i all too well know the feelings these folks are going thru. lost my 23 year old 8 years ago in a car wreck...my last alive sites of him are looking back in my mirror as i pulled away with him standing there watching me. See...i was working in Ny at the time and had just two more weeks to work then I'd be home...two days later he was taken from me. Lost mo Mom to cancer just a little over two years ago, my sisters and i took care of her at home for 3 months till see passed, how I wish I'd gotten hime to spend more time with her while she was feeling well. My husband, who i was separated from but still very much in love with just died May9th...out walking the dog and had a massive MI. Being a nurse myself I see people lose loved ones all the time but its not the same whenits your own. Every day is sooo precious, no one is promised tomorrow. So yes...you gotta take the time to enjoy life and tell people how much they mean to you and that you love them as often as they can. Hey....whats on your Bucket List???


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Posted on Tue, Jul 08, 2008 10:03

I LOST MY FATHER TO A SUDDEN MASSIVE CORONARY WHILE HE WAS EATING HIS DINNER. MY LAST VISION OF HIM WAS IN THE FUNERAL HOME WHERE I HAD TO ID HIS BODY,BECAUSE HE LIVED IN PA,AND IT TOOK THEM A COUPLE DAYS TO FIND MY PHONE# AMONGST HIS POSSESSIONS. MY LAST GOOD BYE WAS IN THE VA CEMETERY. HE WAS A DECORATED WAR HERO. MY HUSBAND WAS IN THE HOSPITAL FOR AN ELBOW INFECTION. THE DAY HE WAS SUPPOSED TO COME HOME,THE HOSPITAL AND HIS PHYSICIAN CALLED ME AT 4AM SAYING HE WENT INTO TO THE BATHROOM,AND WHEN RETURNING TO SIT IN A CHAIR,HE UNEXPECTEDLY AND WITHOUT KNOWN CAUSE HAD A MASSIVE CORONARY. MY LAST TIME WAS SPENT WITH HIM THE NIGHT BEFORE WHILE SITTING WITH HIM IN THE HOSPITAL ROOM,DISCUSSING PLANS FOR A VACATION WHEN HE GOT HOME. MY FIANCE' AGE 39 WAS DIAGNOSED WITH A TERMINAL MOTOR PANEL BRAIN TUMOR. WE WERE TO BE MARRIED THE YEAR HE WAS DIAGNOSED. HE DIED AT AGE 41. MY LAST MOMENTS SPENT WITH HIM WERE IN A NURSING FACILITY. HE DIED WHILE I WAS HOLDING ON TO HIM IN HIS BED. MY 33 YEAR OLD GOD SON DIED TRAGICALLY IN A NASCAR RACE IN A FREAK ACCIDENT. MY LAST VISION OF HIM AND GOOD BYE WAS IN THE FUNERAL HOME. MY BEST FRIEND WALKED OUT HIS FRONT DOOR INTO THE YARD,COLLAPSED ON THE LAWN,AND DIED OF A MASSIVE CORONARY. MY LAST VISION OF HIM WAS A COUPLE YEARS AGO. MY LAST CONVERSATION WITH HIM WAS NOT TOO DISTANT FROM THE DAY HE DIED. HIS REQUEST WAS TO BE CREMATED. SO,I COULD NOT EVEN SEE HIM FOR A LAST GOOD BYE. THANK YOU SO MUCH TO MY FRIEND FOR SENDING THIS BEAUTIFUL STORY TO ME. IT SPEAKS THE TRUTH. I HAVE LOST THESE PRECIOUS PEOPLE IN MY LIFE WHO WERE TAKEN FROM ME UNTIMELY AND UNFAIRLY. I HAVE RECURRENT MEMORIES AND REMINDERS OF EACH OF THEM EVERY SINGLE DAY. EVERY SECOND,EVERY BREATH,EVERY HEARTBEAT,IS A SPECIAL OCCASION. NEVER TO BE DISREGARDED OR TAKEN LIGHTLY. I WISH I HAD ALL THOSE SECONDS BACK.


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Posted on Mon, Jul 07, 2008 14:42

I can relate to this one, and if you could see me, you'd know it does. it'll be two years just before this christmas for me..after 30 years. I still find things.


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Posted on Sun, Jul 06, 2008 20:50

I understand all of this too well. My wife of almost 21 years died after a car wreck 9 years ago. She lived 20 hours after the wreck, but never regained consciousness. I learned that we take way too many things for granted in this life. We put things off and we dont tell others how we really feel. I tell my kids almost every time I talk to them that I love them. I now appreciate things more. The beauty of nature as I ride down the highway. The value of friendships. Tim McGraw's song, "Live like you were dying" sums it up well how we should be living. I guess this is where my biggest pet peeve fits in. I cant stand to be ignored. My kids know that if I call them and they dont answer or return my call, I start worrying that something has happened to them. If they are busy they call or text that they will call me later.


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