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Posted on Sat, Mar 15, 2008 22:01

My dad emailed me last night, and told me to go "buy" him a new bagger (His words...not mine). He said he would pay for it if I chose it, had it equipped the way I would want it, and handled all the test rides and service stuff on it. He just wanted to go to the harley shop, and have his new bike sitting out on the curb. His reason was that he has come to believe that this will be his last bike. His health will not allow him to wear out a new bike. Since I am more critical than he is about things, and ride more than he does, he wants me to set it up, and order whatever upgrades I think he should have. I love that my dad has this much faith in me, but it is kind of hard, when I think about his reasoning. I knew this was coming, but I guess I really was not ready to hear it from him. He has also said he wants it for the runs this summer, because he is not sure his health will allow him to hit all the runs next year. Now, In a way I understand. He has steadfastly hung on to the shovel I gave to him years ago, and maybe it was time for a new bike. I even offered to let him have my old evo bagger last year, but I did not expect to hear him say he could not keep riding the old iron. I guess I did not want to admit that my dad was not invincible...


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Eye_m_no_angel
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Posted on Sun, Mar 16, 2008 20:35

DynaThom put it in two words what it would take me several pages to attempt to express, (and still not get it right.) "Enjoy him." Things change, time passes, and none of us, or the one's we love, are forever. The memories we create together will last as long as we do, but only the love is forever. Enjoy all of it, and you will treasure it always.


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Posted on Sun, Mar 16, 2008 19:31

I agree with DynaThom. My dad passed away unexpectedly (as in not ill, just elderly)in August at the age of 87. My parents were a joy to be around (my mom is still alive and we just celebrated her 86th birthday). I would do anything for her.Even though we lived 3 hours apart, my family spent alot of time together and I'm so grateful for that. So, I say whatever makes your dad happy, go for it. It will make you happy also. "Because you just never know when the Good Lord will be callin' ya home". From Wannaride 2001


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Posted on Sun, Mar 16, 2008 15:54

Heretic, I guess we could all write books on how it feels to face that reality, that mom or dad are in fact human and can't fix everything, including themselves. One thing I learned the hard way...really fucking hard way..is people go on their terms...not ours. If I could have made my dad listen and not hasten his death, my mom stop fighting the things that could help her...but they did teach me that it is THEIR life (lives). And they will live it to the end their way. So your dad wants to ride till he can't ride anymore. It can be a beautiful trip for you if you can accept that. Accepting it is so friggen hard though. It is his ride...he (they) just let us tag along. I really hope the two of you can love the ride together.


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Posted on Sun, Mar 16, 2008 09:43

You are Lucky, Man. Thanks for writing this. Enjoy him. DT


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Posted on Sun, Mar 16, 2008 07:17

Go for it Lee. He'll love the bagger...It'll keep him up an going an feeling great. May make him a hell of a lot more invincable. He"s got a good heart.


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Posted on Sun, Mar 16, 2008 07:00

Well Heretic, I for one think its awesome that he would want you to do this for him. Yes its NEVER EVER easy for us to hear this coming from our parents, but he does love you enough to have you make all the choices for him. Babe, better to make 'this kind of decision' for him/helping him in 'this' manner than some other kind of way. He can totally enjoy this last bike that YOU helped him get. I'm sure he'll have some really good, kick ass rides while he still can. To me, that's what you need to keep in mind, he'll be able to have some good rides still while he can!!!! Heretic......just take a deep breath and you'll do an awesome job of it. He'll be so proud!!!! And you can be proud that you were able to help him stay out on the roads for a bit longer and be HAPPY doing it. MANY HUGZ sent your way..... Suzanne/Bran~


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