I know I normally post my usual bikerisms in here, but I have something on my mind that I have to get out by typing an off-the-wall blog. This is my own opinion, but I think love really sucks!! It does for me anyway. I think it's great when my friends find someone that makes them happy, but I've found it's not for me. Oh well. Shit happens I guess. I don't mean to make this sound like a "poor me" thing. Like I said this is my opinion. I guess I just needed to get that thought out of my head before blood started oozing out of my eye sockets and ears. Also, I suppose I'm just curious if anyone else feels the same way? Oh well. Have a lovely day and bring on Spring!!!
I know I normally post my usual bikerisms in here, but I have something on my mind that I have to get out by typing an off-the-wall blog. This is my own opinion, but I think love really sucks!! It does for me anyway. I think it's great when my friends find someone that makes them happy, but I've found it's not for me. Oh well. Shit happens I guess. I don't mean to make this sound like a "poor me" thing. Like I said this is my opinion. I guess I just needed to get that thought out of my head before blood started oozing out of my eye sockets and ears. Also, I suppose I'm just curious if anyone else feels the same way? Oh well. Have a lovely day and bring on Spring!!!
LOL. Yep Red, it was like any other day for me. lol. Nothing says love'n like giving a diabetic chocolates. I agree, nothing is wrong with making new friends. I know I have met some cool people thru here.
Quoting: Originally posted by redlilly Lonewolf: I am not going to ask how your Valentines was.?? lol??? Mine kinda sucked,? I am diabetic and I got a heart shaped box of chocolates. Go figure,? he must be trying to kill me...lol Reds See having someone doesn't always mean everything is great.?? Just having friends is okay!!? In my fantacy, it's that way.....you are lucky.
Quoting redlilly:
Lonewolf: I am not going to ask how your Valentines was.?? lol??? Mine kinda sucked,? I am diabetic and I got a heart shaped box of chocolates. Go figure,? he must be trying to kill me...lol Reds See having someone doesn't always mean everything is great.?? Just having friends is okay!!? In my fantacy, it's that way.....you are lucky.
LOL. Yep Red, it was like any other day for me. lol. Nothing says love'n like giving a diabetic chocolates. I agree, nothing is wrong with making new friends. I know I have met some cool people thru here.
you know....you can find love on sites like this...but its not easy...else there wouldnt be sites like this. anywhere you find love it wont be easy...you will always have to put forth an effort. and ¿there are going to be mistakes made, from both sides. just hope you can learn from them. but if youre like me, youre a slow learner. but the benifits are great. a good woman and¿the love¿she has to offer. but on this site especially and others distance may also be a problem. are you or she,willing¿to move? from a good job? home? family and friends? a life you have built..¿to go somewhere else? that may be what some of the ladies be thinking.¿ just remember....after the ride...you still have to go home, will you have anything to talk about?¿ lol¿ ¿ IWALUB........;p
you know....you can find love on sites like this...but its not easy...else there wouldnt be sites like this. anywhere you find love it wont be easy...you will always have to put forth an effort. and ¿there are going to be mistakes made, from both sides. just hope you can learn from them. but if youre like me, youre a slow learner. but the benifits are great. a good woman and¿the love¿she has to offer. but on this site especially and others distance may also be a problem. are you or she,willing¿to move? from a good job? home? family and friends? a life you have built..¿to go somewhere else? that may be what some of the ladies be thinking.¿ just remember....after the ride...you still have to go home, will you have anything to talk about?¿ lol¿ ¿ IWALUB........;p
Lonewolf: I am not going to ask how your Valentines was.¿¿ lol¿¿¿ Mine kinda sucked,¿ I am diabetic and I got a heart shaped box of chocolates. Go figure,¿ he must be trying to kill me...lol Reds See having someone doesn't always mean everything is great.¿¿ Just having friends is okay!!¿ In my fantacy, it's that way.....you are lucky.
Lonewolf: I am not going to ask how your Valentines was.¿¿ lol¿¿¿ Mine kinda sucked,¿ I am diabetic and I got a heart shaped box of chocolates. Go figure,¿ he must be trying to kill me...lol Reds See having someone doesn't always mean everything is great.¿¿ Just having friends is okay!!¿ In my fantacy, it's that way.....you are lucky.
LOL. The one on my shoulders. You crack me up girl. ;)
Quoting: Originally posted by redlilly No problem!?? Just don't jump into anything, that you will regret later.?? Life is to short to be unhappy.? Follow your head not your heart.? And I do mean the one on your shoulders..lol
Quoting redlilly:
No problem!?? Just don't jump into anything, that you will regret later.?? Life is to short to be unhappy.? Follow your head not your heart.? And I do mean the one on your shoulders..lol
LOL. The one on my shoulders. You crack me up girl. ;)
No problem!¿¿ Just don't jump into anything, that you will regret later.¿¿ Life is to short to be unhappy.¿ Follow your head not your heart.¿ And I do mean the one on your shoulders..lol
No problem!¿¿ Just don't jump into anything, that you will regret later.¿¿ Life is to short to be unhappy.¿ Follow your head not your heart.¿ And I do mean the one on your shoulders..lol
I know what you are saying. It makes sense. There are more than one option out there for what you could want, but don't know which direction to go. I'm I right or am I left??? lol
Quoting: Originally posted by maneater Just looked at your profile....you are young yet....hell I did'nt know what I wanted...till he slapped me upside the head when I least expected it!! I knew what I did not want...but not what I wanted....does that make sense?
Quoting maneater:
Just looked at your profile....you are young yet....hell I did'nt know what I wanted...till he slapped me upside the head when I least expected it!! I knew what I did not want...but not what I wanted....does that make sense?
I know what you are saying. It makes sense. There are more than one option out there for what you could want, but don't know which direction to go. I'm I right or am I left??? lol
Hey there red. I'm really looking for nothing but friends. Not friends with benefits, just friends. I don't want to be introduced to anyone for the possibility of any sparks flying. I know one woman that would have no problems with having something with me, but it's something I no longer want. I do appreciate your suggestions. I don't mean to sound like a bitter a-hole or anything.
Quoting: Originally posted by redlilly Okay then what are you really looking for.? You know you can find love in the most unusual places.?? Do you have any friends that can introduce you to someone??? How about the cashier at a store that you go to all the time.? Or maybe, someone who thought is just a friend.?? Someone might have an eye on you and because they are shy or get tonge tied when your around, they can't let you know they like you.?? I don't know just suggestions.
Quoting redlilly:
Okay then what are you really looking for.? You know you can find love in the most unusual places.?? Do you have any friends that can introduce you to someone??? How about the cashier at a store that you go to all the time.? Or maybe, someone who thought is just a friend.?? Someone might have an eye on you and because they are shy or get tonge tied when your around, they can't let you know they like you.?? I don't know just suggestions.
Hey there red. I'm really looking for nothing but friends. Not friends with benefits, just friends. I don't want to be introduced to anyone for the possibility of any sparks flying. I know one woman that would have no problems with having something with me, but it's something I no longer want. I do appreciate your suggestions. I don't mean to sound like a bitter a-hole or anything.
Just looked at your profile....you are young yet....hell I did'nt know what I wanted...till he slapped me upside the head when I least expected it!! I knew what I did not want...but not what I wanted....does that make sense?
Just looked at your profile....you are young yet....hell I did'nt know what I wanted...till he slapped me upside the head when I least expected it!! I knew what I did not want...but not what I wanted....does that make sense?
Okay then what are you really looking for.¿ You know you can find love in the most unusual places.¿¿ Do you have any friends that can introduce you to someone?¿¿ How about the cashier at a store that you go to all the time.¿ Or maybe, someone who thought is just a friend.¿¿ Someone might have an eye on you and because they are shy or get tonge tied when your around, they can't let you know they like you.¿¿ I don't know just suggestions.
Okay then what are you really looking for.¿ You know you can find love in the most unusual places.¿¿ Do you have any friends that can introduce you to someone?¿¿ How about the cashier at a store that you go to all the time.¿ Or maybe, someone who thought is just a friend.¿¿ Someone might have an eye on you and because they are shy or get tonge tied when your around, they can't let you know they like you.¿¿ I don't know just suggestions.
I don't think I'm being to picky. I once had on my profile that I was looking for a relationship, but after the last woman I had serious feelings for and didn't get them back, I had enough and gave up. I never tried hurting anybody. I'm the one that gets hurt all the time, everytime. I decided enough was enough and took off the relationship portion from my profile.
Quoting: Originally posted by redlilly Allright, I went back and read your profile and in the section where you put what you are looking for.?? You said you weren't look for a relationship.?? Do you think maybe you are setting your self up for disappointment?? Are we being to picky and not letting go and see where the cards fall.? It's out there,? I think sometimes we sell our selves short by not seeing the whole picture book and just looking at the cover.?? Some of us think that we are not worthy of Love.? So, we hurt first , before we are the one being hurt.? But who am I to lecture,? I have been with someone for 12 years and I he loves me more than I love him.? I can't? wait sometimes for him to go to work just so I don't have to deal with him.? I know I am staying just for the kid.? And thats wrong.? You just do what you gotta do.
Quoting redlilly:
Allright, I went back and read your profile and in the section where you put what you are looking for.?? You said you weren't look for a relationship.?? Do you think maybe you are setting your self up for disappointment?? Are we being to picky and not letting go and see where the cards fall.? It's out there,? I think sometimes we sell our selves short by not seeing the whole picture book and just looking at the cover.?? Some of us think that we are not worthy of Love.? So, we hurt first , before we are the one being hurt.? But who am I to lecture,? I have been with someone for 12 years and I he loves me more than I love him.? I can't? wait sometimes for him to go to work just so I don't have to deal with him.? I know I am staying just for the kid.? And thats wrong.? You just do what you gotta do.
I don't think I'm being to picky. I once had on my profile that I was looking for a relationship, but after the last woman I had serious feelings for and didn't get them back, I had enough and gave up. I never tried hurting anybody. I'm the one that gets hurt all the time, everytime. I decided enough was enough and took off the relationship portion from my profile.
Allright, I went back and read your profile and in the section where you put what you are looking for.¿¿ You said you weren't look for a relationship.¿¿ Do you think maybe you are setting your self up for disappointment?¿ Are we being to picky and not letting go and see where the cards fall.¿ It's out there,¿ I think sometimes we sell our selves short by not seeing the whole picture book and just looking at the cover.¿¿ Some of us think that we are not worthy of Love.¿ So, we hurt first , before we are the one being hurt.¿ But who am I to lecture,¿ I have been with someone for 12 years and I he loves me more than I love him.¿ I can't¿ wait sometimes for him to go to work just so I don't have to deal with him.¿ I know I am staying just for the kid.¿ And thats wrong.¿ You just do what you gotta do.
Allright, I went back and read your profile and in the section where you put what you are looking for.¿¿ You said you weren't look for a relationship.¿¿ Do you think maybe you are setting your self up for disappointment?¿ Are we being to picky and not letting go and see where the cards fall.¿ It's out there,¿ I think sometimes we sell our selves short by not seeing the whole picture book and just looking at the cover.¿¿ Some of us think that we are not worthy of Love.¿ So, we hurt first , before we are the one being hurt.¿ But who am I to lecture,¿ I have been with someone for 12 years and I he loves me more than I love him.¿ I can't¿ wait sometimes for him to go to work just so I don't have to deal with him.¿ I know I am staying just for the kid.¿ And thats wrong.¿ You just do what you gotta do.
I need to open this with stating that I'm a bit of a pragmatist and what works for me doesn't necessarily translate well for others.
I peruse sites like Bikerkiss even though I am in a very happy and gratifying relationship for two reasons: 1) seeking other riders in my area with whom I might be able to twist a grip on the rare occasion I can put work on the back burner and 2) I am curious to know what is out there on both sides of the equation and how I stack up.
So, when I see blogs of this nature my knee-jerk reaction is "I'm in a pretty good spot as the competition goes". Now before everyone goes off on me for being an arrogant prick (which I willing confess to) please consider the following.
For me dating is no different than buying a motorcycle (how's that for romance this close to Valentine's Day), going hunting/fishing or looking for a job. I start with a simple question "what do I want?"
Now I get that this sounds just a bit Machiavellian and Narcissistic but hear me out. If a person doesn't know what will make them happy then how can they possibly expect to find happiness? Once I've identified what will make me happy then I want to know what would make the theoretical object of my happiness happy? (Are we having fun yet?)
For example, were I to find myself on the market again I know what I am interested in relative to age range, appearance, attitude and lifestyle. However, that is only half the equation as I also need to take stock of myself and ask "do I believe I represent what the type of person I desire would be looking for in another?"
That's a tough question to ask and, if we're totally honest with ourselves, we're probably not going to like the answer. There are numerous women on here I find attractive and they seem very intelligent but I would never enter into a serious relationship with because they're cigarette smokers. Shallow I know but it's a lifestyle choice for us both and I choose not to have it as part of my life.
I have a very good friend who is an avid hunter and fisherman. Every spare moment he is not working or riding he is out hunting and/or fishing. However, when we have beers he wants to lament he has not been able to find anyone. When I suggest the women he is interested in have no interest in his activities and maybe he should broaden his activities to include some that might be of interest to a woman of the calibre he seeks (travel, scuba, skiing, theater, etc.) his response is "Screw-em! If they don't want to take me as I am they can kiss my ass!"
So, in short I would say to you and others who chance upon this blog, know what you want, know what the type of person you are looking for wants and work toward that end. Life is short to begin with but at this stage of the game it's moving at light speed. Get out there, try new experiences and put yourself in a position to get what you want. If nothing else, when the final curtain is drawn, you can look back and say "Man, I fully LIVED the life I was given" with as few "what if's" as possible.
I need to open this with stating that I'm a bit of a pragmatist and what works for me doesn't necessarily translate well for others.
I peruse sites like Bikerkiss even though I am in a very happy and gratifying relationship for two reasons: 1) seeking other riders in my area with whom I might be able to twist a grip on the rare occasion I can put work on the back burner and 2) I am curious to know what is out there on both sides of the equation and how I stack up.
So, when I see blogs of this nature my knee-jerk reaction is "I'm in a pretty good spot as the competition goes". Now before everyone goes off on me for being an arrogant prick (which I willing confess to) please consider the following.
For me dating is no different than buying a motorcycle (how's that for romance this close to Valentine's Day), going hunting/fishing or looking for a job. I start with a simple question "what do I want?"
Now I get that this sounds just a bit Machiavellian and Narcissistic but hear me out. If a person doesn't know what will make them happy then how can they possibly expect to find happiness? Once I've identified what will make me happy then I want to know what would make the theoretical object of my happiness happy? (Are we having fun yet?)
For example, were I to find myself on the market again I know what I am interested in relative to age range, appearance, attitude and lifestyle. However, that is only half the equation as I also need to take stock of myself and ask "do I believe I represent what the type of person I desire would be looking for in another?"
That's a tough question to ask and, if we're totally honest with ourselves, we're probably not going to like the answer. There are numerous women on here I find attractive and they seem very intelligent but I would never enter into a serious relationship with because they're cigarette smokers. Shallow I know but it's a lifestyle choice for us both and I choose not to have it as part of my life.
I have a very good friend who is an avid hunter and fisherman. Every spare moment he is not working or riding he is out hunting and/or fishing. However, when we have beers he wants to lament he has not been able to find anyone. When I suggest the women he is interested in have no interest in his activities and maybe he should broaden his activities to include some that might be of interest to a woman of the calibre he seeks (travel, scuba, skiing, theater, etc.) his response is "Screw-em! If they don't want to take me as I am they can kiss my ass!"
So, in short I would say to you and others who chance upon this blog, know what you want, know what the type of person you are looking for wants and work toward that end. Life is short to begin with but at this stage of the game it's moving at light speed. Get out there, try new experiences and put yourself in a position to get what you want. If nothing else, when the final curtain is drawn, you can look back and say "Man, I fully LIVED the life I was given" with as few "what if's" as possible.
You made me think of one of my favorite authors, the Late Lewis Grizzard, author of such titles as: Kathy Sue Loudermilk, I love You Won't You Come Home Billy Bob Bailey? An assortment of Home-Cooked Journalism for People Who Wonder Why Clean Underwear Doesn't Grow on Trees Don't Sit Under the Grits Tree With Anyone Else But Me If Love Were Oil I'd Be About A Quart Low Elvis is Dead and I Don't Feel So Good Myself Shoot Low Boys - They're Riding Shetland Ponies Don't Bend Over In The Garden, Granny; You Know Them Taters Got Eyes They Tore Out My Heart and Stomped That Sucker Flat DT
Quoting: Originally posted by LONEWOLF1 Hey there red. I'm just done with putting my heart out there and having it crushed every single time is all. That's what I was meaning. It's gotten really old. lol
Quoting LONEWOLF1:
Hey there red. I'm just done with putting my heart out there and having it crushed every single time is all. That's what I was meaning. It's gotten really old. lol
You made me think of one of my favorite authors, the Late Lewis Grizzard, author of such titles as: Kathy Sue Loudermilk, I love You Won't You Come Home Billy Bob Bailey? An assortment of Home-Cooked Journalism for People Who Wonder Why Clean Underwear Doesn't Grow on Trees Don't Sit Under the Grits Tree With Anyone Else But Me If Love Were Oil I'd Be About A Quart Low Elvis is Dead and I Don't Feel So Good Myself Shoot Low Boys - They're Riding Shetland Ponies Don't Bend Over In The Garden, Granny; You Know Them Taters Got Eyes They Tore Out My Heart and Stomped That Sucker Flat DT
Hey there red. I'm just done with putting my heart out there and having it crushed every single time is all. That's what I was meaning. It's gotten really old. lol
Quoting: Originally posted by redlilly Okay, I hear you.¿ You really didn't say why it sucks for you.¿¿ Is it because you can't find someone to love or do you just want to have a casual thing and all you seem to meet are women who want a relationship.¿¿ I know that at this stage in my life , I like being with someone on a regular basis, but I really don't want them around all the time.¿ I have been asked to get married several times and I keep saying NO.¿ Been there done that, not doing it again.¿ I don't know!¿ I guess we all see things differently and we want things to go differently. I guess to each his own.
Quoting redlilly:
Okay, I hear you.¿ You really didn't say why it sucks for you.¿¿ Is it because you can't find someone to love or do you just want to have a casual thing and all you seem to meet are women who want a relationship.¿¿ I know that at this stage in my life , I like being with someone on a regular basis, but I really don't want them around all the time.¿ I have been asked to get married several times and I keep saying NO.¿ Been there done that, not doing it again.¿ I don't know!¿ I guess we all see things differently and we want things to go differently. I guess to each his own.
Hey there red. I'm just done with putting my heart out there and having it crushed every single time is all. That's what I was meaning. It's gotten really old. lol
Okay, I hear you.¿ You really didn't say why it sucks for you.¿¿ Is it because you can't find someone to love or do you just want to have a casual thing and all you seem to meet are women who want a relationship.¿¿ I know that at this stage in my life , I like being with someone on a regular basis, but I really don't want them around all the time.¿ I have been asked to get married several times and I keep saying NO.¿ Been there done that, not doing it again.¿ I don't know!¿ I guess we all see things differently and we want things to go differently. I guess to each his own.
Okay, I hear you.¿ You really didn't say why it sucks for you.¿¿ Is it because you can't find someone to love or do you just want to have a casual thing and all you seem to meet are women who want a relationship.¿¿ I know that at this stage in my life , I like being with someone on a regular basis, but I really don't want them around all the time.¿ I have been asked to get married several times and I keep saying NO.¿ Been there done that, not doing it again.¿ I don't know!¿ I guess we all see things differently and we want things to go differently. I guess to each his own.
There is someone special. Just not always in the place you are looking. Maybe sharing other bits of you will let people see the guy beneath. Maybe artistic creative caring side.
No answers. If I try and make it happen it doesn't or doesn't quite work. "Going through the motions." If I don't look or try something can happen just naturally.
Often someone is looking at you but becaus they are not the greatest outgoing person you may never know.
I know mtself that when I really fancy someone I become tongue tied and behave like an adolescent jerk instead of the swauve sophisticated woman that I am. OK - or smart mouthed, arrogant, intectual sarcastic cow.
There is someone out there. Just have to cast up a prayer to heaven to let you know who it is and keep you from the non genuine ones.
Not easy being a guy. Especially if relationships and conversation skills are more scary than facing Hurricane Katina and you would find it easier to put a bike togethr from scratch in the dark with no manual and no tools.
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There is someone special. Just not always in the place you are looking. Maybe sharing other bits of you will let people see the guy beneath. Maybe artistic creative caring side.
No answers. If I try and make it happen it doesn't or doesn't quite work. "Going through the motions." If I don't look or try something can happen just naturally.
Often someone is looking at you but becaus they are not the greatest outgoing person you may never know.
I know mtself that when I really fancy someone I become tongue tied and behave like an adolescent jerk instead of the swauve sophisticated woman that I am. OK - or smart mouthed, arrogant, intectual sarcastic cow.
There is someone out there. Just have to cast up a prayer to heaven to let you know who it is and keep you from the non genuine ones.
Not easy being a guy. Especially if relationships and conversation skills are more scary than facing Hurricane Katina and you would find it easier to put a bike togethr from scratch in the dark with no manual and no tools.
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