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Posted on Thu, May 18, 2006 07:06

ok......please help me and tell me how to cope with this. I have been seeing this guy for a year now. I do love him and I'm pretty sure he loves me. The problem is he is never around. We talk on the phone a half dozens times a day. He lives about 30 mins away. Between my kids and his son plus all the work he has going on around his house we never seem to be able to make time to be together. This really hurts me. I feel more alone now then before we met. Do I give up this relationship up (which will still hurt)or do I stick it out and hope that we can be together someday soon.


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Posted on Tue, Jun 13, 2006 11:19

There are so many SMART people posting their replies to your problem. Listen to the majority who are saying "DROP HIM". Just like at least two people have said to you, if a man truly loves a woman and she is important to him, he WILL find and make time to be with her, and I don't mean just when it's convenient for him. Let me ask you this. Would YOU let anything stop YOU from seeing someone you really loved? Answer that question honestly and you have your answer. It never feels good to let go of love, but you have to protect your heart first and foremost. I wish you the best.


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Posted on Mon, Jun 12, 2006 17:08

purple, what did you decide to do? Don't keep everyone insuspence! I figured its been almost amoth since you put your original blog out here, not pushy just curious.


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Posted on Fri, Jun 09, 2006 05:15

Girl...If you feel more alone now then before you guys met...I think it's time to move on...Life is good the rest is details...(What we do with our lifes)


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Posted on Fri, Jun 09, 2006 01:51

He's probably married. Dump him as soon as possible. Don't get involved with a married man no matter how much he talks about "possibilities" ... Good luck, girl!


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Posted on Thu, Jun 08, 2006 14:20

I just got out of the same kind of relationship. it was all phone, during the week, and spending time with him on the weekend, he never mentioned seeing him during the week,HUMMM could it be maybe he was seeing someone else during the week, and me on the weekends???and he talked to me on the phone everyday, and maybe feel like I was the only one., good way to keep me hanging on, he wanted his cake, and to eat it to.


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Posted on Thu, May 25, 2006 12:59

Have you told how you feel about what is happening. Talk to him and let him know.


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Posted on Wed, May 24, 2006 12:40

Harley44........My heart is with you hon, I just don't get it. Thank you for your commments....It's so unbelieveable how many guys do this. It's because they are not men, they are still boys and they are using us as toys, til they get bored and find another toy.......a vicious circle!! But in the meantime good honest women like us do get hurt. Take care and good luck to you!!


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Posted on Wed, May 24, 2006 12:22

I would like to say that I am with everyone else on this matter.I'm glad I read this today cause I just went thru what you did..Although it had only been 5 months,,we only saw each other 4 times during that 5 months but talked on the phone every night.I thought maybe it would get more serious but It just got more distant.The more I cared ,,the less he did.Never got any kind of warning that the last time I talked to him was going to be the last time.He just stopped calling and was too much of a coward to tell me something.Give me some kind of explanation what happened.I don't understand why he would call me every night and always say sweet dreams if he had no intention of ever having some kind of a relationship.I told him a few times before,if you have something to tell me,,TELL ME!! Don't keep me hanging on to something thats never gonna be.I don't like liars or players,,And I don't like being used til something better comes along. Cause MORE and LIKELY it wasn't worth it.. Men now a days pass up all us good women..So My advice to you is DUMP HIM!!!,,the only one thats going to be hurt is you and he probaly isn't worth it..


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Posted on Wed, May 24, 2006 07:50

Well, I guess I got my answer. He has decided not to call me because he is upset that my ex is now showing up at my daughter's ball games. So, I must of assumed there was more of a relationship than I thought. Now the hurt is going to set in and I can't take off and go riding. I've always been a passenger. I need to get me a license and a bike so I can go off on my own. Again, I want to thank you all for your comments, it really helped me out a lot. Love and Happiness to all of you and be safe!!


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Posted on Mon, May 22, 2006 16:15

Purple, please don't hate me for this, but he's probably married. Any guy that can't see the one he says he loves is because he can't get away from the house. Perhaps you should drop in on him some time.


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Posted on Sun, May 21, 2006 06:05

Never give up.


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Posted on Sun, May 21, 2006 05:58

Hon I just had to write here. I am alone because I will not settle. And I mean settle for less than you deserve and want. First you need to figure out what YOU want then stop settling for less. I am alone in life for now but I am much happier and so is everyone around me. I always settled for less and I was unhappy. Do not settle for less than you deserve. Nancy


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Posted on Sun, May 21, 2006 04:44

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Posted on Sat, May 20, 2006 19:49

Purpleroze,hey listen,if you guys have been at this a year,it's like you are saying it's okay.It is not.So you guys need to pick a day aweek to be together no matter what.if it can't be done then walk away,that's the reality of it.


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Posted on Sat, May 20, 2006 12:35

That's something you need to take a long hard look @. Is he the right one for u? As for a long distance relationship all the guys I work with are married or engaged & we work 2 weeks straight of 12 hrs. shifts & then 1 week off. I wish I was only a 1/2 hr. from someone I love. That would be just to sweet. It all boils down to what you & him have to sacrifice for either the quality or quantity time? Things will improve with time & work. Best of luck.


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Posted on Fri, May 19, 2006 23:15

The two of you must sit down and discuss your dilemma. Try to work things out first. If you do not succeed, then you should find another alternative to being happy. You only live once and why be unhappy?


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Posted on Fri, May 19, 2006 21:19

kind of sounds like you need to be honest with yourself here... if you have been together for a year and don't know whether or not he loves you... then he doesn't. if you have been seeing each other for a year and you only live 30 mins (which is shorter than my drive to work) and can't make time... then he doen't want to make time. i know i am being pretty abrupt but sometimes honesty sucks. good luck.


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Posted on Fri, May 19, 2006 21:16

Sorry to say you are not a priority in this guys life. We are all busy with 'stuff' we think is more important. Does he know how much this is hurting you? Have you told him? Has he made any promises to make it up to you once "all the work he has going on around his house" is done. Is it ever going to get done? 30 min away and you can't meet him half-way just to share each others company? I don't know, but they way you describe it, yes it may "still hurt". Hope I'm wrong. Let him know how you feel and listen to your heart when he tells you what is important to him. Good luck, and I mean that.


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Posted on Fri, May 19, 2006 19:41

You konw, it's not someone else that makes you happy --- it's you knowing what's revvin' yer motor, then standing up for you want. If somebody cares, they'll help you get what you want if they can - otherwise... well, you know then. And you can't make anybody care...


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