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Posted on Tue, Aug 21, 2007 18:39

it is a wonderful blog but the guys just don;t respond they ,need to man up and confess or else we will have to use the truth syrum yep it has come down to the wire now...lol


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Posted on Tue, Aug 21, 2007 18:35

Re: Sweetness2008 write: I'm 48--and now suddenly divorced..and in a state of panic about it all,...I like all these biker guys..just the way they are-(bodies). I like to have fun-share time, moments together...but why do they expect us to in perfect physical shape when they are not?? We do our very best, some of us have had kids--but god forbide we might have a few stretch marks to show for it. We as women are so very tolerant and forgiving and "overlooking" when it comes to thier imperfections----yet they all want and expect us "mature" ladies to have a twenty year old's butt and thighs!!! All this exercise I'm been doing is killing me--- HELP! It's not in my DNA to turn into a lesbian but I can understand why some do.

Divorce takes a little healing, its the tearing up of the family album, something you thought you could depend on. Now you have to face a new world with weirdos and liars, but you can do this, many have. Do the exercise/workouts for you, your health, energy, vitality and metabolism, so you have rosy cheeks, lots of energy, supple and flexible joints, stamina, great self-esteem and can handle a days ride on a bike. Then think of yourself as a juicy peach, pear or plum, ripe for the picking, oozing love and excitement, and you'll beat the younger painted dolls anyday. Learn something new, anything, pottery, music, whatever...or something to get you promoted...you'll meet positive people, you'll have energy for sex, you'll be attractive because you're vibrant and alive. You go girl!!


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Posted on Tue, Aug 21, 2007 17:20

Ms. Sweetness, it is best in these situations to take each day as it comes, do what YOU want to do, for your own benefit, not for the sake of someone you may meet someday. Be who you are. If you want to work out, do it at your own pace and intensity. Go easy on yourself, you have healing to do, and it cant be rushed.Allow the rest of life to come to you as it will, a bit at a time. You have nothing to prove, especially to some jerk on a web site, and not even to yourself. You are just fine as you are.


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Posted on Tue, Aug 21, 2007 14:08

Sweetness, That is an interesting point....but I don't think all men feel that way. Yes, I agree that some do....and some expect that from there lady. Give yourself time to heal from the divorce....just be you...and quit killing yourself with the exercise....everything in moderation!! None of us mature ladies can have that 20 year old body anymore...unless we have an unlimited amount of money to spend on plastic surgery. And that does not necessarily mean we will find happiness. We have to be happy with who we are on the inside...we make the best of what we have to work with on the outside....it is what is inside that lasts.


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Posted on Tue, Aug 21, 2007 11:07

Bran....you just apppeared as the #1 reply...somehow you were overlooked....yes, now that the guys have started to reply I think this has turned into a pretty informative discussion....don't know if we got any solid answers....except DD thinks we should all move to CA...lol!!!!


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Posted on Tue, Aug 21, 2007 10:58

I have no problem at all with mature ladies, as long as they've taken care of themselves. Personally I tend to prefer ladies that have more of an hourglass than a pear shape, and I'm more likely to respond to upbeat, intelligent ladies that enjoy life more than I am to those who are all about the drama.


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Posted on Tue, Aug 21, 2007 08:43

CW, you have been alone way too long sugar! lol


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Posted on Tue, Aug 21, 2007 05:41

Hi Kevin I peeked too ..Your look like a great guy and I would be interested if I werent in a relationship ..and I cant email as Im not a gold memeber..sher


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Posted on Tue, Aug 21, 2007 05:22

I think this brings up another important point.....images...we all get images in our head of the "perfect" person for us....height, weight, age, hair color,etc.....do we sometimes dismiss a wonderful person because they don't fit our "picture"?


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Posted on Tue, Aug 21, 2007 05:16

Re: kevzss write: Hi,You girls proved my point.3 of you checked out my profle and not 1 e/mail or wink.I'am I to young(lol) or to far away.Keven

Guilty and like Teach said your range is low and I'm 5ft 10.


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Posted on Tue, Aug 21, 2007 04:22

Man...either you are very late night owls or even earlier early birds than I am...lol! So much to discuss....so little time!! Longbeard ...you talked about women being needy, controlling, set in their ways....that can happen with a woman or a man at any age. Personally the women I know are less needy in their mature years....they have a confidence and wisdom that can't be bought...it comes with time and life. T....I think g/f you hit the nail on the head....many men want that firm, lithe body on their arms and in their beds(just got that bomb dropped on me awhile back). It seems to be the perception that many of us have anyway. Deep...I'm impressed...no smartass comment...lol! I agree with you on the comfort level of who we spend our time with....we aren't wanting a boy toy....we would be very happy with a 10 year spread either way....but check out most men's profiles....it's ok we women do it all the time with each other...lol!!! and check their age ranges....you might understand better....almost all and I am not exaggerrating...want younger....even if they are 56....they will put younger than that...they want the women in their lives younger. Kevin...not going to use an email to someone who thinks I am way outside their age range...and CW , from one Ohioan to another...this isn't about stirring things up or drama....this was a place for the men to give us some answers...and I am outside your age range more than Teach!!! This is great guys and gals....you have been thoughtful.....basically watched your P's and Q's ...and given us some wonderful insights. NOW...what is the solution?????


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Posted on Tue, Aug 21, 2007 02:58

Kevin, two reason for no response from me: 1. you say you want someone 30-45 and that isn't who I am by a long shot, and 2. you list your height of 4' 6" and that is too short for me. Sorry. But thanks for asking.


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Posted on Tue, Aug 21, 2007 02:54

Hey CW unfortunately, "mature" women are outside your age range. Too bad, we don't do drama and we like to enjoy life. We are closer to what you are looking for, except for the limits you put on age. Sorry bout your bad luck. lol One of us is in Ohio and one in Michigan, see even the distance isn't bad. Have a great day, we will!


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Posted on Tue, Aug 21, 2007 01:27

Hey there Longbeard, you must be new in these parts of the woods. Thanks for your comments. You have some good point about being needy and controling. But how you gonna know those things if you don't get to know us? Also, if those are the issues, then just say so because obviously we need to hear them to change them. I know for a fact that the "mature" women on this site are not "needy" and can take care of themselves(that's another blog about independent women lol) but I'm sure you mean how we come across. Thanks Sher you are a sweetie. Pam thanks for the support, it's always nice to have a backup. Come on Sunset, get your lazy ass up and answer these people. It's a new day and we got work to do.


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Posted on Mon, Aug 20, 2007 22:27

I gave some consideration to the question of mature women, and why a man would or would not wish to date one. Being mid 50's pretty much any woman I might date will be "mature" ,and this is what I feel about it. My main concern is will a woman be needy. Always needing some demonstration of committment, or interest, or desirablity. (I know these are general in nature, but I dont have alot of room to write this.) second, will the woman be controlling. Some people will try to control their partner for any number of reasons, most based in fear, they perceive in the actions of the other some thing that causes them to be fearful, and instead of dealing with their own issues of fear, they will attempt to control the other person so they will feel better. but some feel its their right to do so. (Princess syndrome) Next would be the I want someone to rescue me, from whatever "Dragon" is present in their lives, this is a problem when people cannot take control of their own responsibilities,/life, and look for a savior to do it for them. This person has no life to share, and is mostly taking from the relationship. And often wonders why relationships do not last. (see needy above. ) It was mentioned by someone here, that often both genders will become set in their ways, and not be able to make the compromises that a relationship would require. that is true, to a point, it is an aquired skill, and both sides should be patient while it develops. All of these problems can come from either gender, in some cases from both at the same time. So please do not think I'm being hard on women. Beyond the forgoing, I find mature women to be great company. Having lots of stories to tell, (I do listen) and usually no small number of significant accomplishments in their lives. Its okay if they ride a bigger bike than I do, or earn more money. (no big trick, I'm retired) I also don't mind if I'm a better cook, stove or grill. Well, thats all the room I hav...


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Posted on Mon, Aug 20, 2007 21:40

Ladies You are all beautiful and wonderful.. It just takes a long time and many trails and errors to find that special man.. Evan the younger generation is dealing with rejection at times.. My Grandfather met his soul mate at 60years old and her comment at 90 was she had the best 30 years of her life after meeting my grandfather.. Please after knowing Terri I know the beauty with in and I have the faith that she too will find her soul mate if she hasn't all ready ... Be choosy it's all worth the wait .. And in the mean time lets all hookup and enjoy our friendships..

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Posted on Mon, Aug 20, 2007 21:28

Wow! Thats some opinion Hoss! I completely disagree! I think that women over 50 and 60 are unbelievably sexy! Things are different these days. Heck, women are having babies in their 60's Hoss. A couple of weeks ago a woman made news when she had her first child at 62! Now how many men do you know that could push a baby out of their urethral opening at that age, or at any age for that matter? Get a grip man, things are different these days. I think that older women are extremely sexy. When my mom who is 64 walks out of the house to play bridge, do lunch with friends or whatever, she looks dy-no-myte!! And so do her friends! Everthing that they bring to any table is simply delicious! Yes, I do believe in giving the "kids" a chance. Its their time to shine now, but they dont have any shimmer unless they have the reflection of a seasoned grape to sugar their minds. An older woman is a terrible thing to waste. so eat your dessert buddy. theres nothing like a ripe old fruit! Pam


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Posted on Mon, Aug 20, 2007 21:08

Well, I don't know, maybe I am being too harsh and generalizing here and if so forgive me but I still think so many men want the young firm body. Yes, we mature women are loads of fun, we are experienced, intelligent, charming, witty and still have a zest for life but maybe we are not as firm as we once were. Yeah, I would like the body (mine, not his) I had at 25 but I can't have it back. But I think we good women still have the heart and souls that we had then. The love, the desire, the fortitude that goes with loving through good and bad. Again, I know I generalized, I do not mean all men.


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Posted on Mon, Aug 20, 2007 21:03

I can relate to what you are saying too.I wonder, but then I think, Oh heck who cares. Then I call up a girlfriend, have her come over and we have play time before we go out to lunch. We do each others make-up, share new make-up tips. Then we do a mini fashion show for each other showing our most recent buys, asking what looks better with what. Then we fix each others hair, get dressed up in our little outfits (always trying to out shine the other) and we go off to shop a little and then do lunch! Now could you find a man to do all of that? Doubtful, at least not in this town. So, count your blessings. Go ahead and call one of your best girl friends up have her come by, and have some fun! Who knows, you might even meet a decent "worth your time" kinda guy on the way to your final destination. Hey, thats a good one. Final destination. You never know, thats exactly what he may well be. Pam


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Posted on Mon, Aug 20, 2007 21:00

You are right Deep and I speak for the "mature" here. However, when you say stay in your own age range, those men seem to be more interested in younger. You have a good age range in your profile, but dang, Texas is a long way. lol We do appreciate your comments as always.


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